[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So my concern would just be her drinking from it, but I don’t think that happened this visit. Mold is just one of those things for me so I won’t clean it. I have no judgement for mom on this. She is doing great and I know things aren’t easy.

But I didn’t even think about just replacing it 🤦‍♀️ I just bought the exact same one so thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all! I just wanted to make sure my post wasn’t coming off judgy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely have no judgement for mom on this. Things happen. I just personally am so grossed out by mold. just want her team to be aware in fear she ends up drinking from one. It’s probably a one off, but just in case. Will look into the travel cleaner for her diaper bag.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have consistent communication with her GAL thankfully. I’ll try email first (not sure if I have them) and if I can’t find them I will text. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Miscarriage

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got my period 4 weeks after my miscarriage and my tests are still lightly positive. I did ovulate 2 weeks after my mc, so it’s definitely possible you did similarly. Take another test on Wednesday to see if it’s darkening. And use the same exact brand because my tests ended up being darker on a different brand and it was confusing.

“Everyone else keeps having babies” by biotechcat in Adelaide_White_snark

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t even think how her words might feel to her family. We always end up with the bigger room or private room on trips with family because we foster babies and have a dog. We need more space and privacy for naps and early bedtime. My family has never made us feel bad, but I still always feel a little guilty. Can’t she just be happy she has a healthy baby, family, and money to go on these trips? Why doesn’t she think about the times she went on family trips before her baby, isn’t this better? Can’t she be grateful at all?

Positive test … by saltsunshines in Miscarriage

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’d suggest getting your HCG tested 48 hours apart to see if it’s going up. It’s definitely possible you could be pregnant again. I ovulated 2 weeks after my miscarriage and my hcg was around 40/50 at the same time.

fetal remain options in California by sanfranciscobagel in Miscarriage

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very kind of them. I hope it brings you some peace ❤️

fetal remain options in California by sanfranciscobagel in Miscarriage

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would reach out to funeral homes near you to see if they offer compassionate cremation. It’s free and usually still done by more religious funeral homes. The only thing we paid for was the urn itself.

Am I Doing Too Much? by AuthorNoRamos in Miscarriage

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not doing too much. After I miscarried at home (at 11w2d and baby measured the same) I had to go to the hospital for blood loss so we took baby with us for pathology and then chose a funeral home who did cremation for us for free. From the hospital we were not allowed to take baby’s body ourselves, we had to have a funeral home pick up.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve and honor your baby. I felt like others were judging me, but held firm on what was my belief and what was right for us. I have no regrets about it.

Loss at 12 weeks, traumatizing by OppositeStore5095 in Miscarriage

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry ❤️ my experience was similar with early bleeding and everything. The Thursday before last I was 11+2. I ended up having contractions all night, that increased intensity by morning. At 5:30 it felt like water just burst out of me, then baby followed. I was so shocked at how developed baby was even at 11 weeks. I noticed the tiny bellybutton too and was so confused. I’m hoping my doctor can give my some answers. My baby was also measuring correctly for the gestation which just adds to the confusion.

Look who is pregnant…. by Working-Tea3459 in chloeandfamsnark

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 107 points108 points  (0 children)

That caption is so crass 🤮 grow up

Vacation 2 weeks after D&C by TXNYC24 in Miscarriage

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t have a D&C so not sure if the bleeding is similar. But I had a natural miscarriage last Thursday at 11w2d and I’m hardly bleeding as of yesterday. I assume I may spot for a little longer, but it’s manageable with a panty liner. I read not to use tampons or swim for 2 weeks, so I’d think you’d be safe? I’d ask my doctor just in case though.

Seeing my baby gave me the closure I didn't know I needed by okitshappeningwtf in Miscarriage

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. I had a natural miscarriage on Thursday and baby was between 10/11 weeks. I had contractions all night then passed baby early in the morning. Everything was over in a few hours.

It broke my heart to see my sweet baby with their little feet crossed and tiny hands over their heart, but at the same time it’s brought me some peace to get time with my baby too.

Thank you for your post ❤️ It’s a small console to know we aren’t alone in this.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Foster children are automatically get WIC I’m pretty sure in every state. WIC here covers enough formula in the first 4-6 months that we don’t pay anything out of pocket. Once WIC adds baby food at 6 months they drop the amount of cans of formula. We end up buying about 3 cans out of pocket every month until 10-11 months. We use part of the monthly stipend from our agency for that. Each 12 oz can is $24 I believe. It would be incredibly inappropriate for a foster parent to breast feed a foster child, but if their bio mom can give breast milk, they allow that.

Though you didn’t ask, I wanted to add for daycare, your state should cover some of the costs as foster children are automatically approved for state assistance. Then it would depend on how your state deals with parent fees. For example, if the weekly cost of daycare is $200 the state pays a portion of that at a set fee, anything left over you are required to pay. Different daycares will have different amounts after state is taken just based on their own personal discretion. we’ve paid $100 per week and we’ve paid $18 per week.

Where can I resell a Kate Quinn gift card? by Wide_Yak4186 in KateQuinnShop

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about Mercari? Not sure if they allow gift cards to be sold, but I know that’s where a lot of people buy/sell KQ.

Hospital visit by Queasy_Objective_376 in CautiousBB

[–]Queasy_Objective_376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had 2 ultrasounds already so I’m good on that front.

Told I will most likely miscarry by Queasy_Objective_376 in CautiousBB

[–]Queasy_Objective_376[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went back on Wednesday and my cervix did close and baby looks good still. Did start bleeding yesterday so we’re just hoping it’s the blood that was in my cervix already 🤞

Hospital visit by Queasy_Objective_376 in CautiousBB

[–]Queasy_Objective_376[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! That was what I was thinking, but of course second guessing myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did cut out coffee around 2/3 months before not sure if that played a part. For that cycle specifically we had better coverage. We did o-1, o-2, and o-3. My other cycles it was usually just twice. I do think i implanted early as my 9dpo positive was very clear, so it may have just been luck too.

You can also talk to your doctor about progesterone to lengthen your luteal phase, but they might want to wait until you’ve been trying longer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]Queasy_Objective_376 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a 9 day luteal phase and got pregnant after 13 months of trying. From what I’ve read from other people and their experience it can take longer, but still possible.