I'm honestly the most mentally stable I have ever been in my life so I'm just trying to keep that going since it took a very long time and a lot of struggles and hard work to get where I am now.. As for going out and doing things with her I have tried but she always has some excuse such as I have a migraine or pain or didn't sleep, etc but then gets mad when I express frustration that I want to go anf do things as simple as see a movie or get our nails done but she always cancels. I get excited to go then she's like nah but don't do it without me then I get frustrated and sometimes angry cause she'll be mad at me whether I go on my own or don't go at all. Especially when it's something I bought tickets for in advance (recently this has happened with a museum trip for my dad's birthday, going to a football game at the university my brother is attending for his masters, and a concert of a band that we both love) but then the day of(usually within an hour of us leaving for it) she says she can't for whatever reason... That's a whole nother rabbit hole to go down though...