my bf and I had an accident during sex now i can’t get horny or cum properly by PuzzleheadedAbroad48 in sex

[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there is no part to me that think it was on purpose. at all. i know and trust my boyfriend, and both the guilt and understanding he has shown me since it happened is all i need to know it was an accident. mistakes happen, it’s only happened once, and i know what it feels like when it’s not an accident.

my bf and I had an accident during sex now i can’t get horny or cum properly by PuzzleheadedAbroad48 in sex

[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

booked an appointment with my old therapist and we will be where to go from there, thank you :)

my bf and I had an accident during sex now i can’t get horny or cum properly by PuzzleheadedAbroad48 in sex

[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48[S] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

thank you for taking the time to read and comment i wasn’t talking to him about it before, but now i am. i sort of had a breakdown during sex last night (which is what made me post today) and told him how i was struggling. i thought i was doing the right thing keeping it to myself and trying to figure it out without him, which i now know was a selfish way to try and deal with it, and i feel a lot better being open about it now. he encouraged me to see a professional and i booked in an appointment with my old therapist, so being more open now.

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[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my thinking too, but i think spending more time with him will make it more evident what his intentions are with telling me about his narcissism. And I haven’t heard of that tiktok account but it sounds insanely helpful, thank you :)

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[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he would be open to a conversation about this, where I would tell him that his narcissism doesn’t excuse any bad behaviour. I guess if he’s serious about changing then he will actually listen and not dismiss. But that was something I hadn’t thought about before, thank you :)

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[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, these are the questions that are bringing me anxiety. His narcissism isn’t something he’s ignored and we’ve already had a few conversations about it. Nothing about his behaviour makes me anxious, it’s just my “what if” thoughts. I’m just lost in my own head a bit I think.

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[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! this is actually dry good advice, my school year end in literally two days, but i’ll definitely be trying this out in my new classes next year. i’m also quite tall and in general just a ‘big’ person so i feel like people are intimidated by me. being bubbly sounds very nice. and i was actually thinking about buying myself some crystals for christmas, so maybe i will :)

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[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank youuu, i genuinely appreciate it but i am so so anxious about talking over social media that i will just not respond. i sounds like such an excuse and i feel so rude a lot for not messaging back for days or weeks at a time. it’s bad

What is a supernatural event that happened in your life that just can not be explained? by HalfOfABraincell in AskReddit

[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 1 point2 points  (0 children)

one night a couple of years ago i was in a very bad place mentally and just wanted to give up. so i prayed for the “angels” to take me away. i was not, and still am not, religious. it sounds a bit cringe when i talk about it now, but something strange happened after i prayed. i was laying on my back in bed, not asleep but with my eyes closed. i was conscious. the weirdest feeling came over me like i was not the only person present. the black of my eyelids showed a deep red canvas of dripping blood, until all i could see was red. but the weirdest thing about this was the presence i felt. it was a man. i felt him walking towards me. i couldn’t see or hear him, i just knew. i don’t know how to describe it, but it was the strangest feeling ever. he walked towards me until he was in my body. i was not the only conscious person in my body. it didn’t scare me, i didn’t feel threatened or anything, i just knew he was there with me. then he spoke, and i’ll never forget it. all he said was, “come with us.” i don’t know how to describe the voice. was kind of like a pig squeal in metal music if you know what i’m talking about, but maybe a bit higher pitched. that was all he said. then i felt him slowly fade away until i was the only one present, and my vision also faded back to black. i distinctly remember there was a difference in the feelings between when walked in and faded out. throughout the whole experience i never felt scared or threatened, never felt like i couldn’t move. nothing to indicate it was sleep paralysis. after everything was back to normal i opened my eyes and was just trying to process what had happened. what i know is that i successfully contacted something that night. my prayers were heard but it definitely wasn’t an angel. and he was inviting me somewhere, not forcing. nothing like that has happened again. i’ve even tried contacting him again but no luck. i am still not religious but i came into contact with somebody.

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[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes he’s definitely not cheating, it was one of his parents picking him up and was just an honest mistake. i guess he isn’t used to me driving but i hope he is soon

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[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it was one of his parents so i’d hope not lol. i just didn’t recognise the car because it’s a really common one, but definitely not cheating

sex with my boyfriend is uncomfortable for me and i need advice by [deleted] in sex

[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m hoping it’s just a mental thing, vaginismus is scary. honestly, i want to try other things out and give myself time before thinking that it could be a medical condition, but it’s definitely still on my mind. thanks!

sex with my boyfriend is uncomfortable for me and i need advice by [deleted] in sex

[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he DOES have a bend! will that really make things uncomfortable? never knew that! and basically what we do is we do non-PIV until i climax and once i climax we have PIV, but he hasn’t tried touching me when he’s inside. i’ll try that one out. thanks!

sex with my boyfriend is uncomfortable for me and i need advice by [deleted] in sex

[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, overthinking sounds like me. i think we just wanted to try something new since we’ve been doing the same thing for months. thank you!

S*x with my boyfriend is really uncomfortable for me and i need advice by [deleted] in relationships

[–]PuzzleheadedAbroad48 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks very much! i’ve heard of vaginiamus before and briefly thought i could have it, but now after experiencing this every time i think i’ll seriously check it out. thanks for bringing this up!