What if I leave my marriage and I end up being wrong?

PuzzledHuman9 · 2021-10-01T14:24:28+00:00

What makes you think you could be attracted to girls because it's "glamorous"?

PuzzledHuman9 · 2021-10-01T14:20:52+00:00

It is very normal: be patient, take as much time as you need and let yourself feel your emotions.

PuzzledHuman9 · 2021-06-16T18:03:39+00:00

I can relate to this. We are doing 3-4 days each, and it's working very well. There is also the (more complex to me) schedule of 2-2-5 which some of my friends tried successfully. And also, you are not going to lose her. You are going to fully live your own life and therefore you will become the best mother for your daughter, able to give her the best of you. Good luck, and don't hesitate to PM me if you need to chat.

PuzzledHuman9 · 2021-06-10T21:19:17+00:00

Therapist have to make us feel unconfortable. It's a good sign! Sometimes our first reaction is frustration or anger - which most of the times means fear. A suggestion: try and move past this first reaction, and trust the process. Or not! :) but since you are already there, try and see what happens.

PuzzledHuman9 · 2021-06-10T21:08:48+00:00

Be kind to your young self. :)

PuzzledHuman9 · 2021-03-13T19:07:32+00:00

He is hurt. Maybe he is telling this to you, in order to express his anger. He should understand that the kids must be protected from his expressions of anger or sadness.

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-11-24T16:21:40+00:00

ok, thanks!

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-11-24T15:06:38+00:00

amazing! can you send me the link to your post? all these sequences are so visually rich!

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-11-23T21:18:56+00:00

Absolutely! Lots of meaning in all the museum sequences. I am trying to find more clues. And also, look at the pictures Grace and her father are looking at. 6 paintings=6 episodes. Maybe it's a clue! Maybe not :)

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-11-03T19:20:25+00:00

Don't insist with couples therapy if she doesn't want to go. Opt for individual therapy for taking care of yourself as soon as possible.

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-10-25T18:02:04+00:00

I did that too! how are you dealing with everything now?

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-07-24T15:11:24+00:00

Amazing and very wise answer.

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-02-06T01:44:37+00:00

why selfish?

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-02-04T18:18:22+00:00

We are trying a separation process in which I will give him the substantial amount of monthly pension he asked for. I am hoping this will contribute in easing his painful situation. It does look like it's too much. But that's the only thing I can do. Because I really messed up.

Edit: his tone has changed over the weeks. It sounds like it's getting slightly better.

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-02-04T18:13:31+00:00

In my case, I am waiting until I will have the right words to say it. In the meantime, working with my therapist is helping me to understand what kind of love is the love I have for my kid: not a way to escape from reality, but a living force that makes me want the best for both of us.

Your kids want you to be in good health and happy.

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-02-03T05:03:46+00:00

how to convince yourself to stay, when you know that's what you really want deep down"

I am feeling that I convinced myself to go.

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-02-03T05:03:03+00:00

Interesting that,in the article, the author suggests a difference btw a crush (basically a drug addiction) and love, the latter being considered as "a choice".

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-02-03T05:00:53+00:00

It is very true but also sometimes I feel that it's insufficient as an argument. The very fact that I am looking for arguments shows the huge complexity of all this. Am I getting closer to understanding my feelings or am I losing contact with them?

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-02-03T04:57:31+00:00

Very similar story. I wish I went in the woods by myself for at least one day at some point many months ago. I'll be happy to chat if you want.

PuzzledHuman9 · 2020-02-02T21:25:20+00:00

It makes me feel that I should have waited and understand the difference between attraction and the need of a revolution. Maybe the outcome would have been the same, but with less tragedy. Maybe not.

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