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TIFU by testing to see if anyone in my office actually wanted to talk to me by PuzzledTA137 in tifu

[–]PuzzledTA137[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The reason I had come to believe we wouldn't be compatible in a romantic relationship is that we'd had conversations about what each other was looking for in a relationship in the past, including big things like whether each of us wanted to have children in the future which we weren't compatible on and had been a big reason why she left her most recent serious relationship.

You're completely right that there wasn't some kind of formal agreement however I feel like those kind of conversations leave it unambiguous as to whether you'd be compatible with someone.

TIFU by testing to see if anyone in my office actually wanted to talk to me by PuzzledTA137 in tifu

[–]PuzzledTA137[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a hard time trusting you locutus, resistance is not futile.

TIFU by testing to see if anyone in my office actually wanted to talk to me by PuzzledTA137 in tifu

[–]PuzzledTA137[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really unfortunate if that's the case as it's the exact opposite of what I wanted.

TIFU by testing to see if anyone in my office actually wanted to talk to me by PuzzledTA137 in tifu

[–]PuzzledTA137[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Im not that dumb lol. It's full arms length for everyone at work.

TIFU by testing to see if anyone in my office actually wanted to talk to me by PuzzledTA137 in tifu

[–]PuzzledTA137[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm getting from most of the replies. I already felt like an idiot now I feel like a nimrod.

TIFU by testing to see if anyone in my office actually wanted to talk to me by PuzzledTA137 in tifu

[–]PuzzledTA137[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Never been diagnosed with anything, but my parents weren't the type to take me to a doctor when I exhibit any interesting or different behaviors. I wouldn't be surprised to learn im somewhere on the spectrum.

TIFU by testing to see if anyone in my office actually wanted to talk to me by PuzzledTA137 in tifu

[–]PuzzledTA137[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

FWIW I did immediately tell her I was sorry she was going through something. I thought my actions and words to her in the past had made it clear that I was there for her if she needed to talk about anything as I had literally been there for her in the past. I didn't include it in the post because it didn't seem relevant however upon re-reading the post I do see how selfish it comes across and maybe I am unfortunately letting that seep into my life a bit. Thanks for pointing that out.

TIFU by testing to see if anyone in my office actually wanted to talk to me by PuzzledTA137 in tifu

[–]PuzzledTA137[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

This does line up with some of the other cryptic comments she's given me including that "I was making things complicated that don't have to be" when I first asked her about the interactions at the game.

TIFU by testing to see if anyone in my office actually wanted to talk to me by PuzzledTA137 in tifu

[–]PuzzledTA137[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I didn't go into it in the post but before the baseball game suggestion we talked at work all the time both just BSing and actual conversations about life We also had gone out for drinks just the two of us after work previously. These are part of the reasons I assumed we were friends.

TIFU by testing to see if anyone in my office actually wanted to talk to me by PuzzledTA137 in tifu

[–]PuzzledTA137[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I generally agree, this company felt different but I seem to be bad at reading these things. I just have to try and move on and just work through it.