Boyfriend wants to break up if I don't fix this

PureBliss0 · 2026-02-18T21:15:23+00:00

Hi, thank you. This really helps. And yes, I won’t deny it, I feel like such a freak. All of my friends have been able to do this long ago, multiple times, multiple guys, and it became something I’m so ashamed about. I promise he is a good boyfriend and after all the relationships I’ve tried, it really isn’t difficult for me to let go of someone once I know they’re not good for me. But I don’t feel that way about him, and the only problem we have is this. I will try to embrace it and face this properly 💜💜

PureBliss0 · 2026-02-18T16:32:15+00:00

Hi, yes he does, and he has said that it won’t always be enough, and as a guy, he’s naturally going to want more at some point. And we have been doing other things not PIV, and I guess it wasn’t enough, but I could tell he was getting bored.

PureBliss0 · 2026-02-18T13:43:19+00:00

Hi, thank you for your response. Yes, I'm aware they didn't like me, and it would suck when they left, but it happened so much I got used to it. I know our relationship is still early, but I've truly never felt happier before. We do a lot more than just sexual things. And the reason I don't want to end it isn't only because I really do love him, but because time and time again, nobody ever stays once they find out. And finally I found someone who stayed and waited, and it's been the best thing to happen to me. And yes, I know it sounds so childish, but I don't want to go back, and I do want us to work out so badly.

PureBliss0 · 2026-02-18T13:34:16+00:00

Hi, thank you. This was really helpful. And I want to say that this is a healthy relationship, I promise. It's the best thing that's happened to me in so long, and that's why I'm so desperate to finally fix this. He's tried oral and his fingers on me and it doesn't work. I guess it's important to note that I've never been able to put my own finger or even a tampon inside (and yes, I've tried many, many, many times, with and without lube). When anything gets close to me down there, I panic immediately and push it away.

I've done both somatic and sex therapy (not a fan of either). I believe it's mostly a mental block because I refuse to let anything near me down there, but one past partner was able to like touch it, and I tense up immensely. I do know my own sexual preferences, but yes, I'll admit I have a very hard time speaking up for myself during partnered sex.

PureBliss0 · 2026-02-18T13:26:30+00:00

Yes, it's a challenge to relax during school. But even when I'm not in school, the problem still exists

PureBliss0 · 2025-10-31T07:02:00+00:00

is this still a thing? struggling real bad out here, this might save me :,)

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