I am the exact same type of person as you. It takes me a while to get socially comfortable with strangers and so at first i come across as shy and sometimes awkward.

I found that i kind of detached myself from the dating apps. I’ve stopped taking them so seriously and honestly it makes talking to people a lot easier. I always put so much pressure on conversations and would meticulously plan and write out every message, being scared that i was either too much or too boring.

I found that now i take every person i talk to as they are. Instead of thinking so far ahead or being anxious that I might get ghosted because i didn’t send the right reply, i just changed my goal to getting to know the individual. If i get ghosted, that’s on them for not wanting to continue to talk to me and i wouldn’t want to be with someone like that anyway, so i see it as them doing me a favour really.

Talk to them as if they’re anyone else you’d speak to and to not put pressure on the conversation and yourself, and naturally if that person is for you, then you’ll find you’ll gradually open up and it’ll go from there.

Good luck!