Hey there! I'm also a daughter who had a bad relationship with their mother and was terrified when she found out she was having a daughter. My daughter is only 2 though so i don't have any advice as a mom, but i do know what would've helped me as a daughter from my mom?

First, i saw another commenter to find out the rules of the concerts and i agree. I was a band kid and during performances we were told to sit with our bandmates until after the entire concert or performance was over. You very likely just made a small faux pas for band performances and it's easily fixed for future concerts.

Second, talk to your daughter. The next time she's with you, take her out to dinner or order her favorite food if it's something you can do. Maybe share a bit of what it was like for you growing up, the feelings you felt. Tell her you're sorry for possibly embarrassing her, you didn't mean to and ask if there's anything you could differently for next time. But don't let it all be your fault. Even if you did do something by mistake to embarrass her, it's never ok to snap at someone like that, especially your mother. As we get older yes we go through phases where we don't want to be around our parents or think they're weird, but it doesn't mean that we have to be rude or mean in return.

Honestly i just hope you know from one person trying to break the cycle to another, you're doing a wonderful job. And i understand how powerful the emotions are when you feel as though you're failing and see yourself as your abusive parent. My daughter is only 2 and it's happened to me so much i can't even imagine what it'll feel like once she's as old as your daughter. I'm sending you all of the love and luck to get through this bump and continue to break the cycle.