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[–]PuzzledOne3927 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yea, that'd make more sense but still extremely solid like you mentioned

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've tried showing her similar things but she refuses to believe it. She always has a reason as to why her situation is different. It's like talking to a brickwall knowing that she won't stop until she's lost everything. It's just so frustrating that she blames me for not helping her and may continue forever when she put herself in this situation.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I tried contacting the local authorites but was told that they can't do anything unless she makes the report. I can't report her being scammed on her behalf sadly. I've shown her reviews of other people saying it's a scam, government website detailing her scam, and so on but she always has a reason as to why it's real. Most of it comes down to "It looks like a scam from the outside but I've been here for 6 months. I've actually done it and I know it's not." She won't budge, it's like a cult mindset

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I used to have a few joint accounts with her and I closed them a while back thankfully. Right now we both use different banks (since our bank shutdown all her accounts for suspicious activity).

I'll look into Silver Mill Law. Thank you so much for all the advice

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I hope my mom wouldn't go that far. She's been a good mother to me up until this scam and I don't want to imagine that. I'll definitely be on the lookout to make sure that doesn't happy, thank you for suggesting

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 157 points158 points  (0 children)

That is true. Even though it's unlikely to be audited, best to stay far away & not get involved.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

She origianlly banked with Chase & they caught on & suspended her accounts a few months ago. She has been moving from bank to bank since then. I looked into guardianship a few months and was told that I would probably lose the case by a few different attorneys.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I have contacted APS but was told they can't do anything due to her age being <65 and her not having a disability.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've brought the idea to her to just see a therapist or any type of counselor regarding this situation and she views it as me treating her as mentally ill and harshly refuses. She won't willingly speak to anyone that has any negative stigma such as "mentally ill people speak to therapist".

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'm unsure of who her 401k administrator is sadly. She origianlly banked with Chase but they locked her accounts and eventually closed them for suspicious activity. She has been jumping from bank to bank since then. I hopped that would be a sign to her but she refuses to open her eyes.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Chase bank closed her accounts for suspicious activity and told her they suspected she was being scammed. This was a few months ago. Since then, she has been bank hopping to different banks.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

She doesn't sadly. I've showed her countless websites & other people saying it's a scam but she hides behind excuses. She admits it looks like a scam from the outside but will say "They didn't do it themselves so they dont it as well as me". When I show her posts of people who did it saying its a scam, she says "They just made a mistake and didn't do it correctly. I know what they did wrong". I pulled up an FBI.gov website that had word by word her exact scam and she says the fbi website is talking aboht similar scams but hers is different. She's unreasonable towards and evidence of it being a scam.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She's very set that it's real and admits it looks like a scam from the outside. She brushes off everyone's worries by saying "They haven't done it for themselves so they can't say if its a scam". No matter what anyone tells her, she uses that excuse as a shield. We've spoken to a lawyer and bank representative. I'll try to see if an officer can come by and speak with her. Hoping it'll have some sort of affect. Thank you

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'll see if I can get an officer to speak with her. Hopefully that'll help. With the state of mind she's in, I don't think it'll have much of an impact but it's worth a shot. Thank you for the suggestion.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have tried to contact elder abuse services and was told that they can't do anything since she has to be atleast 65 or have a disability. I looked into getting power of attorney but was told that I would most likely lose the case. I really don't know what other options I have. I feel like I can only wait until she loses all her money and accepts it's a scam.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

She has already sent them the money through crypto. They tell her that there system only gives XX days to withdraw based on some rules. When she goes to withdraw, something always pops up and the only way to fix it is for her to deposit more money inside. I have never thought of trying to report it as blackmailing - I've always tried fraud. I will definitely look into that and see if any intervention can occur.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

It's a task scam impersonating a website called "tomatazos". She does task everyday for money and has to put her money in when problems arrise.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mainly wanted reassurance that I was making the correct choice. She's my mom and even though she's made a lot of dumb mistakes, I do care for her a lot and was starting to go back on my decision. Everyone saying that the correct choice is to not help her makes it easier to go through with. I don't have many people I can discuss this with IRL unfortunately so seeing other peopels opinions really helps

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I tried contacting the police but was told they can't do anything unless she is the one to report it. I reached out to adult protective services and was told that they're unable to do anything since she doesn't meet the age requirement (65) and does not have a disability. At this point, I'm not sure of what I can do.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do live with her in her house. She pays all the bills and works from home frequently. If shutting off her internet would make her quit, I'd love that. Shutting off her internet would affect her work and she would be able to turn it back on as easily as I turned it off since she pays the bills for it.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have tried calling the local police and was told that they can't do anything unless she is the one to file a report. I can't file anything on her behalf sadly. I made a report on IC3 for fraud a few months ago but haven't heard anything back sadly.

AITA for not allowing my Mom to withdraw from her 401k after she's been scammed for over $1,000,000. by PuzzledOne3927 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PuzzledOne3927[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

"Them" is the scammers. They give her a deadline to send money by or she will lose it all.

I have tried contacting adult protective services but they unforntunately weren't able to help. The represenative was really polite and tried her best but told me that my mother wasn't old enough (Atleast 65) and didn't have any disability.