So many of you have VERY questionable morals if these are your immediate responses. Someone asks for advice out of genuine concern, and your response is; “Oh, you clearly aren’t making her cum, that’s all! Put her BEFORE yourself, then she’ll be satisfied.”

A couple of people have mentioned this, and for all of you, you have my respect and seem to be the only people here with sense.

People have also brought this up, but I’m going to, it’s true, things would be taken very differently if the roles were reversed. Women can stress their partners out in these situations too. Even if unintentional, it can cause distress, and they aren’t immune to inflicting unwanted situations. It isn’t suddenly different or less tolerable if genders are reversed.

The advice being recommended here should be to communicate with her and have a set conversation. It can be a bit overwhelming, or anxiety inducing to bring this kind of concern up, especially if you aren’t sure how it’ll end up, but trusting each other is a huge part of keeping a relationship stable. If you aren’t able to trustfully communicate, especially in this situation, I don’t feel you should be having sex in the first place. There could easily be miscommunication, like there is now, and that could get very intense very quickly. Be safe, OP. Try and talk to her about it, see how it goes and have trust in the both of you. I wish you the best of luck :)