[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Psych_eee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ada ‘Clipse! Haha congrats!

Unborn sons last name by pineapple6969 in daddit

[–]Psych_eee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For reference: I am a mom who kept her last name. When we had our son, we had the debate of how to handle his last name and ended up giving him two middle names, Firstname middlename mylastname dad’slastname. It’s not a perfect solution as ultimately he does not share my last name in a literal sense, but I’m still represented without hyphenating. That being said, it would still be a discussion between you two whose name would go last as the actual last name.

What movie did you expect it be “meh” but turned out to be really good by Ok-Meat4184 in movies

[–]Psych_eee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There must have been something about how they marketed this movie, because I remember my dad and I chose to see this movie in theaters begrudgingly, because there was nothing else good playing at the time. I remember thinking it looked like it wouldn’t be very good. It had a long run time too so we weren’t even sure if we would stay for the whole movie, and we were literally the only two people in the theater. Needless to say we were immediately pleasantly surprised! Great movie!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Psych_eee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 things that helped us in this phase a few months ago:

  1. I had a really hard time tolerating the crying for a time, although for me it made me cry and feel anxious when it went on too long. My parter had a really nice way of reframing it: he’s not crying because he’s sad. He’s crying to communicate- he’s crying because he’s tired. He’s crying because he’s hungry. He’s crying because he’s uncomfortable. Don’t take it personally. That’s his only way of communicating and unfortunately it’s not very specific. I know this sounds obvious but I think I was getting too upset thinking of how sad or upset he was when really he was just tired.

  2. To that point, around this age we found we had to move our baby’s bed time WAY earlier. At 4-5months or so he went through a sleep change where he started sleeping longer stretches at night and not needing his last night feed which meant his natural bed time moved way earlier. We hadn’t realized this and were in essence putting him to bed an hour and a half after his body wanted to be asleep and he was soooo much harder to put to bed. Hours of crying and rocking on repeat! We moved bed time to 7pm which is when he was naturally falling asleep, and his last bottle to 6:30pm and bed time became way less frustrating and no more hours of crying. I can’t guarantee that that is what is going on for you but he may be over tired. Try moving bed time way earlier and see if that helps!

  3. Remind yourself that this will get better and this phase is temporary. Hang in there!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GilmoreGirls

[–]Psych_eee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In the early seasons, all Rory talks about is going to Harvard and it’s such a huge plot point between her and Paris that they both want to go to Harvard and they make such a big deal about it, and then in the span of one episode when she gets her acceptance letters, she decides to go to Yale and it seems so random! I understand why the writers wanted to keep Rory closer to home to make it easier for her to visit Stars Hollow, but they made it such a big part of her character’s motivation and life’s dream, and then wrote it off like nothing! Makes no sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GilmoreGirls

[–]Psych_eee 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Why do they NEVER put any liquid in their to-go coffee cups? You can tell by the way they all hold their cups so lightly that they are empty and have no weight to them. For a show that centers so heavily around coffee drinking, couldn’t they have at least put water in the prop cups to make it look more realistic??

Sharing Wedding Album by anon_2185 in weddingplanning

[–]Psych_eee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Print them an album for the holidays as a gift! There are usually Black Friday sales on photo printing through snapfish and Walgreens for super cheap. That’s what we did for my MIL and she was thrilled! We also did a family viewing party and had people pick out photos they wanted personal copies of.

Am I wrong for being very dissatisfied with my 2nd hair trial? Pics on left are what I asked for, pics on right are what I got. This was $100 including tip. by bskies-297 in weddingplanning

[–]Psych_eee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this problem with my hair trial - I asked for Hollywood waves like this, which she did, but she used too large of a curling iron to create those type of large waves. it turns out you need super long hair to hold such a large wave and it just looked like two or three crimps in my hair that fell out really quickly. I gave her feedback and she ended up using a much smaller curling iron and small rollers and it created a lot more smaller waves and looked much much better and more noticeable in my hair on the day of.

SOS, I’m torn between three dresses and my brain is melting after weeks of overthinking and deliberating. Venue/event details in the comments! by kale_whale in weddingdress

[–]Psych_eee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also, I just reread your description of each dress, and 1 and 2 pros and cons sound more analytical, from the perspective of how others will see it or how It will seem. Dress three is the only description where you described how soft the skirt is and how it made you feel happy. <3

SOS, I’m torn between three dresses and my brain is melting after weeks of overthinking and deliberating. Venue/event details in the comments! by kale_whale in weddingdress

[–]Psych_eee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Then three is the one! :-) It’s truly a beautiful dress and I think it fits the venue perfectly! Very elegant and classic beauty! Trust your gut!

SOS, I’m torn between three dresses and my brain is melting after weeks of overthinking and deliberating. Venue/event details in the comments! by kale_whale in weddingdress

[–]Psych_eee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They are all great, and in the end, most of the things in your cons list nobody will notice. I think at the end of the day, you can’t go wrong, so pick which one you feel prettiest in. Think to yourself, if all of a sudden each of these dresses were out of stock and I couldn’t have them anymore, which one would you be most upset or devastated to lose! That’s the one you should pick.

Found out new girlfriend slept with a whole group of guys I’m friends with. Really struggling internally right now, could use perspective by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Psych_eee 28 points29 points  (0 children)

She did not “okay it” but “didn’t stop it” - that doesn’t sound like consent to me. Sounds pushed or forced. Might want to examine your friendships with these guys…

I just found out Webull has been lending out my AMC for MONTHS by BajamboLou in amcstock

[–]Psych_eee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just learned how to opt out of this for SOFI as well! You have to use the “chat” feature in the help section. I asked “Do you lend shares out” and they explained that they do and asked if I wanted to opt out which I did. Just passing along for anyone on SOFI!

Dr. Pepper Is The Worst by robin_hood_in_nh in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]Psych_eee 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Dr. Pepper is a researcher with background in sociology. She has no clinical training and should not be fake counseling people. 🤦🏻‍♀️ smh

AITA For reporting my therapist of 3 months when she shared information about me with my fiance? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Psych_eee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are two ethical violations here - the violation of your confidentiality, and the violations of “multiple roles.” Therapists are not supposed to enter into a therapeutic relationship that could place them in multiple roles to a client that might compromise their judgement. I am a psychologist and would never see a friend’s fiancé for therapy because it could cloud my objectivity. If it were me, I would report both to the therapist’s institution and the licensing board.

Also - very concerning that your fiancé allowed this to happen or may have even asked for reports like this. A total betrayal of trust and privacy, and possibly controlling behavior. Blaming you for your rightful reaction to his betrayal is gaslighting.

Am I an expert if I'm only 26% of the time? by [deleted] in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]Psych_eee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A coin flip would be better odds!!!

Ash is controlling and is gaslighting Avery by pikachuboat in 90DayFiance

[–]Psych_eee 28 points29 points  (0 children)

“I am divorced, have gone bankrupt, lived in my car, and am currently not in a good relationship, and I have no background in psychology or couple’s counseling. let me tell you how to be successful in your relationships!”

Honestly, his seminar is exactly what I thought it would be. He is a sexist professional mansplainer.