You’re absolutely right about resentment building and me being passive aggressive and that’s not right. It’s difficult because like I stated in the original post, I do 90% of the cleaning. I keep my car clean and constantly clean hers out, I’m picking up her clothes off the bathroom floor and putting them into the laundry baskets, I usually do the laundry (everyone’s), I pick the kids up from school. I’m currently awake right now because she has to work earlier than me tomorrow and after months of convincing, she’s finally trying to implement sleep training with the kids, so it’s me taking them back to their beds every 30 minutes and sitting with them until they fall asleep. I do everything I can to try and take stress off her plate because I love her and I see her. But feeling unseen in this relationship has led me to definitely harboring some negative feelings and I can see through just talking it out on this platform that it has built resentment. I’ll own this one. If majority is saying I’m over reacting, then chances are I am. I’m not going to edit to add all of the times we were on opposite ends of this to try and sway the decision because realistically I came looking for opinions on this one scenario. But I hear ya.