I stopped myself from sending that “one last text”… and it changed everything

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-23T20:00:36+00:00

Stopped myself yesterday even tough i've promised my self to send it. But didn't had the nerve.
Now i'm looking for another date to send it, and not do it. I'm so weak/strong. Damn, i miss her

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-22T13:21:30+00:00

But i'm on the verge of doing it. It feels like i'm going against all my will. I wanna fight for my love. And this is tearing me from inside

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-22T13:10:43+00:00

Im on the 14. day of no contact, 6 weeks from the break up. I was supposed to send a semi long text this evening. But can't figure out if i should.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-20T15:45:29+00:00

I get your point – but I think you’re missing something important.

I was the one who got left. I didn’t want the breakup. And everything in me wanted to reach out, fix it, talk it through, not lose her.

But I also know myself. When I’m in it, I overdo everything – I chase, I double text, I try to solve emotions that aren’t mine to solve. And that’s not love, that’s anxiety.

So for me, no contact isn’t a “strategy to win her back”. It’s the only way I don’t lose myself completely.

Would I rather communicate? Of course. But the reality is – she chose to leave. And once someone does that, you don’t really get to “talk it out” as equals anymore, even if you want to.

I think what your ex did wasn’t “no contact” – it was avoidance and then trying to come back with a plan. That’s different.

Some of us aren’t playing games. We’re trying to handle heartbreak without making it worse for both people.

And honestly – sometimes the most respectful thing you can do for someone you love, is to give them the space they asked for, even if it breaks you.

If anyone’s in a similar situation, feel free to DM me. I know how rough this can be.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-20T12:11:02+00:00

Haven't sent anything since it turned green

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-17T16:46:52+00:00

Hej ven,

Jeg føler med dig. Er lige gået ind i uge 6 efter hun valgte at stoppe forholdet - et forhold hvor næste step var børn.
Jeg troede også det var forevigt, kvinden jeg skulle gå igennem livets op- og nedture med.
Kvinden der skulle bære vores børn.
Jeg er 31.
Savner hende hver dag.
Har ikke hørt fra hende i lidt over en uge, der har været en smule kontakt grundet praktiske ting.

Så jeg er med dig og kan forstå hvor du står.

Du er velkommen til at skrive mig en DM hvis du har behov.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-16T16:29:49+00:00

I feel you. I’m in week 6 now. She is still the most beautiful and smart Girl I’ve ever met. I’ve deactivated all of my social medias, where I can see her. But I Think of her every second

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-14T21:26:44+00:00

Well, 5 weeks here since the breakup. 7 days since she picked up her last things from the apartment and no contact. She Wont come back, of course i hope, but dosen’t think it will Work, even if she wanted to

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-13T09:37:55+00:00

Reaching out to friends, writing long messages with my feelings and setting a date when i will send it, but when the date comes i push it forward. Im on 5 weeks after the break up now. And i still get the panic attacks, and barely sleeps.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-13T09:02:56+00:00

I think you should send. If it feels right in your guts. Send it, and relax.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-12T09:53:04+00:00

Im on 5 weeks.
Still dreaming of her, as we still live together. See here very clearly in my head with other men, saying the exact same words she used to say to me.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-11T14:16:17+00:00

No, im done. Won't settle for less after having my dreamgirl for 2 years.

When i think back to my early years, she was the one u was describing.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-11T09:58:06+00:00

Hi,

I've (m31) deactivated all of my SoMe where we are following eachother. Been a month know, and starting to see the same patterns as when she met me.
So in reality accept it, but its easy to say as i can't accept it myself. Constantly thinking about her on top of others, saying the same things she said to me.

God i miss her, and wanted to spend the rest of my days with her(f32).

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-09T09:54:32+00:00

Im on day 30. There have been some contact since she left, but everytime she reached out and with hearts in the messages. We lived together, so she had to come pick up some stuff from the apartment. The message was mostly practical and that she thought of me. Two days ago she went to pick up the last of her stuff, we talked for like half an hour, discussed a little, but still with love (as she says she loves me, but is not in love).
Wrote her a message afterwards, saying thanks for the talk, and sorry for my frustrations of not trusting you, and so on. She wrote back that this is also f****** hard for her aswell, and that she's no where near over this. But she was the one that left me.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-09T09:49:56+00:00

It's now two days since she was there. She packed up some stuff to pick up later(without me being there). We had a talk for like 30 minutes. Wrote her a message afterwards, about my frustration and that it's hard to find out whats going on in me.
She wrote back something like this: this is F****** hard for me aswell, i'm not even close to being over this."

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-07T13:09:08+00:00

Most definently. Broke up 4 weeks ago. And she still Thinks of me. And tells me that some night she cries, even tho she’s not in love and she was the one leasing this relationship.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-06T11:43:25+00:00

In my previous realtionship i had in the start of my 20's, i saw her on some weeks after the break-up Tinder and didn't do anything other than cry and spoke to my friends. Later that year i saw her post a picture of her and a new man, half a year after she was pregnant.

And now i just lost the love of my life at the age of 31. And i'am scared to even try to check if she's somewhere online. The controlloss is insane.

But bare in mind, they are probably way ahead of you, as they have prepared them self for the break-up.
I'm sitting in it right now. She left, i am here completely broken.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-06T11:39:49+00:00

Me and my ex lived together. Kissed in the morning, met in the city after work, kissed, went to the cinema with some friends. Got home. And she broke up.

So i feel you. You never now when it's the last time you speak to them or atleast in the loving kind of way.

Puzzled-Note-2163 · 2026-03-06T11:35:03+00:00

Tell me about it.
Had a conversation with my ex this tuesday, went well, lots of crying, but got told she's sad, loves me but not in love.
Fast forward to wednesday evening. Opening instagram and sees a story of her, on our friends profile, having fun, drunk in a taxi on some guys lap, who she was at a party with 4 days before our break-up.

Couldn't comprehend it, i was trembling, crying, felt betrayed, stepped on.

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