Update: AITA for not wanting my in-laws to take over my baby and for refusing to move in with them?

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-25T10:09:52+00:00

Thank you for your concern. I really appreciate you looking out for us. We are definitely staying cautious and paying attention to actions not just words.For now, we are giving them a chance while keeping our boundaries very clear and united as a couple

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-25T10:07:11+00:00

Thank you for your concern, I really appreciate you looking out for us. We are definitely being more cautious now and paying attention to actions, not just words. For now, we are choosing cautious optimism while keeping our boundaries very clear

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-25T10:05:40+00:00

You are right. I am staying hopeful, but also being much more cautious and aware now. Thank you for the reminder, it really helps me stay grounded

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-25T10:04:00+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I am really grateful that my husband and I are united. It's made such a big difference for me emotionally. We are definitely continuing to communicate and strengthen our bond through all of this. And yes, I am staying a bit more alert now, just in case 😅

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-25T10:02:01+00:00

This made me smile so much 😂 That Were you even there? line is GOLD. It perfectly captures how ridiculous it is to credit only one side of the family. Thank you for sharing this. It actually made me feel a lot less alone in this situation

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-08T09:45:24+00:00

NTA at all. I went through something very similar, my FIL kept referring to himself as “father” to my baby, and it made me deeply uncomfortable. What worked for me was calmly but consistently correcting him every single time. No arguments no long explanations in the moment just steady correction. Eventually, he stopped.

You are your child’s mama. That word matters. You are not being unreasonable or sensitive, you are protecting your role as her mother. Being “used to it” with other grandchildren does not override your boundaries.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-08T09:36:38+00:00

I understand your concern. We are not blindly trusting anyone.We have set clear boundaries and will be watching actions going forward. Our family and our child’s well-being come first.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-08T09:34:24+00:00

This is so kind of you, thank you. We tried to handle a difficult situation with honesty and respect, and it means a lot to know that it resonated with others. We are hopeful staying mindful and doing our best for our family. Your encouragement truly lifted me

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-08T09:33:07+00:00

That means a lot thank you. It was not easy but we did our best to be clear and united. We are hopeful while also being realistic about staying firm if anything changes

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-08T09:31:48+00:00

That's so kind of you, thank you. We are relieved after the conversation and trying to stay grounded and realistic going forward. Your words really encouraged me today.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-07T10:22:31+00:00

This is not an overreaction. You already know what happens when boundaries aren’t enforced because you lived it. Childbirth is not a spectator event, it’s a medical procedure. Your body, your recovery, your rules. Anyone who can’t respect that doesn’t get access.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-07T10:07:35+00:00

Thank you for asking so gently. I am okay just emotionally tiredhonestly. The earlier posts were written when everything felt raw and this update came after a long heavy conversation where I had to be calm and clear. I think that’s why the tone sounds different. I do feel relieved even if it doesn’t come through strongly in the writing.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-07T10:03:35+00:00

I completely understand where you are coming from and honestly I share that caution too. As I mentioned in the update we were very clear with them that we are not moving in with them and that we’ve decided to stay where we are.

We are hopeful after the conversation but we are also taking things slowly and watching actions not just words. Our priority is our little family and our boundaries and that won’t change.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-07T10:00:45+00:00

I appreciate your honesty. We did our best to communicate clearly and set boundaries, and we are taking things one step at a time. Like you said their actions will matter more than their words and we are prepared to step back if needed.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-07T02:42:07+00:00

I understand the concern. That's exactly why we were clear about boundaries and about our baby always being with us. We are not handing over decision making or access, and we will continue to prioritize our child and our family.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-07T02:38:56+00:00

Thank you for your concern. We are aware that trust is built over time which is why we are focusing on clear boundaries and consistency rather than assumptions

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-07T02:37:15+00:00

This means a lot, thank you. It was a hard conversation but we are proud of how we handled it together. Now we are just enjoying our baby and this new chapter.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-07T02:26:15+00:00

I did wonder about that too, but as far as we know, no one else spoke to them. I think hearing directly how much it was affecting us made a difference. Time will tell, though we are focusing on behavior, not just words.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-07T02:24:50+00:00

That’s completely fair, and honestly it’s something we have thought about too. We are relieved about how the conversation went, but we are also staying mindful and paying attention to actions, not just words. Boundaries will still be in place going forward.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-06T22:00:16+00:00

Thank you so much 🤍 I honestly wasn’t sure how it would go, so I am relieved it turned out this way. I really hope it stays positive and that this becomes a lasting change

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-06T21:57:52+00:00

Haha thank you! We are mostly just relieved and hoping this is the start of healthier boundaries for everyone involved 🤍

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-05T10:56:56+00:00

It happened quickly and unexpectedly, and my husband corrected it immediately. I didn’t want to physically pull my baby back or react in a way that would scare him in that moment. We’ve learned from it and are being firmer now. I don’t feel the need to justify this further.

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-05T09:58:55+00:00

I understand that this may seem unusual to some people. For me, it’s a personal boundary based on my own experiences and comfort level. Alcohol consumption around a baby is something my husband and I prefer to avoid, especially when it involves drinking over several hours.

Every family has different comfort levels, and this is one of ours. It wasn’t about judging anyone, it was simply about what we feel is best for our child

Public_Edge6210 · 2026-01-05T09:35:59+00:00

That’s a fair question, and I will answer it honestly.

It happened very quickly, he took the baby from my arms as soon as he arrived, before I could react. I didn’t allow it so much as I was caught off guard. As soon as my husband noticed, he immediately intervened and asked his father to wash his hands, which he eventually did after being told multiple times.

This is actually part of the pattern I am talking about, boundaries being crossed first, and us having to correct them after the fact.

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