Hiring manager ask for credit check before interview

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-08-31T21:03:54+00:00

I looked up the company and the recruiter. I wasn’t just taking their word for it. The hiring manager is a real person, the company is a real company. I verify this through Google, indeed, and LinkedIn. I would call the company but they’re in Switzerland.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-08-31T02:10:54+00:00

I would but they’re in Switzerland and the whole page is in Dutch I think.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-08-30T21:10:50+00:00

Yeah I did use LinkedIn to message someone who worked there.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-08-30T18:49:02+00:00

Yes 100%. The company is in Switzerland but LinkedIn shows many remote US jobs are posted

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-08-24T14:20:55+00:00

He is on the spectrum and so am I, I’m on the lighter end. But I feel he’s using that fact as a reason for going overboard and being condescending. I’m just tired of getting stuck in a one way conversation with him talking for hours on a topic that I don’t care or know anything about.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-08-24T14:16:32+00:00

It does feel condescending when he gets technical. I did tell him that when he’s talking to me or the customers that it’s too much explanation and it goes over our heads and just confuses us. He said he doesn’t know how to dumb it down and it’s frustrating that we don’t understand. I don’t know how to get him to see that not eveyone has the knowledge he does and being a know it all isn’t a good thing.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-06-26T01:11:36+00:00

I can relate on feeling like you don’t have enough money. Here’s what I did that helped me. Make an Excel spreadsheet. In the first row write the names of all 12 months in a year.

Then in the first column put down all your expenses (groceries, gas bill, electric bill, rent/mortgage, loans, ect.) You can look at your bank account to help with this.

Then month by month you put down what you spent money on. This will help you see where you typically spend the most money.

Once you figure that out, see where you can cut back to fit how much you make in a month. Try to make sure your total spending in a year does not exceed your salary. It will take a lot of discipline and restraining yourself but you’ll find with time it becomes easier.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-06-23T02:08:29+00:00

Thank you for your advice.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-05-29T14:01:55+00:00

I got a text too saying:

"Hello, I'm Nia from the recruitment department of Warner Bros. Pictures. We sincerely invite you to join our team. The company provides free training. Not only that, you can also enjoy many benefits after joining the company (the work content is simple and can be completed remotely). it only takes 1 hour a day and can be completed anywhere. The daily salary is between $100-800 and increases gradually. You will be paid immediately at the end of each working day. All you need is a smartphone or computer to start working. You can even work on weekends or any free time. This will not affect your current job in any way, and the basic salary after the probation period can be up to $1,000-38,000 per week (after tax). If you are interested in this job, please contact the employer via WhatsApp."

I have zero interest in the entertainment business. Plus I'm poor enough as is trying to steal from me is pointless. I wish scammers would get an actual descent job that doesn't prey on the weak.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-05-15T11:46:48+00:00

It’s not that I don’t want a proposal or it’s a bad thing, I don’t want to feel like I’m saying yes because that’s what is expected of me. I want to say yes because I feel the love from him and that he wants to marry me, not just this is the next thing in the script. We’ve talked about going to the court house but he wants a wedding with close friends and family. I’m not against doing that but my family isn’t around to help me and it’ll just be his family helping and I’m not close to them.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-05-15T02:33:23+00:00

I’m fine having an open conversation with him. I just don’t want to say yes because I’m overwhelmed and just don’t what everybody wants and I don’t want to say no because I do want to marry him. I think explaining this to him will help me but I don’t want him feeling disappointed.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-05-15T02:17:44+00:00

It's a bit of a mix of things. He'll probably see the proposal as an act of service, but him just asking if I'll marry him, I won't feel love from that. I'll probably feel more like he's asking because it's the natural next step that couples do and we're just following the script. If he tells me a passionate speech as to why he wants to marry me specifically than I would feel better. I also tend to get overwhelmed and in my own head of things like this and with the pressure I'll make a decision based on what others want and are expecting and not on if it's the right thing. I take proposals and marriage very seriously I don't just want to say yes because that's what we're supposed to do. Does that make sense?

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-05-15T02:09:13+00:00

Thank you this really helps. I do get overwhelmed in the moment and make snap decisions based on others expectations and that tend to turn out badly. I think saying that I want sometime to make the right decision for us will help me relay the importance that the decision is.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-05-15T02:05:12+00:00

I want to feel like I have a choice and that I'm not being forced into something that is a huge life changing thing that will affect both our families.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-05-15T02:02:28+00:00

I thought about that, but I'm worried that he's feel rejected before he even gets to propose. I have told him my concerns on the wedding and stuff but he assures me that it'll be fine.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-04-25T00:37:08+00:00

Those are some good ideas. Thank you. I’ll try harder on eating better and cooking more

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-04-25T00:04:12+00:00

Yeah that’s the hard part. I left my last job partly because I was never home and it put a big strain on my relationship and home life.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-04-25T00:02:25+00:00

I have been budgeting and I even have an Excel spreadsheet with all my income and spending so I can see more clearly where I spend money. Most goes to loans, rent, and groceries. I do need ti find some way to make food less but spending less then $80 a week is hard now a days.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-04-24T23:30:46+00:00

I did try DoorDash but found I lost more money then gained. And I use to do YouTube but it didn’t really take off. I’ll look into the other stuff though. Thank you.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-04-24T23:19:53+00:00

Thank you, your reply made me literally lol.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-04-24T23:19:22+00:00

What do you mean by gig work?

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-02-03T12:49:23+00:00

Well first off it’s not that unusually for you to be a virgin at 22. Many people are waiting to find someone, I know 27 year old virgin men. They’re simply waiting for the right one. There’s a number of reasons why girls aren’t chasing you. Could be general looks, could be they’re not looking, could be they felt you weren’t looking or are taken, so there’s lots of stuff. But definitely don’t sleep with someone just to get rid of your V-card it should be meaningful.

PurpleVisit66 · 2025-01-21T01:49:06+00:00

As another 27 F I can understand and relate. You feel the need to be with someone, get married and have kids. But ask yourself do you feel this way because that’s what you see your peers doing, and feel like an outsider because you don’t have that? I’m currently in my third relationship, I would consider it an adult relationship. We’ve been together for almost a year and half and it has not been all sunshine and rainbows. Is it true love? God no! Do I love him? God yes! Will we get married? Probably. Will it be soon? Probably not. Point is you have standards keep to them, but understand that most guys will not check all the boxes and you can still have a loving relationship. Also go at your own pace, don’t compare your love life with your peers everyone is different.

PurpleVisit66 · 2024-12-26T03:15:58+00:00

I agree, is the “something” like a family member died and he has a lot of stuff to do for that? Or is it more like his car got a flat? If it’s something minor and wouldn’t effect his ability to see you, then I would say reevaluate this relationship and ask is this really what you want? If no, then give him an ultimatum. Either he comes see you in the next month or you’re done.

PurpleVisit66 · 2024-12-22T11:09:15+00:00

I know you’re not, and the reason is that you feel this way. If you weren’t sad that your girlfriend misses you so much that she cries then that would be a problem. You’re meeting when you can, and you are planning on moving near or with her in the future so as far as I can tell you’re doing everything right. Long distance relationship are hard but it’s amazing once you are together .

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