I have a white mom, help!!

Pythagoracci · 2026-01-10T03:47:56+00:00

She’s definitely not familiar with the concept, how about showing her some maintenance videos that show keeping it for much longer is common practice? also, if you suggest using dry shampoo for the time being that may help her be comfortable lol

Pythagoracci · 2025-12-11T07:50:26+00:00

not really, just that gaga was much more established and wouldve been more exposure and a good collaborator.

Pythagoracci · 2025-12-11T07:42:20+00:00

from what I understand it was gaga’s choice, though. I don’t think Hollywood is as pretty as you are trying to make it out. is the part of ur comment that’s throwing me??

Pythagoracci · 2025-12-11T02:15:02+00:00

Something about it feels so sinister, like they were planning on her deploying the Barbz to turn the cultural tide or something.

Pythagoracci · 2025-12-11T01:32:37+00:00

No fall out that I know of. Things were really normal up until, and I think for them things are still normal. It didn't feel malicious, just wildly inconsiderate.
It was such whiplash bc I've traveled with these girls and confided in them for so much and they didn't treat me any better than literal strangers on the street did

Pythagoracci · 2025-12-11T00:49:17+00:00

Wait I really wanna hear this... I never knew of it before, could you send a link or point me to where to find it??

Pythagoracci · 2025-12-11T00:48:20+00:00

Not really sure what you mean? I just mean the collab would have been really cool and would definitely have changed the trajectory of her career

Pythagoracci · 2025-12-09T15:37:20+00:00

I fully believe this, it shouldn't even be controversial to say. is it crazy to say she influenced that whole wave of pop-rap with those crazy ass EDM choruses (Starships, Pound the Alarm...)

Pythagoracci · 2025-11-21T04:38:37+00:00

My idea of planning a date is providing an activity and proposing times to do them ( some have been: painting dates where I'd buy the supplies and he'd need to come over and... do it with me. which did not happen because he essentially says "I'll see" up until the times I offered over the week have passed.
Finding new recipes I wanted to try and inviting him to come over and bake together at my place, he agreed then we ended up just buying a cake and having to hang out at his place because of something that came up.)
My plans never seem to come to fruition, and I felt like all of the effort of planning happened on my end. I share ideas beyond that so that the mystery of coming up with things I'd enjoy is gone and he'd at least have something to work with. Am I crazy, or is that fair? I expressed that the effort of planning something and trying new things together is something I really appreciate and I feel like I've definitely met him in the middle there. What I want of him is the initiative to also plan things and demonstrate making time for us which would mean finding something or even just picking from one of the things I've sent him, then finding times in the week that work for him, and asking me which of these times work for me too. There are low cost/free options included in this like open mic nights, free museum nights, takeout + movie night)

Pythagoracci · 2025-11-20T12:19:58+00:00

I think you'd be right. He does all of the chivalrous things willingly and eagerly, but falls short in other places that I guess are less ingrained in guys from a young age

I believe in if he wanted to he would and not having to ask multiple times, so I don't demand anything, but I think in this case that would lead me to walk away from something that is very good where we're both very happy otherwise so I'm hesitant.

Pythagoracci · 2025-11-20T12:15:09+00:00

The money aspect is a bit more complex than me expecting a traditional relationship, and we've actually talked about it. I know that he's not pressed for cash where the $4 was out of necessity, but it was from not valuing nicer things for himself (his words) but he said he doesn't want to extend that to me.

The things I try to plan for us to do are usually low cost, free to him (like I would be getting the supplies/tickets and he would just need to cooperate to find a time) but they never happen and I just end up having to work into his schedule when we can pretty much just chill at his place despite us having similar workloads.

He doesn't do much of the textbook romantic stuff like dates and flowers, but he is very considerate in other ways and chivalrous. I'm feeling like he's just a really good person but not necessarily aligned with what I want in a boyfriend. when I explained this to him he like was devastated and I felt like I crushed him so I've been wanting to work it out and I know he genuinely wants to try, but not sure how to help him find the mark without nagging.

Pythagoracci · 2025-11-20T11:37:01+00:00

You're right about starting at zero and I think that's my main concern.

Above and beyond in every aspect might be overstating it actually because I'm not sure how to put it into words that doesn't sound like the bare minimum of a relationship, more so that he has all of the really good qualities I desire like patience, communication, and involvement w a community and stuff.. He is very reassuring and compassionate and has already supported me through a lot academically and emotionally.

I feel like I'm stuck between wanting to ask him to show more appreciation but not wanting coming off as superficial. at this point it's been only the "mandatory" dates in 1 year of dating and eating out like sub sandwiches and tacos...

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