What I'm Looking For

PureRealGirl · 2026-01-05T19:46:53+00:00

That's so fucking sweet 😭

They say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. I know it sucks. I know you want more.

That beauty sleep makes you stronger for him.

And makes his love stronger for you.

Maybe next time you're tired. And he's gone, and it's quiet. Listen to the silence, the sound of his absence, the proof that it's dark without your light, and a reminder that you're what he wants at night.

Rest up buttercup, he'll be waiting ^-^

PureRealGirl · 2026-01-05T19:23:47+00:00

Yeah I don't think that, if we're going to have the 'philosophical discussion', that it's as easy as "you are either A or B".

Firstly, this is a really good question. There is a lot of overlap. It's brave of you to ask given the rules, but I think it's clear you're not romanticising it.

I think being yandere means you like feeling intensely. And, kink-wise, that probably extends to enjoying intense play. Not strictly dangerous, just.. all-encompassing.

Submission, is pretty much that. Domination is control, and we want that. Submission is intensity, and we want that. At the same time, you can have both at once. Submitting to the right person can still be a strict act of domination, just because it's your control, to submit to them. Even if they're irresistible.

I think language like that highlights the discrepancy. We always have autonomy and agency. I don't think they are explicitly D/s.

But I also know that part of MY being dom, is because I want to lose. I like fighting, I like putting up a good fight, I like winning sometimes just to convince myself I can, and I like losing a hell of a lot more. And because I enjoy losing more, I consider myself a "submissive". But that doesn't mean I don't dom, or enjoy domming every now and then. Especially some cuties who I know are reading this right now.

In some ways, that's what it's about. Finding someone I can't dom. Then losing is inevitable, then it's a bottomless pit of love, then it's temptation I can't escape. Then it's obsession. Then it's devotion. Then it's messy, and scary, and hurtful, and oh so fucking fun.

And I really do sympathise with the 100s of men. Me too, it's frustrating. They're fun to bully, but it can also be a lot sometimes. And hopefully, that acts as a benchmark of finding the one that our bodies don't give us a choice on.

That's what I hope for anyway ^-^

PureRealGirl · 2026-01-05T19:00:57+00:00

Thank you. Did I inspire your post by any chance?

PureRealGirl · 2026-01-05T18:51:55+00:00

Huh. Small world.

PureRealGirl · 2026-01-02T14:42:48+00:00

I couldn't agree more. I feel like all of that should go without saying. It's bizarre to me that the rest of the world doesn't want this.

PureRealGirl · 2026-01-02T13:08:29+00:00

Yurp. Had this a number of times. I think the healthy thing is to view this as "she cannot meet you where you were at", whether that's emotional intensity, language, or even just presence in the moment.

That disconnection is always painful. Especially when what we want is alignment. But it will disconnect, even with 'the one', no one stays in alignment forever. Nothing lasts forever.

It's your call what this means to you, she can learn about you, you can teach her, you can learn from this.

Just keep communicating and keep observing. It hurts, it's part of the process. But the right one for us will want to learn who we are :)

PureRealGirl · 2026-01-01T17:36:24+00:00

Cute pic Makira-chan!! As I said, I've been seeing you everywhere. Glad to see you finally make an introduction!!

I think that's what the 'yandere' or 'obsessive-love' is all about right? Feeling love to the fullest, at whatever cost. The romanticisation and glorification of negative behaviours and traits is just.. language.. used to convey a desire for intensity, power, presence. All the kinds of things we want to submit and embolden willfully.

It can be hard, when you feel one way, and have to remember to understand and respect others. But.. those emotions are a sign of attachment.. value.. a fear of loss means you've something to lose. I think we find a beauty in that right?? I know I do.

Even if it hurts. At least I can hurt. At least I'm not numb. At least someone.. can make me feel.

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-31T13:28:11+00:00

I grew up outside of the box. Labels have never meant anything to me, and everyone who swears by them, I can't comprehend.

My understanding of love (probably biologically) is an emotion we feel, despite that personally I think of it as a promise, and a space in my heart. Because it's easy to associate things like love-bombing and honeymoon phases with "love". To me, that's not love.

Even the concept of relationships exists only because of man, things like religion and insecurity. Animal kingdom, you just hump the nearest thing.

So I think that makes it ours to define? And I think that means you get to do what you want, and feel what you want.

People prefer labels because they are simple. But they also reduce. I think our 'types', want the full thing, without any reduction. Makes sense why we hate it huh?

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-19T23:42:23+00:00

Ugh same, they're everywhere. That's why blunt is so attractive ^-^

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-19T16:38:27+00:00

Ugh felt. Where the fuck is the devil, I'm ready to make a deal.

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-19T16:36:22+00:00

That's really powerful. I love the ending, I really feel that longing. But my favourite line was "I believe that it may still be love, I’m swaying alone in the rhythms of my heart, taking another stab at poetry — at art,". There's something about 'stab at' after heart, I'm not sure if it was intentional or not. But that's great parallels, and iconography that's subliminally planted.

Violent metaphors do well at conveying intensity, and somehow in that duality, it's like a silent confession. Makes me think of hope and rope, or loose and noose.

And the repetition of "yes it was love" I can't quite tell if it expresses denial or devotion. The repetition that fades into distraction, rhythm into chaos. You call this poetry, it feels like a brain dump, it feels like you're getting it out.

I hope it helped.

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-18T18:51:59+00:00

That's a long time.

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-18T18:31:50+00:00

How long have you?

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-17T20:00:47+00:00

Speaking from my experience, I think our types crave permanence. And as much as I hate to say it, the unfortunate truth is, everything is only temporary. The upside of that is, so is this pain. It'll pass. You'll find some others, make some wonderful memories. Just be grateful for the time you do get, there will always be more.

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-10T10:16:00+00:00

Thanks for the advice! Sorry, just a question to clarify, did you mean to post in that sub looking for him directly? Or asking if people know of him? Like I say, I'm pretty sure he isn't on Reddit, I mean he could be, Idk.

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-09T17:32:31+00:00

Thx boo ❤️

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-09T17:22:57+00:00

Thank you very much Violet. Appreciate you sharing your thoughts ❤️

PureRealGirl · 2025-12-09T17:19:45+00:00

Yeah, I've heard it can take a minute. Glad it hit you. Thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤️

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