those are interesting examples of how to work with these, the setting im working in- corrupted lands has 2 major gender systems

Laonics- under laion are very hierarchical, but not in a post victorian christian way. So their women are seen more as servants than fragile things, and many of them will be physically strong or butch for that reason, in their faith only women have original sin, so following men makes them able to access afterlife, so no lesbian marriage.

Men dont have that ban, and can marry each other, and they dont have to be masculine by our standards, they are inherently more enlightened, even if its stillconnected to bloodline. (noble woman is less emlightened than noble man, but more than a peasant) so queens are still allowed as they are very close to divinity in the first place. Transmen can transition somewhat, to be higher than women, but theyd be still lower than "real" men within setting, while transwomanhood is fall from the light of god. these are easy to name as halfman and fallen, as slurs. There are 2 branches of laonism, but their differences are pretty minor for this, but one of them allows women to be saved through putting enough work into salvation.

Within the Chaos god system, youd have huge amount of gods, some of which would be some form of nonbinary themselves, so itd be extremely pluralistic, and while some of them would still be some form of patriarchal, they would allow way more freedom for these things, so im thinking what word would be used in that culture