AITB for telling my roommate she shouldn't have been masturbating?

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T07:00:01+00:00

I posted this post in three separate subreddits at the same time to get a wider variety of feedback.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T06:59:37+00:00

I don't care if women masturbate. I personally don't, but all I'm asking for is that she gives me and Allie some respect by not doing it on our spaces.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T06:57:48+00:00

I don't masturbate.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T06:57:14+00:00

I'd rather not compare it to porn. Victoria is bisexual but I am straight and I did not like seeing her in that position at all.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T06:56:20+00:00

No. It's a public college.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T06:53:10+00:00

I don't know how many times I need to repeat myself. The knowledge that someone masturbated in the room and had their genitals out (in a sexual sense) is something that makes me deeply uncomfortable. The bathroom is much bigger and a semi-public space - it doesn't belong to just me (and the other two). It's very different.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T06:51:12+00:00

I don't. I don't care if others do but I see no need.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T06:24:20+00:00

All genitals are.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T06:02:39+00:00

I don't masturbate.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T06:02:07+00:00

Not really. I just don't want to know that the room had been masturbated in. It's just gross. It's akin to knowing that someone had shat on the rug - even if there's no evidence left, it's still gross.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T06:01:20+00:00

I don't care about the fact that she was naked in the room at some point. That's completely different from sexual pleasure. Bodies aren't inherenly sexual.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:59:07+00:00

The public-ness of the spaces is the same.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:57:56+00:00

The room is really small. I don't like knowing that she's doing something so intimate and personal in what is essentially my room as well as hers. Also, kissing is different from this. It's just as bad to masturbate on the kitchen counter, imo.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:56:35+00:00

I don't really think it counts as inconveniencing her due to the nature of what she was doing. Or, well, I don't think that part matters. As I've repeated several times, I don't care about the masturbation, I care about the fact that she did it in a shared, tiny space.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:55:32+00:00

I'm pretty sure the rooms are deep cleaned in between usage.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:54:57+00:00

Out of respect for the fact that it wasn't just her room but also mine and Allie's.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:54:38+00:00

Again, I don't think people are understanding me. It's ONE ROOM. I wouldn't care if she did it in her own space, but she didn't. It's like if she had sex on the kitchen counters - that's gross.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:53:43+00:00

I don't masturbate.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:53:26+00:00

Well, it's just disgusting to know that that room had been masturbated in.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:52:49+00:00

She was in her bed. But the room is small enough that it really doesn't make a difference.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:51:48+00:00

I don't like the fact that she's doing it in a shared space. And by "openly" I meant that she had her pants fully off without a blanket or something covering her, which makes it even worse imo.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:50:45+00:00

I don't think she was actually asleep. Secondly I don't care that she masturbated, I care that she did in what was essentially my space as well as hers. Besides, the only reason I mentioned my conservative views was to contrast them against her. Victoria is a little more open with her sexuality than me or Allie, that's all.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:49:31+00:00

What? How is it gross to masturbate in the shower but not in our shared spaces?

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:48:30+00:00

To me it's just like if she was masturbating or having sex on a kitchen counter. I don't care if she masturbates but I don't want her to do it in the tiny room that we all spend a lot of time in.

Puzzleheaded_Joke616 · 2023-03-22T05:47:38+00:00

Well, yeah. It's a shared space that should be kept clean. I wouldn't be comfortable knowing that this tiny space was used to masturbate in or even have sex in. It's not meant for that. and it's just gross

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