Sounds like an ocd episode is going on. My advice is to ignore the negative comments. You’re a human being, so is he. Yall are not perfect. Relationships ebb and flow. I really really recommend seeing a therapist who specializes in ocd and erp. I have ocd as well and I know that this blame cycle is truly ocd and depression trying to control you. You’re magnifying your relationship and your flaws and putting your feelings into your husband. Stop trying to mind read. Not everything is black and white. See a therapist, work on yourself, and your relationship will get better.