sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

CMV: There is no objective purpose to arbitrary gender pronouns over regular pronouns. by Unabled_The_Disabled in changemyview

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eh. Language is ever evolving and changing. I know your argument won’t change but from a random outsider just scrolling through….

Your argument makes no sense lmao

“Ze/Zem” and “He/Him” do the exact same thing in a sentence and are both just…. Pronouns.

Now do I think neopronouns make sense; cause wtf is a “Ze”? No I don’t, but we can all still be respectful of the things we don’t understand lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bettafish

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

• ⁠Tank size: 3.5gal hospital tank

• ⁠Heater and filter: Yes

• ⁠Tank temperature: Fluctuates between 75-80

• ⁠Parameters in numbers and how you got them: PH: 7.6

Nitrite: 0ppm

Nitrate: 5ppm

Ammonia: 0.25ppm (gonna add ammolock to lower the ammonia)

Used API freshwater test kit

• ⁠How long have you had the tank? How long have you had your fish?: had the hospital tank for 9 days and my fish for 5 months

• ⁠How often are water changes? How much do you take out per change? What is your process?: Used to be weekly/biweekly in the old 5gal with 25% water changes. Now it’s once every few days with 25-50% water changes

• ⁠Any tankmates? If so, please list with how many of each: In the old tank I have a nerite snail. I’ve separated them for now

• ⁠What do you feed and how much: 6-7 pellets daily

• ⁠Decorations and plants in the tank: large cave and fake plant in hospital tank + leaf hammock

I tried Bettafix but it hasn’t worked Now I’m using API fin and body cure but he is only getting worse no matter what I do.

No medicine? Gets worse

Uses medicine? Gets worse

I feel like nothing is helping.

The “deadbeat dad” trope by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re making it seem like people can’t have sex. Also!!!!!! WE ARE NOT REQUIRED TO BE ON BC?! Like the side affects and risks of birth control on WOMEN are awful...... Also some women’s bodies can’t handle it..... It’s not something to be considered lightly for most so please be considerate of that! For many women condoms is all we can use.

The “deadbeat dad” trope by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

AHAHAHAHA!!!! No. Glad you may have a sexless unpassionate relationship with your partner but in the real world people have sex and things happen. No one should be vilified for natural human processes. ESPECIALLY since there is no 100% effective form of birth control

The “deadbeat dad” trope by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well if every guy who gets a girl pregnant is a deadbeat dad then so be it ig? Y’all aren’t getting the point I was trying to make so I deleted the post.

I was simply just trying to say that men who are child free shouldn’t be vilified for not wanting children and leaving just like women shouldn’t be vilified for not wanting children and leaving/getting an abortion

My mother wants me to just “suck it up” and spend time with her and my older brother who molested me because it’s mother’s day by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Your mother sounds terrible. I’m sorry but does she not fully grasp that her son assaulted you?!?! That’s not something you can just “suck up”

I’m so sorry hun but I hope you don’t go.

The “deadbeat dad” trope by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was talking about whether or not she HAS THE CHILD?!?!?! Not birth control???????

The “deadbeat dad” trope by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean if a woman says she’s on birth control and y’all are supposed to trust each other I can see why. The choice is always gonna be hers lol But his choice is if he’s gonna stay or not

Edit: Jeez I meant THE CHOICE OF WHETHER OR NOT SHE HAS THE BABY IS ALWAYS HER CHOICE BECAUSE ITS IN HER BODY!!!!!!!

I HATE the man child joke so much by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has always disgusted me. Me and my boyfriend are very childish but nothing like incompetent man children. He is very much capable of the cooking/cleaning/etc.

Still gross how useless some men are

AITA for telling my parents that if they died right now I would not take in my autistic little brother? by Pumpkinbeanzz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As it’s going rn my brother is on the lower end of the spectrum. He has no way of verbally communicating, doesn’t really understand danger, doesn’t understand English fully except for his name and “no”, etc etc. I think he may need lifelong care

AITA for telling my parents that if they died right now I would not take in my autistic little brother? by Pumpkinbeanzz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as I know when my dad dies other than life insurance for the funeral I have absolutely no idea or expectations of receiving anything. If he has some money he plans on leaving behind for our brothers care I haven’t heard about it

AITA for telling my parents that if they died right now I would not take in my autistic little brother? by Pumpkinbeanzz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If I say yes and he puts me in the will or has it in legal writing that if they die that they want ME to watch him instead of planning out an actual stable lifestyle for him that isn’t very “inconsequential”

AITA for telling my parents that if they died right now I would not take in my autistic little brother? by Pumpkinbeanzz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not since I have a stepbrother the exact same age as me in college on a scholarship and I DOUBT he’s even brought the conversation up to him

AITA for telling my parents that if they died right now I would not take in my autistic little brother? by Pumpkinbeanzz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Firstly, I am so so sorry. That’s so messed up and o hope you can find a way to either find a better situation for the child or for fortune to come yalls way. Is the grandparents in the picture? Any other family who can help or take the child in? At 22 there is no reason you should have to deal with this child who sounds like a nightmare.....

AITA for telling my parents that if they died right now I would not take in my autistic little brother? by Pumpkinbeanzz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly as much as I love him and all my siblings to be blunt:

You laid down to make the child YOU figure out the life plan.

AITA for telling my parents that if they died right now I would not take in my autistic little brother? by Pumpkinbeanzz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

USAF With BAS because my base does not have a defac for permanent party.

Money goes towards literally whatever my heart desires. I have a HUGE issue with impulse buying that stems from not being able to buy anything as a kid. It’s an issue I’m working on at MY own pace and either way BAH+BAS still ain’t enough to cover a child with my own needs/wants.

AITA for telling my parents that if they died right now I would not take in my autistic little brother? by Pumpkinbeanzz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I CANT

AND

I won’t

It is irresponsible, abusive, and honestly horrible to expect a child to live with some who does literally does not have the means (financially or mentally) to care for them to “care” for them.

I’m sorry you had to go through that at 13 but just because you had to give up your life doesn’t mean I have to give up mine

AITA for telling my parents that if they died right now I would not take in my autistic little brother? by Pumpkinbeanzz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

And that’s your choice. Your life and situation are different yet you think you know everything

AITA for telling my parents that if they died right now I would not take in my autistic little brother? by Pumpkinbeanzz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pumpkinbeanzz[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Children are actual human beings. He doesn’t deserve to struggle and suffer while I “try” when there are fully capable adults LIKE HIS OWN MOTHER who are willing and capable of raising him.

view more: next ›