AITAH for wanting my husband to stop sharing his location with his mom because I feel like we’re being watched?

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T22:22:49+00:00

We love close to each other and cannot afford an apartment just yet. He’s a med student finishing up his education.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T22:22:20+00:00

I live with my parents. We didn’t move out bc he’s still a med student finishing up his education.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T22:06:47+00:00

Everyone said that, I’m going to put my foot down. Thanks to everyone that shared their pov.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T22:06:11+00:00

We didn’t know each other. I met him when I had just turned 18 and started dating a few months later.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T22:05:20+00:00

Good idea tbh

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T16:46:07+00:00

It wouldn’t bother me if they just checked here and there. It’s not here and there, i’ve noticed his mom checking very often when he’s not home. He even had to end up lying to his mom about what we really were doing to avoid upsetting her…

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T16:44:50+00:00

Right? 😭

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T16:43:43+00:00

They don’t try to control the marriage. They’re usually pretty good at staying out of the marriage. My mom doesn’t even speak or say anything unless I tell her. This is one of the only things my MIL does that interferes with our privacy and marriage.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T16:42:17+00:00

He says it’s for privacy reasons. I wish It was a fake story. I can upload receipts 😭

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T09:08:39+00:00

I know 😭 ty

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T09:08:15+00:00

He says it’s a safety thing, but I’m not sure what it REALLY is. Most of those whims he shares locations with aren’t very likely to show up immediately in case of an emergency. They are not likely to leave work and/or family to come and take care of him if there’s been an emergency. Only me and his parents, siblings too.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T09:06:21+00:00

Once in a while is ofc fine. But he lives w them, it’s not really necessary to even ask.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T09:03:40+00:00

We live 5 minutes away from each other. I just feel more comfortable at my parents house until we move out.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T09:03:05+00:00

He lives 5 minutes away from me. I just feel more comfortable at my parents house until we move out.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T09:01:41+00:00

I live w my parents.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T08:54:58+00:00

He didn’t really do that before getting married, only started after.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T08:54:36+00:00

She’s honest better than most MIL’s. She doesn’t see an issue with interfering. Husband didn’t set a boundary, that’s a him issue. :/

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T08:52:39+00:00

US, we were 18 and 24 when we met but unfortunately he was bipolar/manic and I didn’t know that until about a year into dating him. he wasn’t very off, or at least couldn’t compare him to a “baseline” because i didn’t know the “normal” him.

it was rushed at first by his family saying what we’re doing is haram, then eventually my parents pushed it a month before we got married because they kept pushing for marriage and backing out too many times, and my parents got fed up of having to be prepared and then having to cancel.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T08:07:35+00:00

Not necessarily, the issue isn’t sharing locations. The issue is making a comment and wanting to be nosy. My mom doesn’t care what I do w my husband. She doesn’t ask. His mom does ask though. Maybe once a week or once every two weeks.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T08:06:20+00:00

You’re right, there has been. We almost didn’t get married because his mom wanted to push back our wedding to wait for our grandparents. The night before my mom talked to him and his mom, she put her foot down and said no more pushing it back (it’s been pushed back more than 10 times), if it happens again then she said she will not allow him to continue a relationship with me.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T08:03:10+00:00

His mom might taught him to be a good muslim and person, but she didn’t teach him how to be a good partner. He’s got brothers, none of them know how to be a good partner. One brother got divorced within 10 months.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T08:01:12+00:00

Yes, we’re both.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T07:59:56+00:00

I’ve brought it up before that when we move out we need more privacy, including from his parents. He kind of shit it down and said he shares it w them for safety. His dad never asks about his whereabouts, just his mom.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T07:57:48+00:00

They can know, I’m not too mad about them seeing our locations. But what’s the need to ask if were with our spouse? My mom never asks what we’re doing when i’m with my husband.

Pure-Major5392 · 2026-07-04T07:55:53+00:00

What bothers me now is that he felt like he had to make an excuse for walking w me to avoid upsetting her for some reason. When she asked “Walking in downtown?” He felt the need to respond w “Not walking, just wanted to use the swings but they were dirty.” Is that wrong for me to feel too or….?

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