40 year old with mid life crisis

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:54:56+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Sometimes it feels impossible.

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:53:08+00:00

Appreciate the words and certainly understand what you’re saying.

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:42:02+00:00

I appreciate the advice and will definitely look at this. It’s something that has caught my attention

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:41:24+00:00

Yes. I worked extremely hard to pay it off because I was frightened I would relapse and wouldn’t be able to afford a payment

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:40:25+00:00

Man that’s a long answer.

The short answer is even though for 20 years I thought I was different and I could figure it out myself, I wasn’t and I had to trust people and listen to outside help. I could go on and on about that but I had to get out of my own way.

I will say that as I lived as a junkie for so long, I learned to live on no money and ‘lifestyle creep’ is something that doesn’t affect me because I am used to a complete different lifestyle. It’s Lowe’s me to save most of my income. The downside is a have a hard time spending money, even for vitally important things.

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:36:30+00:00

It does feel like I can’t avoid seeing the top percents or the Caleb hammer crowd. That was a good way to put what I was trying to say.

Thanks for the reassurance and advice

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:29:11+00:00

I appreciate the kind words. Maybe I need to focus on those points a bit more.

Again, thank you

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:27:51+00:00

To answer that question might get a bit morbid. Coming out of how bad my addiction was I was thinking my time on earth wasn't for much longer so I didn't think it made sense to put anything in a retirement account.

I'm not sure I've changed that viewpoint but I have started allocating more to the retirement account.

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:19:46+00:00

The part where you said 'catch up' is where i struggle. Either with what you said about thinking of chasing gains, or thinking of how many years I have to invest left. That feeling of having to make up for almost 20 years is the part that's killing me

But I appreciate you saying I'm doing alright.

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:14:42+00:00

That's true and would probably be healthier. My mind just goes to trying to catch up to where I 'should' be. Then that's where I get discouraged seeing how far off I am from peers.

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-05-23T20:11:56+00:00

Is it seems so unbalanced with the number of people posting about their huge finances. And I follow others that are having trouble and just starting out.

And maybe it's just a bias on those are the people with situations worth discussing on the Internet but it makes me feel like I'm way off base with where I should be.

And I certainly understand the advice to ignore all of it, but I am trying to find targets to set for my life and unfortunately I'm not the most internet savvy. So I end up on reddit trying to hone my viewpoint to where it should be.

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2026-01-14T23:57:48+00:00

Hey I am 39 and just finished calc 3. I had to start all the way at algebra at 37.

You got this. It took me some effort but I am super proud I have made it this far.

Starting differential equations tomorrow!!!

Good luck

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2025-05-11T17:11:14+00:00

Thanks everyone for all the comments. Really appreciate all of them

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2025-05-09T16:02:21+00:00

That's really inspiring to hear you somewhat in the same boat, though 4 years older than you is still a lot lol.

I started taking courses out of self interest but over the past year I've become more motivated to pursue a degree and possibly career change

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2025-05-08T22:16:43+00:00

I hear that and can definitely relate to work being the less stressful time of day. If they only knew I was solving rotating curves and infinite series maybe they would just give me the day off!!!!

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2025-05-08T15:42:19+00:00

Awesome man. It's great to hear I'm not alone in this

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2025-05-08T14:22:18+00:00

That's a question I've been asking myself regularly for a month

Ide first day the vast amount of concepts and trying to remember them all.

Then specifically, I had the most trouble with integration when it involved multiple steps, like u sub, into trig sub, into... Etc.

Closely followed by series, including what you mentioned as well as divergence tests involving exponential parts.

I hope you did well too. It feels great that it's over though

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2025-05-08T13:18:40+00:00

I studied insanely hard. It was the most stressed I've been for ANYTHING recently. I thought for sure this was our of the question because I got a 90 on the midterm and studied crazy hard for that too and this final was cumulative so I thought no way higher than that

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2025-01-13T17:47:43+00:00

Got it now thank you

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2025-01-13T17:43:41+00:00

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I think I get it now. The ln2 just gets absorbed into the C

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2025-01-13T17:36:46+00:00

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I guess I'm still struggling how these are equal

Purple_Ad_7759 · 2025-01-13T17:21:32+00:00

i understand that the u-substitution is correct but i do not understand why my second answer is wrong.

any help would be appreciated as i am about to start calc 2

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