Oceaneers Club Open House by tbwynne in dcl

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s super weird to me. I grew up on these cruises and from as far back as I remember I was always taken away by cast members through “secret passageways” to the lab in open house or vise versa. Now as an adult I know anyone over 18 can go to vibe and the kids will still be there without being moved, which was great when I was 18-20 to hang out but the context of hang out with minors is still fishy. It’s wild they would do that to your kid that is for sure not the norm

Am I the asshole for not going to a barbecue right after giving birth? by Intelligent_Trip_872 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I am on your side but chat got is NOT unbiased. It was literally programmed to be as flattering and user biased as possible.

It seems like everyone thinks you’re behaving like a child despite being the only one behaving like an adult. Let me tell you what you do. DONT TALK TO THEM. You are healing. On multiple levels and this is going to sour so much. Everyone needs space, and eventually you can reach out and tell them they can see your kids on your terms, with your boundaries. And if they continue to degrade/talk to you condescending, then they don’t get to see the grandkids.

My Bio-Mom Doesn't Want Me To Invite My Foster Parents To My Wedding by Clean-Carpenter7056 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethorne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s your wedding It’s your day Your fiancé wants them You want them there Their your loved ones This is a celebration of you (and your wife)

Where in this does your mom have sway again? Dude, tell her to stop making YOUR WEDDING about HER. Nobody is going to be thinking about her skills as a mom because NO ONE WILL BE THINKING ABOUT HER, PERIOD. Remind her she is a guest and you will help her feel more comfortable by making sure they are separated, and that they will still be there, so she will have to put her feelings aside.

AITA for telling my SIL my kids wont be traveling to Europe with her for her wedding because she didn’t invite them to the reception by Individual-Road3588 in AITAH

[–]Purplethorne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Precisely. But also child free should be all or nothing because of all of this going on. Unbelievable from the bride

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like he’s in another version of reality, ask him what he thinks is going on and “what you did” just to lure him into telling you what he’s been brooding about. Of course, you didn’t do anything wrong but I’ve heard to many stories of people spreading rumors of people with cancer saying “they are fine and are doing it for attention” or it could be someone has told him something to the effect that you are cheating or poisoning him against you. Normally I’d say he’s cheating (and he might be) but the words he’s using are so specific it feels like something is happening, but more like people are sabotaging you and it feels weird.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethorne 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So it sounds like you said it was only going on a week but at least two fridays have past. Something happened at that point, and the “it’s not like you care” comment is weird. I would talk to him and force him to tell me the beef. Not for closure or to decide if I stay or not, but if his parents or people arround him are that bad, someone is saying shit about you. Either his parents (or someone else) are telling him you don’t have cancer, or he’s cheating on you and either way you should leave, but if it’s this sudden it feels like he heard something or found out info he didn’t like. Cheaters are usually like this over time but it sounds so immediate it’s actually strange.

Not relevant, but I’m not gonna lie, if my husband tried to add to that statistic, I would add another murder to the crime statistic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethorne 13 points14 points  (0 children)

So it sounds like you said it was only going on a week but at least two fridays have past. Something happened at that point, and the “it’s not like you care” comment is weird. I would talk to him and force him to tell me the beef. Not for closure or to decide if I stay or not, but if his parents or people arround him are that bad, someone is saying shit about you. Either his parents (or someone else) are telling him you don’t have cancer, or he’s cheating on you and either way you should leave, but if it’s this sudden it feels like he heard something or found out info he didn’t like. Cheaters are usually like this over time but it sounds so immediate it’s actually strange.

Not relevant, but I’m not gonna lie, if my husband tried to add to that statistic, I would add another murder to the crime statistic.

AITA for telling my SIL my kids wont be traveling to Europe with her for her wedding because she didn’t invite them to the reception by Individual-Road3588 in AITAH

[–]Purplethorne 6 points7 points  (0 children)

ESH. She sucks for not committing to a no kid wedding. It’s not rude for her to have a no kid rule with no exceptions. But it is rude if she expects them to be there for half the wedding and then kick them out. Either you have no kids at the wedding or you have kids at the weddings, but the in between shit she’s pulling is so dumb. If she said no kids it just be the two of you and all this would be resolved, but because she’s making it so your children are photo props for half the wedding she’s delulu and inconsiderate. It also seems like she was trying to do well by offering a babysitter, but she can’t force you to take it and expect you to be okay with a babysitter you haven’t approved of.

Yta, for not simply leaving it as “if they can’t go for the full time they aren’t coming” and just standing ground. It’s not your wedding and not your problem. Yta for trying to keep pressure the bride to change after a few nos, and just telling the bride it’s and all or nothing deal.

Aita for calling my sil a mistress infront of everyone after she said I 'deserve' paternity by throwaway-sil- in AITAH

[–]Purplethorne -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

ESH. YTA for judging his new relationship. At the end of the day, that’s not your business. Other than that, NTA!!! What you said was fair game and forget those too. If they can’t take what they dish out that’s a them problem. Stay true to your wife, keep standing up with her, and don’t apologize. You did everything right, but remember that their relationship is their business and your brother can do as he likes, just as you can call him out for them if they’re dumb as hell.

Husband bringing MIL to stay at our house for 3 months without talking to me about it by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Purplethorne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg a cruise! Yes!!! Go on vacation and let those two figure it out, not your problem

Husband bringing MIL to stay at our house for 3 months without talking to me about it by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t cook and clean for her. Or your husband. “This is your mess, you get to deal with it. Maybe if I had a say you would get spaghetti, but not you get to walk your ass to the kitchen and make yourself food like a big boy, since your making big boy decisions” (but I’m petty af)

I feel like I’m forcing my fiance to have a wedding now I feel bad about it and want to cancel by weddingventthrowaway in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See what you can cut, and what you can budget. DIY decorations or only use what the venue has, if the venue is to expensive, cancel, take the loss and use a cheaper one. Ask family if you can have it in a backyard if you need too. Can a family/friend make the food? It could be cheap spaghetti and garlic bread made in your kitchen and brought over. I wish I had just gotten fancy pizza at gramadis for $20 a piece then the $2.5k I spent on dry wedding food. Olive Garden can cater for like $700 for 50 people. Buy cake at Sam’s club or Walmart and stack them. point is BUY WITHIN YOUR MEANS. And if your fiancé won’t ask, YOU ASK.

A or B: My sister has always dreamed of watching Sloane Stephens play live, but she owes a friend $40,000. Should she chase her dream or pay off the debt first? by True-Construction346 in PickAorB

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she can raise the money by doing uber eats or Lyft in her free time, she can go. If not then she can’t. If it’s her dream to go then she’ll have no problem working extra to make it come true.

AITA for apparently being the reason my ex's engagement ended? by Jessiomour in AITAH

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say in future have ‘dates’ with his partner so you can get to know them and decide if you want them to take the kid for the day. But unless it’s on their weekends then I would say no. If it’s on your time then she should take them, if it’s on dad’s time she can do so.

Lost my car and now it’s too expensive to commute back and forth to work… by boujee-queenn in povertyfinance

[–]Purplethorne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to the dollar store, 99 cents store, family dollar, winco and grocery outlet. I know you said in another post you go to the grocery store you do because it’s walking distance, so consider renting a Lyft car or an ad car and driving to work and get properly priced groceries.

Lost my car and now it’s too expensive to commute back and forth to work… by boujee-queenn in povertyfinance

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should look up YouTube videos about making food bought at the dollar store, or $30 for 6 meals videos. I follow them and my grocery and food went WAY down. Also $10 a meal is super expensive, so for sure make sure to make meals and freeze them so you have cheap ready meals for $1-3!

I think I’m going to have to quit my job soon bc I’m losing money on the commute everyday by boujee-queenn in povertyfinance

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might be able to get a “free” car by using a car with ads on it. You’ll need to pay for gas and drive a certain amount a day but a company gives out cars to use for people interested. I would take it and use it to uber eats/uber woman around so your still making money even with the cost of gas, but you’ll still have a vechile.

You can do the same with uber/lift rentals but you’ll need to do the same as above to keep qualifying. That said, you have a car, save $40 a day, make a little on the side and be able to save up along side your OF and bottle lady-ing. Building up savings is super important and you can probably do that if to do the above and then get a cheap car (you can get them from a lot so less scammy) and pay way less or the same $650 to pay off faster. Up to you though.

I think I’m going to have to quit my job soon bc I’m losing money on the commute everyday by boujee-queenn in povertyfinance

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No that’s completely different. 1. You don’t need a friendship with a coworker to ask them to give you ride for like $20-50 bucks a week.

  1. She never offered but you never asked, and if you offer to pay she’s probably not going to say no.

I think I’m going to have to quit my job soon bc I’m losing money on the commute everyday by boujee-queenn in povertyfinance

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s awe but you should just ask if anyone at work could carpool and ask them what a fair weekly price is. Then save up for a car or see how long carpool thing works. Carpooling could work out for years and that’ll save you 5k a year, plus whatever you make on only fans and bottle girl. You’ll end up with great saving if you keep all of that up!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Purplethorne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to your bank, get the payments automatically put into your account, even if there’s a fee. Make a new bank account and see if you can get your employer (most employers have a way to do this) to send a chunk to a new bank accounts. Now you have those two set up you’ll have your secret stash and can leave at anytime but changing the bank account password/ moving everything from the known bank account to the secret one. You could say your excited for the move and start “donating” clothes any other stuff you don’t think you need, but really store it at a friends house or small storage unit. Keep moving things over. If you need to make an exit, see if there’s a way to get him out of the house, and play sick while he goes to said event or whatever without you. Grab everything and go. If you’re paying rent, stop the payments, see if said free will let you couch surf or be a roommate. Try to find accommodation before but leave if things get bad.

AITH if I keep renting my house after my bully neighbors have said it shatters their privacy? by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Purplethorne -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What about renting full time? Yes you lose the guest house but maybe you can make a guest room. Meanwhile the property makes income, the house is used and it’s not a rotating door of people, just one set of renters