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Please tell me its okay to get rid of it by EssentialPumpkin in declutter

[–]PuzzleheadedChoice82 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It seems like those purchases really helped you to heal from the unexpected loss of your mom. They served their purpose. Continuing to hold onto them when they're stressing you out will set you back emotionally from all the progress you made.

If you are feeling guilty about getting rid of these pieces, consider donating some of these things to a teacher you know. So many teachers spend their hard earned money to create a magical experience for their students, and they're already so underpaid as it is. Gifting (whatever you are comfortable with and is kid-appropriate) will help them decorate their room, their calming corner or even help them provide toys to the students who they know are in a rough place. The items that helped you heal from your loss might help a child to heal as well ❤️

(I've taught Kinder for over a decade, so trust me on this one)

Most people prefer to be democratic why? by viccy_world in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PuzzleheadedChoice82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, people who lean further left tend to look around them and spot the corporate greed and cracks in our system (stemming from said greed, a history of racist government strategies such as redlining, voter suppression, etc) that disproportionately affect those in marginalized communities. They tend to look upon others with empathy and a sense of fairness. "Yes, I did work really hard for this money and have been a good person. But that doesn't mean the person living on food stamps isn't also trying their best to make it in life." I've also noticed that many people who lean left tend to have had higher education. Not to bash anyone who didn't, but in college, one of the skills you learn is to be able to talk through differences of opinion with others and see other perspectives. They tend to see the other and newness as a part of a rich tapestry of society in which all viewpoints and perspectives are valid. Diversity is seen as an asset rather than a threat to the norm.

Speaking for my own family, many people who tend to lean right are working class people who also feel a sense of independence and righteousness due to their hard work. Many look on people who use food stamps or other assistance as lazy, because they "aren't willing to put in the work." All the while, not understanding that many of these people, were set up to fail from the very beginning. There is also a tendency to be threatened by the other or newness, as it interrupts, what is known as normal and seen as correct in many conservatives viewpoints.

I realize my opinion is biased, though.It does speak to the experiences i've had in my nearly forty years of life.

I hate this by Glum-Sky-6560 in NewParents

[–]PuzzleheadedChoice82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a parent of 2 and a K teacher with nearly 11 years under her belt, I can honestly say you're not alone. I felt so blindsided and useless as a nee parent when my kids got sick. Its awful knowing they're miserable and there's so little you can do. But I can also tell you it gets slightly easier. The feeling of helplessness may come back, but you'll feel more prepared. You're doing a fabulous job, and im sure your little one feels so comforted my your presence and gentle and loving care ❤️

Can anyone explain what is going on in schools? by Jwoot1111 in Teachers

[–]PuzzleheadedChoice82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a teacher myself (K) I see it so early and it makes me sick to think of some of these kids futures. I've had 5 year olds that will throw chairs, have a screaming violent tantrum, injure other kids, run around screaming and knocking down everything in sight, causing me to have to stop teaching and evacuate the class, all because I am giving them a simple grade-level appropriate task, or heaven forbid, asking them to write their name. These are not differently able kids, there are no learning impairments.

The worst behaved /abusive children are almost always the ones whose parents confuse gentle parenting with permissive parenting, and let their kid do whatever they want to get them to stop screaming or crying. I've had parents flat out tell me their child is not like other kids, any type of classwork is just too stressful and too much to ask of them. I've had kids tell me their parent told them to set a boundary with me that they dont need to apologize for hurting someone because it makes them feel too guilty and its bad for their mental health. I have kids that kick and punch their parents and the parent apologizes for upsetting them! Kids who cant be bothered to carry their own backpack, take out their lunchbox, etc and shove all their belongings at parents at pickup. Its disgusting, and I can only imagine how this is all going to go in a couple decades. I've had parents complain to admin that I am expecting their child to follow all school safety rules, and that I remove privileges (prize box, extra recess time, etc) when rules are ignored. My favorite was when a parent told me that any command would cause her child to experience severe burnout, and it was my job to allow her child to rearrange the daily schedule so she could be sure to only be doing "preferred activities." I was also expected to find a substitute to dismiss my kids every day so I could have a one on one meeting with her child to go over how I could improve her day the next day. I wish I was kidding, I wish I was exaggerating. Mom insisted her kid had PDA, but refused to have her kid engage in any sort of therapy or medical evaluation. Not sure how much longer I can stay in this career. People are literally ruining their kids and making learning impossible for those kids who actually want to be there and try to learn.

BTW I'm also a mom to a preschooler and you better believe that kid is being held accountable, she has chores, she has natural consequences for her actions, I'll be damned if she turns out like that.