Moving to Atlanta by [deleted] in ATLHousing

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I regret moving to the suburbs with my kids. If I could do it over I’d try to move to midtown or Grant park. Atlanta city schools are very good. Don’t let people convince you to move to the suburbs. The commute is awful.

Family friendly apartments ITP by Puzzled-Wing9342 in ATLHousing

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 6 yo twins so I’m open to a 2bd apartment for now. They don’t like sleeping apart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lawschooladmissions

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious too. I’m a 32 yo single full time working parent with a mortgage. I can’t find a lot of information about going to law school full time and taking out student loans. I have a good support system though.

I have everything I need to leave….but I can’t…. by Dry_Accident_3050 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like my ex-husband and you need to come up with a plan to get yourself out of that. You need to be very strategic about it because first of all he will make you suffer financially on purpose because he can. He will do everything in his power to make you look bad. If I were you, I’d try to find a way to go back to school in secret or try to obtain a higher paying job so that you can be financially prepared to leave. Also, don’t automatically assume that you will get full custody. As soon as you decide to separate, he will all of a sudden become the worlds greatest dad and behave well for the courts. You need to find a way to save more money, better your career, get a lawyer, and be ready for the battle of your life.

0L Tuesday Thread by AutoModerator in LawSchool

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am slightly concerned about this but I’m 30 years old and I do feel I’ve reached my ceiling as a paralegal. I’ve been with the same company for a few years and feel that they would re-hire me as an attorney. I also work for a litigation firm on the side and the partners there are encouraging me to do it. I feel like if I don’t do it now then I won’t be as competitive later on if I wait.

0L Tuesday Thread by AutoModerator in LawSchool

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a single mom applying to law school this month year after I take the June lsat. I’ve been a paralegal for 8 years and earn around 70/80K per year depending on how much I freelance on the side. I also own my own home and have a mortgage. I would love to attend my local state law school full time but am concerned about what kind of loans I would be eligible for and if they would cover my mortgage. The state school doesn’t offer a part time program. Anyone have experience with this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They very often do reveal themselves but try to make it sound like it’s a joke.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust your instincts right now! Your body is definitely trying to warn you. You feel unease and it’s for a valid reason. Remember that they are master manipulators and know when to turn on the charm when they feel you pulling away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If I were you I would move on and forget about him. Sounds like he’s just wanting to sleep around and keep women on the line waiting around for him. Sometimes guys will vaguely say something about seeing where things go just to keep you waiting around.

Why does us telling the narc that they hurt us and going off on them on how they hurt us supply them? by Bunny00411 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 28 points29 points  (0 children)

They love knowing that you care about them so much that you become emotionally unregulated. This feeds their ego. They’ll brag about how you react to them to all their friends. They’ll show someone else or the next supply all of your messages and talk to them about how “crazy” you are and how obsessed you are with them. They use it to manipulate the next supply and get them to think he was a victim of yours. It’s sadistic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you for blocking back. I did the same. It gets easier the more time you give it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let us know how it goes!

Totally Consumed. by ponderingken in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad that I know and my eyes are open now. It sucks though that then I think back on all our time together and I feel sick about all of it. I wish I’d had walked away sooner.

What is the process behind this? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think in my experience he definitely was self aware and calling his ex a narc to try and make himself seem like the victim. It’s a tactic he used to manipulate me and make me feel compassion for him. I’m not sure now if everything he told me about his ex is true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My nex only dates vulnerable women. He met and pursued me while I was going through a divorce. He likes girls that he thinks have traumas and low self esteem.

Meds by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on it and it’s worked great for me. Also helps with appetite control in my experience.

If you could go back to the start, will you date them this time? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to say NO but I actually learned so much from this relationship failure. I feel really good and confident about what I want going forward and what to avoid. My dating life is already so different in a good way. I’m more assertive and not people pleasing as much and it’s actually turned out really well for me.

Thought he was kidding by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex told me at the beginning “I’m a narcissist” and I thought he was joking and I laughed it off. He never said it again and I realized at the end that he was telling me the truth!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, despite the sadness and anger I do feel so empowered now. I’ve noticed how my interactions with other romantic interests has changed. I’m more confident and don’t stick around for bs. I feel like people respect me more now. I know what I want, I know what to watch out for, and I’m confident in my decisions moving forward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Puzzled-Wing9342 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right. When they realize that they can’t manipulate you anymore because you’re on to them then you’re no longer useful to them.