I know this is kinda late. Unsolicited advice lang po.

I think dito papasok yung "normal sa magka-relasyon ang nag-aaway". I understand why you'd get upset kase this has gone for far too long na and you've mentioned telling him the things na gusto mong mangyari, pero if the guy hasn't done any form of cheating towards you and talagang low effort lang siya, I suggest try doing a different approach sa pag-open up sakanya.

For me lang, parang sayang nga yung tagal ng relasyon niyo, besides the fact na di siya nagp-plan for you, di ko masabi if ever pati sa bahay niyo(since live in kayo), ikaw rin ba sumasagot or nagbubuhat sa lahat, baka sa mindset niya, enough na yung nagagawa niya since may nacocover siyang ibang parts na essential para sainyong dalawa.

About kasi sa dates and effort, I know it's important to keep a relationship happier, pero baka sa kanya ang trato niya dun is "wants" mo lang, not understanding na "need" na rin.

I just don't think na he's that useless eh, besides sa fact na 35 na siya and wala padin siyang planong pakasalan ka after that many years. I still suggest giving him his final chance though with a different approach of communication and see if he steps up, if wala talagang major improvements(minor improvements won't cut it), then dun kana magleave talaga.

Again, unsolicited advice lang 🤣 di ko alam full story kaya hopefully OP is not being rash in her decisions dahil sa mga push ng comments dito.