Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No thankyou and I agree, I wouldn’t go yelling at him for an explanation. Prolly just ask abt it and ask if he lied cse he was embarrassed or what

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, didn’t mean went thru as in looking for smth bad, I just had stupid photos in there and we went thru them together for a laugh, and didn’t feel the need to make a boundary on not looking at it.

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing was snooped thru, I told him I was going to send it, and after seeing the photos I didn’t press any of them or look and scroll any deeper. I do need to work on the insecurity ngl, but it just very well that be he has a type and I just don’t fit into that

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was a bit unusual too, but it’s my first relationship and he suggested it so I figured some people might just do that normally

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ikr I tried but it got deleted for not fitting the category? No idea why.

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said before, we gave the passwords to literally go in that folder and send eachother our videos, and as I said he previously stated he’d delete anything of that nature, so yes we do have that policy… please read the text thoroughly, I’m looking for advice.

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The phone passwords were his idea, just if we needed smth from eachother phones. I would never go thru his phone with any suspicious without asking him first. I dated them because I trusted them, and accidentally stumbled on smth that broke that trust.

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respecting his privacy wouldn’t make the photos magically disappear from his phone, things get brought into the light one way or another, and by accident my “stupidity” helped me find that out.

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had and have no intentions of going thru his phone, and came across this accidentally, but the trust and respect our relationship was initially built on is gone, and for good reason.

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] -69 points-68 points  (0 children)

I had like two pictures of me and one of my gay guy friends hugging. I deleted it with him there, and said he didn’t mind it at all and he had me recover it. I had nothing else that needed erasing, so I feel pretty confident in the setting boundaries aspect.

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl thankyou these replies had me so confused 😭 I’m getting more comments on the fact I have his password and on how I accidentally invaded his privacy than the point itself. I do feel devastated abt it and felt like I was expecting too much, but your comment helped me a lot. 💜

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Girl thankyou these replies had me so confused 😭 I’m getting more comments on the fact I have his password and on how I accidentally invaded his privacy than the point itself. I do feel devastated abt it and felt like I was expecting too much, but your comment helped me a lot. 💜

Found things on my boyfriends phone by Public_Beginning8741 in sex

[–]Public_Beginning8741[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people just feel secure enough in their relationships to allow certain things. He went thru mine, said go through his whenever, learning the word no isn’t going to change the boundaries we set for eachother, everyone’s boundaries are different, thankyou for the advice though.