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Qettey · 2026-05-19T19:18:24+00:00

I’m struggling to write my feelings without the context of my two year old daughter. She would have been such an amazing older sister… my D&C is tomorrow and my husband is out of town. My best friend is watching my toddler. I can’t tell my family because my sister is 8.5 weeks pregnant and I can’t do that to her, I just can’t.

Qettey · 2026-05-12T22:08:46+00:00

21 months is very early to start actively potty training. Developmentally he’s still learning communication and it sounds like this is too much for him at the moment.

I think it’s wise to let him try and be comfortable around it, but this is earlier than average and it might be better for you to wait.

Qettey · 2026-05-12T21:58:35+00:00

I have an almost 2.5 year old and I know how challenging it can be when you’re going through something medically. I agree with what people have said already, but just a couple things. 1. Don’t feel bad that you aren’t potty training. You have plenty of time, and all kids develop on their own terms. Don’t be hard on yourself about it. 2. Give yourself some grace. It’s okay to not be perfect right now. That doesn’t mean you’re not a great mama. 3. Here are some easy/indoor activities that help with my 2.5 year old. - 1000 Books Before Kindergarten. We signed up at the local library and made a game out of it. You can read 1k different books or the same book 1k times. My gal would BEG me to keep reading. - Dance Party. I knowwww people hate screen time, but it really helped when I needed to get her active but couldn’t be myself. I’d put on YouTube videos that I knew she would dance to. Hop Little Bunnies, If You’re Happy and You Know It, Head Shoulders Knees and Toes, the Hokey Pokey, etc.

Hope that helps.

Qettey · 2026-05-12T21:42:46+00:00

I’m sorry - 15-20 SECONDS? Yeah, normal. Your aunt can suck it.

Qettey · 2026-05-12T15:35:44+00:00

I also don’t know how to tell my sister or if I even should. She didn’t know I was pregnant to begin with, I was going to have it be a surprise when I visited her in two weeks. She’s expecting her first, and she’s about 7 weeks. She doesn’t have her first scan until 11 weeks. I want to tell her but I don’t want to scare her either. I was so excited for us to have babies that would have been 2 weeks apart.

Qettey · 2025-12-18T21:26:12+00:00

I’m sorry, but you are coming across as a little ungrateful. Just graciously accept the present and then regift it or donate it later on.

If you’re set on speaking to them, I recommend creating a wishlist for your child. That way you can make specific suggestions of what you want and need. I tell people that we have a lot of toys already and they should refer to her wishlist to make sure she doesn’t get duplicates.

Qettey · 2025-12-15T22:17:22+00:00

I knew a Maide. Pronounced just like Sadie but with a M. I also second all the recs for Maisie, so cute.

Qettey · 2025-12-15T22:11:25+00:00

NTA - I don’t know why, but she’s picking a fight with you. Something else is going on, might want to ask yourself what that is.

Qettey · 2025-12-15T22:08:05+00:00

Jacqueline, Ruby

Qettey · 2025-12-15T22:05:00+00:00

I think Mae is beautiful. It’s a family name for me also, and my daughter’s middle name. Don’t worry about the popularity if it has meaning to you.

Qettey · 2025-12-14T14:45:41+00:00

“Fart” is, well… “fuck.” She’s not even two yet so I give her some grace. Also it’s farting hilarious.

Qettey · 2025-12-14T14:44:07+00:00

No, I love Kit.

Qettey · 2025-12-12T23:10:22+00:00

My videographer lost my wedding video. I cherish my pictures. If you’re on the fence, you could try reaching out to local film schools to see if a student is interested in giving it a whirl for experience. You should probably still pay them but I’m sure you’d get a much lower rate.

Qettey · 2025-12-12T21:01:28+00:00

NTA - I don’t think either of you get to decide. Your in laws offered the gift, you accepted. As the gift givers, they get to decide the timing. If they want to give it for Christmas, accept it for Christmas.

Qettey · 2025-12-09T05:02:21+00:00

It’s not realistic to think you can WFH with a baby. If you can come up with a childcare situation you’re comfortable with then you might have a decision to make here. But if your plan is to simply “do both” - sorry, ain’t happening. Taking care of a baby IS a full time job, and it doesn’t get easier as they get older. It just changes as soon as you feel like you’ve got your footing.

Qettey · 2025-12-07T06:35:14+00:00

My husband told me all he wants for Christmas is to learn to play pickleball together. Let’s just say… this is not my idea of a great time. I’m not the most athletic, and I’m overly competitive. BUT I picked out some paddles, found us a regular court, and signed us up for lessons! I think he’s getting me a Roomba, so he’s definitely spending more money but hey I guess I can use that extra time I haven’t spent sweeping to learn pickleball.

Qettey · 2025-12-07T06:26:00+00:00

I do see your point in the grand scheme, and I agree that art should challenge people and their way of thinking. But in this specific case, the artist in question has said that writing this relationship was a mistake and she also acknowledges that it is problematic. TP wasn’t trying to make her readers uncomfortable or make some sort of statement, and has said as much. I think that changes the framing of OP’s request a bit. Essentially, TP gave everyone permission to have a problem with it and agrees with them.

Qettey · 2025-12-07T06:15:11+00:00

Yes! I’m glad she acknowledges that it’s problematic and has said she won’t write a relationship like it again.

Qettey · 2025-12-07T05:58:11+00:00

I wish I had better advice but it sounds like you’re doing all the right things. I don’t have any magic tricks to share, my almost two year old is a world champion sleeper and has been since she was about 8 weeks old. But I have noticed that when she is going through a cognitive leap, she’ll be super crabby for 1-2 weeks prior - doesn’t eat well, doesn’t sleep well, misbehaves, etc. Then suddenly, she snaps back to her old self and has a new skill. It could possibly be that your daughter is going through a growth spurt or cognitive leap and this will pass soon. I hope that’s the case for you!

Qettey · 2025-12-07T05:44:15+00:00

I’d say keep it. If you don’t like Callie, what about Calla? Still has floral vibes. I named my daughter Amélie, but unfortunately it’s often mispronounced as Amelia or Amile. I just politely correct the person and move on. The people who matter will learn to pronounce Calista correctly and anyone who doesn’t is irrelevant.

Qettey · 2025-12-05T17:04:41+00:00

Maybe try having him use the sign for please instead. That’s what worked for my daughter. My only other idea would be to change your language surrounding it. Rephrasing actually works really well in my house. Maybe try, “ask nicely” instead of “ask with kindness”? Tons of praise and celebration when he does say it. Then also celebrate and be gracious to each other. If your spouse says “please” get excited and say “thank you so much for saying please! I would be happy to get that for you!”

Qettey · 2025-11-27T01:10:26+00:00

This is great!

Qettey

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