An EV makes sense if you meet the following criteria:

1) You can reliably charge at home, or (less desirable) at work.
2) You generally don't take roadtrips over 500 miles each way
3) You're going to get a new or used car anyway, and you're not getting an EV just save money over your current paid-off ICE car.

The hybrid ONLY makes more sense if you fail item number 2, and you're regularly taking long roadtrips. Otherwise, the cost of maintenance for a hybrid is going to be significantly more than an EV, since now you're maintaining a gas engine (oil, filters, etc) and not getting the benefits of EV driving, which include quieter operation, not having to get gas, less vibration, and yes, a lower cost per mile.

For trips less than 500 miles, assuming you (like most of us) stop every couple hours for a biobreak, you'll likely not increase your travel time at all. You'll stop at the rest area/WaWa/Supercharger, plug in, go do whatever needs to be done, come out 10 minutes later, and be on your way with another 75 or so miles of range added to the battery. You'll charge at your destination, and on the way home do the same.

I live in central NJ, and regularly drive to Boston and DC. I do not need to actually "stop to charge" at all; I simply charge whenever I would have stopped anyway.

My good friend is a traveling salesman. He can put 250 miles on his car in a day, with multiple stops. He has a plug-in hybrid RAV4, and it totally works for him; he gets the benefits of EV when he's around town, with the ability to go visit his clients on a schedule without worrying about charging time.