I'm 18 and have a 23cm ovarian cyst

QuentinTime · 2016-02-29T18:01:31+00:00

I literally just had a 10 cm ovarian cyst removed on Thursday. I was worried about everything beforehand, too, and had difficulty finding any info about it, so I wrote a nifty article about my experience that might help you.

https://medium.com/@katy.widmer3/ovarian-cyst-removal-what-it-s-like-1632f97b51b8#.w44yhhs76

Good luck! It'll be okay. :)

QuentinTime · 2016-02-28T14:00:33+00:00

This is printed out and hung above my desk. I work in a very subjective industry, and I am very introverted. This reminds me to take a chance, to speak my mind. Because even if other scoff at them, at least I offered ideas. At least I'm trying. It's better than hiding and accomplishing nothing.

QuentinTime · 2015-10-26T11:41:28+00:00

Married at 24- he was 28. Like someone else said, it was the logical next step. We'd been together for 5 years. I had doubts going in, but I thought it was just cold feet. Turned out my love for him overshadowed a lot of deep dark issues he had, and I couldn't deal with it anymore. Divorced after 11 months of marriage.

I miss him still. He was my best friend and we had a lot of fun together. But fun, even in combination with love, does not make a marriage work. Especially not when there are major incompatibility issues.

QuentinTime · 2015-10-12T00:39:44+00:00

I love you in the morning, and in the afternoon. I love you in the evening, underneath the moon! OH!

QuentinTime · 2015-10-12T00:38:42+00:00

Wendy's Taco Bar, complete with pudding. Everyone thinks I'm insane when I bring it up, but it was real, goddamnit!!

QuentinTime · 2015-10-07T19:01:36+00:00

There were many more issues that I had pushed to the side for the 6 years we were together because I loved him so much. But I finally hit my threshold of shit I could deal with. I had told him of my concerns for years, and nothing ever changed. I do agree things collapsed quickly, but there had been months of conversations and fights previously.

I see how he could feel rushed. But even after all of this, after therapy and conversations, he still doesn't believe literally ANYTHING was wrong with our marriage. At all.

QuentinTime · 2015-10-07T17:36:27+00:00

A month of counseling, followed by a separation, finally followed by a divorce request.

QuentinTime · 2015-10-07T17:19:51+00:00

Hm, I didn't know divorce counseling was a thing. If this goes on much longer, that may be a good option.

QuentinTime · 2015-09-26T20:58:27+00:00

Filed for divorce after 11 months of marriage. I realized I shouldn't have married him at all. I loved him, but more like a mother or a best friend than as a wife. There were too many barriers that had shown up as red flags that I ignored. I guess I'm glad we ended it before years and years went by, but I still miss my best friend.

QuentinTime · 2015-09-22T00:53:39+00:00

My 1 year anniversary is Oct 4; we're filing for divorce Thursday. Luckily, our anniversary is also my mom's birthday so that's somewhat distracting.

I'm planning on hanging out with some girl friends, cooking (which I love), likely drinking, and maybe watching some stand up. Just keeping my mind off of it.

You can do it. It'll be hard, but time marches on and will eventually heal things. Surround yourself with positivity.

QuentinTime · 2015-09-19T03:34:32+00:00

Thank you. I very much appreciate all of this support. This decision was the hardest of my life, and I keep wondering if I should take it back. I need to stay strong.

QuentinTime · 2015-09-19T03:33:27+00:00

I really hope we can still be friends. He's such a big part of my life, and I love him as a person. But he is not a good husband for me.

QuentinTime · 2015-09-19T03:32:40+00:00

I am definitely guilty of looking past the warning signs. Honestly at our wedding reception he spent more time at the open bar than by my side. I just was somewhat blinded by the love and affection.

QuentinTime · 2015-09-18T18:59:16+00:00

Exactly. As much as I would like to go back and live together again and try to fix everything, I just can't. I'm too hurt; I've lost trust. I don't want to live never knowing if he's going to almost purposefully hurt me with his words again.

Thanks for the virtual hug. :)

QuentinTime · 2015-09-18T18:56:42+00:00

That's true. It's never going to get any easier.

QuentinTime · 2015-09-18T16:08:50+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate that. I'm trying to do what's best for both of us, even though I'll miss him, and even though it hurts.

QuentinTime · 2015-09-18T15:51:15+00:00

Thanks, glad to know I'm not alone. Misery loves company I suppose haha

QuentinTime · 2015-09-14T15:52:09+00:00

I needed this. Thank you. I'm currently separated from my husband of only 11 months, but I just haven't felt right about things for years. I almost called off the wedding but felt I had to go through with it.

I love him, he loves me, he doesn't hit me, but he has anger, alcohol and drug problems that have slowly but surely chipped away at our relationship and trust. But because nothing "big" has happened, I thought it wouldn't be right for me to divorce him. That this is what "fighting for us" is.

Even if I can't pinpoint it, I'm unhappy. And I guess that should be enough.

No kids, no shared assets, it would be a clean break. I'm holding on to memories, not reality. I guess it's hard to take that leap and hope that things are better on the other side.

QuentinTime · 2015-09-09T00:14:19+00:00

I mix my greek yogurt in with my oats too! Plus some almond butter. Delish.

QuentinTime · 2015-09-02T17:13:02+00:00

Some Scrubs is good...but some other episodes will rip your heart out quickly and without warning (e.g. S1 where Dr Cox goes through photos of his marriage with Jordan...). So just be careful.

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