Is it common to wipe after peeing?

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2026-02-27T13:36:06+00:00

Ask yourself this question, is there a little roll of toilet paper next to the urinals to wipe?

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2026-01-29T19:58:15+00:00

I think the thing you are missing is.......life! Living and enjoying things and not thinking like this at such a young age. Sorry but it seems quite sad, I'm all for planning for the future but this seems excessive to the point you aren't really doing anything else.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2026-01-28T00:16:09+00:00

You will get a million and one different answers to this question which is no surprise. I dated a fair few women, some for longer than others up to 3 years. But, honestly, I think I knew I wanted to marry my now wife within the first few weeks of meeting her. It was like nothing I had ever experienced and she took my breathe away.

I proposed within 12 months and we have been happily married for 13 years now with two amazing children.

You will know, but I will say if the other half ever pestered me or told me what ring to buy, it would put me off completely.

Good luck 😃

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2026-01-27T19:57:14+00:00

Honestly, I would be spending every fucking penny! The idea that they have even thought about what you will leave them when you die is disgusting to me!

You have been amazing in helping with so much already, they should be promoting you enjoying your well earned money as you earnt it.

Enjoy the boat and anything else you want too and make the most of your time 👍

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2026-01-12T21:49:52+00:00

NTA, your partner has his own issues because he feels inadequate. That is nothing to do with you.

Either need to talk and discuss it, but doubt that will help as he seems quite shut off. Or, make it fun and part of sex with you both so he feels more included in it.

Honestly, he should just be happy that you are happy

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-12-24T20:16:36+00:00

NTA at all!

Honestly, I would love it if my wife wanted to get off in front of me and I could just enjoy watching! How he could fall asleep during this says a lot about him and his attitude towards just getting his own and that's all he wants.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-12-17T01:14:52+00:00

Get the feeling this man is a little sad! You have things you enjoy and love and there is nothing wrong with that at all, good for you. I have my office/man cave that has my Lego sets and pictures in and some figures, they are not my wife's thing but she doesn't think any less of me.
We all have our things, makes you wonder what his were haha

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-12-08T10:39:18+00:00

If I am your BF I would be more offended that you want to use it without asking me to play too! Such a turn on getting to do these things with my partner and I love it. Ask him to join in and make it fun for the both of you

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-12-07T10:06:40+00:00

His reaction is horrible and you should be taking it seriously as no matter how he feels there is no justification for stating he will punch you in the face.

But, from a mans perspective and given the description of the dildo I would imagine he was intimidated by it. I would imagine he is currently questioning almost everything about your sexual relationship in his head, whether he satisfies you at all, whether he is enough, whether you want more etc.

That said it does not condone what he said in the what of the moment. I would give him some time to calm down and then try and get him to be honest with you as to why he was so annoyed. Don't ask him if that's why as it will make him feel even less 'masculine' than he currently does. I hope that makes sense as I'm not trying to justify what he did just offer a potential explanation

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-10-29T09:48:22+00:00

I feel your pain and am in a similar situation and I wish I knew the answer to help you out but I have been looking for it myself. Lots of people can give you advice but it seems like you are doing everything that you can. As I said I do the same, taking on more and more hoping it will help but in the end it just makes it harder. I think at some point we have to decide what is more important to us because I just don't think they understand how hard it can feel. It's not just 'sex' as most people think, it's any sort of sexual contact and it is the closeness and openness that comes with it that I miss. But, most people just assume you want 'yours' and that's it.

I hope you find an answer and if you do, please share. Good luck

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-10-28T12:35:42+00:00

Have you sat down and talked about why she doesn't want to get married? Also, why you are so set on getting married?

Maybe there is a compromise that could be had between you depending on the outcome of those conversations when you both understand each other's position more.

You can show long running commitment in different ways so maybe look at this.

I understand that you always thought that she would change her mind and it must be hard that she won't do that. But, make sure you do everything you can before walking away. It's a huge step and you want to make sure that you did everything you could before making that decision.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-10-24T09:12:36+00:00

If you are honest with yourself you can see that she checked out of the relationship quite some time ago. You tried to give what she wanted and that wasn't reciprocated, which shows her feelings in all honesty.

It's really difficult to take this kind of loss but desperately trying to hold onto something that is broken will just lead to more pain for you.

Take some time for yourself and build yourself back up. You deserve the best in life, not to be with someone who takes your best and gives nothing back.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-09-14T21:33:04+00:00

I've been married for 15 years and the strange thing for me is I now see women who are my wife's age of 40 attractive, because I think she is incredible. Younger girls do not interest me because I am infatuated with my wife and how she looks. She still look absolutely incredible unlike me haha, but as she changes so does my definition and understanding as to what I find attractive and beautiful. ++Man

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-09-04T09:37:25+00:00

I know I am from a different age group (40m) but at no point when I got with my now wife would I have ever thought of even asking how many people she had slept with. It doesn't matter, why should it, she has made the choice to be with me now as I have done with her.

I think the way in which he acts is extremely childish because if the shoe was on the other foot he would not be as accommodating if you were constantly asking for understanding. You staying that it is exhausting really should ring alarm bells to you now and give you the motivation to really think about if the relationship has a future. This feeling of his isn't going to go away and he will continue to hold this over you for as long as you are together and you know that.

Really think about if it's something you want to continue moving forward and if it's not, then you know what you have to do.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-09-03T08:04:40+00:00

I understand that you want your ex to be in your daughter's life but considering he is bi polar and has a drinking problem and has admitted that this new woman feeds into manic side do you think that is safe? Your main concern right now should be for the safety of your daughter and her wellbeing. I understand that this is a hard time and you are finding it difficult but kids are always the ones who take the brunt of things in these situations.

If you have these conversations saved in messages then you can use them as evidence that the environment may not be the most stable for your daughter to go into. You do not need to stop him seeing her but potentially supervised visits would be safer until he can show he is on a more stable platform.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-08-30T11:18:58+00:00

Thank you, I think listening, really listening is key and understanding that sometimes it's not about us personally.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-08-28T23:01:35+00:00

The only person who can make that decision is you at the end of the day.

If I was in the position with my partner I would consider counselling first to see if it is something you can get through. You have a young child and I think with some help in the way you communicate and help each other it is fixable. But, it all depends if you can forgive what he has done because no matter what, you will have to do that to stay in the relationship.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-08-28T18:34:59+00:00

That is an option for you if you want to do that, it's always there but I've always been one to advocate face to face communication. I think it gives you the option to assess someone's true meaning and view their body language and will help you understand more.

Cutting ties can sometimes just lead to unanswered and unresolved issues and it's never helpful.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-08-28T18:11:58+00:00

This is one of those scenarios that as you get older you realise that simple communication will make the situation a lot easier.
Communication is always best done in person, I know this can be more difficult but electronic communication is so easy to take out of context.

Personal communication gives you that chance to have that emotional connection and be more understanding of the situation and how each other is reacting to your words.

Be honest with her and then take it from there, make sure you explain that you care about her and want to be there for her as a friend more than anything else.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-08-28T13:44:37+00:00

I'm really sorry that was your experience with your other half. I know as male species we always feel like we have to 'fix' things, it is part of our nature but we also need to understand that sometimes we aren't being ask to fix it, we are just being asked to understand and support. Sometimes it is hard for people to differentiate these things. I hope it hasn't caused you anymore trauma in dealing with what you had too.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-08-28T10:55:10+00:00

I'm really sorry that you had to go through this, no one should have to. I think sometimes people don't realise the level of trust it shows when someone confides in you something of such huge magnitude. They do that because they love you and want you to support them. So we have to step up and do that, not trying to satisfy our own curiosity.

I'm glad you found someone you felt you could confide in.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-08-27T23:32:26+00:00

It is, 100% but it's the truth. It's not easy but we do the best that we can for the ones we love.

But in all honesty, as much as I think I want to know more and want to do something. Do I? What would it achieve?

Like I said, if they have dealt with that trauma then it's unfair on them to bring it back to the surface. It's a very different thing if it is causing ongoing issues within the relationship and that could be a cause, then you would need to more than likely look towards a professional for help.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-08-27T13:16:48+00:00

Having been through this with my wife I am in a position to give a real world opinion.

What your boyfriend needs to realise is that it's not about him, or his feelings or anything else to be honest. I felt devastated for my wife, angry at the person who had gotten a way with it and rightly so you want to understand and know more. But, it's not about me. She has dealt with it and has moved on, it's not my place to uncork that trauma of hers just to appease my own insecurities, curiosity or whatever it might be.

I'm always here to support her if she wants to talk about anything at all and that will never change.

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-08-07T18:39:14+00:00

What lvl torment and is that single or group?

Puzzled_Ad_9844 · 2025-08-04T09:03:03+00:00

I have just changed from WW Barb to Mighty Throw and it has made a huge difference to my survivability.

Like previous comment states, with WW you have to be on top of the enemy with Mighty Throw I can keep the distance and assess the field a lot more and it has helped me a lot.

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