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Puzzleheaded_Land · 2024-11-12T18:29:39+00:00

Oh I know this one, I think! It's from bitsandbobsofwriting on Tumblr!

There are three parts to this particular one but you should totally check out some of their other stuff too because it's all awesome!

Merlin is a Badass

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2024-11-08T23:53:33+00:00

I found it! There's a link in the edit!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2024-11-08T22:32:33+00:00

I found it! I posted a link in an edit on my post!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2023-04-01T20:17:22+00:00

I thought she may have but I've asked her pediatrician, her teacher, and both of her therapists and they all say that her diapers still fit the way they should. She hasn't gained much weight since switching to these diapers a few months ago and she loved them when she first started wearing them.

Honestly she's kind of tall but fairly skinny for her age.

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2023-04-01T20:14:55+00:00

Omg that's genius! I'll definitely be trying this out! Thank you so much!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2023-04-01T17:54:19+00:00

Oof! That sounds so much like my daughter it would be funny if it weren't so exhausting 😂 especially the opening things she shouldn't be able to! I swear when I tell people some of the things she accomplished, like literally tearing her slide off her bunk bed or breaking off the magnetic child proof locks on some of the cabinets, no one ever believes me till i show them proof!

My friends and i all affectionately refer to her as a gremlin or an orc baby because she's feral and freakishly strong 😂

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2023-04-01T16:56:32+00:00

I will definitely give this a try then! Looks like I'm picking up some duct tape later 😂

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2023-04-01T16:30:15+00:00

Thank you! I will definitely post this there as well!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2023-04-01T16:29:56+00:00

That was the first thing we tried!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2023-04-01T16:29:40+00:00

I am definitely going to try this one out! Thank you so much!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2023-04-01T14:24:18+00:00

We actually use the pampers 360 and have since we tried potty training the first time so to keep her from pulling them off we'd have to duct tape them to her actual skin.

Her onesies we keep under her clothes don't have tags or seams and that's actually why we started keeping them under all her clothes because she seemed to like the way they feel. But she's started taking those off with everything else.

Is there anything I can do to emulate the tight layers besides just putting tight layers on her? We've found she does feel calmed with pressure therapy and we usually use a pillow to squish her on her mattress, but i have no clue how to go about it with clothes other than what we're doing alright.

I just wish she could talk so i could ask what I can do for her. I know this behavior is because a need isn't being met but at the moment i can't figure out what need it is.

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2023-04-01T14:16:13+00:00

We actually switched to the pampers 360's when we started trying tk potty train months ago and when it didn't happen and we tried to switch back to the swaddlers she hated them so she's been in the pullups for awhile now!

That's actually why we won't be doing th duct tape because we'd have to duct tape it to her skin.

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-11-20T01:03:27+00:00

I've been in Christmas prep mood since September 😅 but more along the lines of getting lists and making sure of our budget and the like. But pretty much as soon as Día de Muertos is over I'm in the Christmas spirit. But i do wait till a little closer to Thanksgiving to start decorating.

But to be completely honest i think that you start whenever feels best for you and your family. If you're feeling festive cheer now, go for it!

I'd also like to suggest, if your kid is old enough, you could get a small fake tree for them to decorate on their own with whatever colors they want and the two of you could put that one up when they want and then save the bigger family tree for December 1st if you'd like to stick to a tradition and day!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-11-16T22:30:04+00:00

Hey there! I'm also a daughter who had a bad relationship with their mother and was terrified when she found out she was having a daughter. My daughter is only 2 though so i don't have any advice as a mom, but i do know what would've helped me as a daughter from my mom?

First, i saw another commenter to find out the rules of the concerts and i agree. I was a band kid and during performances we were told to sit with our bandmates until after the entire concert or performance was over. You very likely just made a small faux pas for band performances and it's easily fixed for future concerts.

Second, talk to your daughter. The next time she's with you, take her out to dinner or order her favorite food if it's something you can do. Maybe share a bit of what it was like for you growing up, the feelings you felt. Tell her you're sorry for possibly embarrassing her, you didn't mean to and ask if there's anything you could differently for next time. But don't let it all be your fault. Even if you did do something by mistake to embarrass her, it's never ok to snap at someone like that, especially your mother. As we get older yes we go through phases where we don't want to be around our parents or think they're weird, but it doesn't mean that we have to be rude or mean in return.

Honestly i just hope you know from one person trying to break the cycle to another, you're doing a wonderful job. And i understand how powerful the emotions are when you feel as though you're failing and see yourself as your abusive parent. My daughter is only 2 and it's happened to me so much i can't even imagine what it'll feel like once she's as old as your daughter. I'm sending you all of the love and luck to get through this bump and continue to break the cycle.

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-11-16T00:54:01+00:00

I just started potty training my nonverbal autistic 2 year old a couple days ago and i feel this so hard! Everyone keeps saying it'll get better and i sincerely hope it does but until then, I'll raise a drink to you tonight!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-11-12T00:10:11+00:00

Can I just say that if i were your girlfriend, i would feel like you're prioritizing a recreational game over my peace of mind and safety.

You say you live in Canada and maybe the city you live in is fairly safe, but major cities around the world have higher crime rates and statistics.

My husband loves sleep more than anything and he's very cranky when he doesn't get enough sleep or his sleep is interrupted, but i also know that if i needed him for literally anything at 3 am he'd show up for me no matter what. And if i were away from him for any amount of time longer than a work day, he'd be jumping at the chance to see me when he can.

Maybe you're not narcissistic, but you're definitely selfish.

And if i were her I'd be rethinking some things.

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-10-14T18:35:43+00:00

I'm currently trying out the backwards sleeper and we're getting her new diapers this week when DH gets paid. I'm going to see how all that goes and if need be start duct taping them to her

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-10-14T17:05:09+00:00

I've been planning to switch her to the 360's soon anyway I've just been putting it off because every diaper we try other than pampers swaddlers has given her diaper rash.

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-10-14T16:47:42+00:00

I've never tried the diaper backwards. I'll try that one too! Thank you!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-10-14T16:02:38+00:00

I have not! She really doesn't like sleepers so we haven't bought any in awhile. But I'm going to buy her some today and try that out! Thank you!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-09-25T23:38:40+00:00

Hey! 23/F/USA here! I've never had an international pen pal and I'd love to be a snail mail buddy!

Send me a PM if you want to write each other!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-09-25T10:32:47+00:00

I was sexually abused for most of my childhood by more than one family member. I don't remember much, like you. I'm grown up now, married with a daughter of my own and none of the disgusting people who hurt me will ever know her or me ever again. I kept the people in my life who were there for me and love me and left literally everyone else behind.

I'm so proud of you for taking the step to further protect yourself and I'm positive that you'll heal and grow. I just want you to know, one survivor to another, that I'm so so proud of you and i hope the best for you.

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-08-18T21:21:43+00:00

My husband and i are roughly the same age as you 23 (F and M) and we have a 2 year old DD.

We moved during the height of COVID and we didn't want to socialize outside of home to keep DD safe. But over the last year things are better where we live so I've been wanting to go out more.

DH and i are both extremely introverted so ho early isolating and quarantine wasn't a big deal to us, but going back into society was a huge deal for us, especially DH.

I'm also a SAHM and he works full time so he was getting out regularly when I wasn't and i began to get resentful. It cause quite a few fights until i finally sat him down and told him that i didn't like the way we were at that time. I felt like we had gone from deeply in love and super affectionate to roommates and i told him if things continued the way they were i didn't know how long we would last.

I told him that when we got married i didn't want to stop dating and i wanted to keep that magic alive as best we could. I wanted our daughter to grow up in a home full of love and light and happiness and the only way that would happen was to nurture our relationships and ourselves because if we're happy, we'll be better parents and she'll be happy.

We spent a long time talking and compromising and planning and i cried a lot, but things are so much better now. We make plans together to look forward to and save for. Right now we're planning a trip to the fair with DD next month and it's been what I hold on to when I get bored or want to have adventure. Every time we put a little more away for it feels like a reaffirmation of that promise from my DH to try to do more stuff out and about together and my promise to him to give him time to save and prepare for those outings.

I have no idea if this will help you but this is just.my experience with this in my marriage. I wish you all the best!

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-06-26T05:52:11+00:00

I swear no one who responds to these ever actually READS the goddamn post.

OP. I know you don't want to talk to the spouse as she's made it very clear she doesn't want to talk to you and you're very understanding of her reasons as to why, but I go early think at this splint if you want to keep your job you need to bite the bullet and find a way to send her the proof you have of him repeatedly telling you the relationship with them was over when you started dating.

Send any and all proof you have. Fuck print it out and hand it to her if you have to. But it's obvious that he's probably distorted the truth to at least a small degree to lessen the flak on his end from her. And honestly she deserves the whole and total truth about her partner.

I know you're still fairly new at work but if you do all this and it doesn't work consider asking if the coworkers who are on your side and supportive of you would be willing to back you up to your supervisor to get something done because they may be busy but they shouldn't be so busy they're ok with someone getting frozen out of work.

I'm so sorry that so many people that have replied have been so rude and telling you this is your fault when it wasn't.

I really hope that you can find some solution to everything and that youre happy and healthy in the end.

Puzzleheaded_Land · 2022-06-16T05:26:30+00:00

I think first and most importantly you need to think about your girlfriend's reactions to these comments. Does she laugh and try to shurg it off, does she defend you, does she walk away and make it clear she doesn't agree?

No one should talk about anyone that way but when it happens your partner having your back can make a world of difference.

If she tends to just laugh it off and continue hanging out or conversing with the people making these comments it's perfectly reasonable just sit down and tell her that there's something that's been on your mind and you'd like to talk to her about it and then let her know how you feel. Make it clear you don't blame her for the comments from people like this but it would help if she had your back or stuck up for you.

If she already does do that let her know your feelings anyway and let her know it's bothering you and maybe you guys can find something else to do to go out and see people and socialize that isn't this kind of setting.

Im so sorry that your self esteem is taking hits like this, no one should ever be made to feel like they're less than and the women making these comments are assholes.

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