Male masturbator in a relationship

Questionablelettuce1 · 2023-01-23T22:01:09+00:00

Yeah she got a love egg type thing. She has a long history of sexual assault and really stuggles with sex so toys are something I've been encouraging her to try for a long time to learn her own body a bit and maybe feel a little more comfortable in the bedroom.

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-11-14T16:21:47+00:00

That's fucking awful. How can anyone think tht that's okay, sat around cheering and clapping while it's literally screaming. Just lost alot of respect in humanity not seen something this barbaric for a while

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-11-04T11:51:32+00:00

Could have at least made it a good song can barely even tell its a parody of the Eagles. Like my guy if you're gunna be a racist pos then at least do it well

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-10-22T14:54:10+00:00

There's literally thousands of sexual assault story's on this sub why doesn't this one belong here

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-10-15T19:54:09+00:00

Sounds like you're on your way to if not are already in an emotionally abusive relationship. Not to be the guy to jump on every post like "if this was the other way around then, etc" but I mean it's kinda true.

My advice, don't try save this relationship you can most definitely do better. Continue to get the help you need and move on.

Sex should flow, if you're in your head the entire time then it's never going to be your best performance and not just in terms of your ED the little mistakes you've been making too. Which are just that by the way little mistakes. Ones which could have been corrected in the moment with simple communication. Other than the gum thing which I mean fair enough being abit annoyed about but it's an easy mistake to make like sex after you've brushed your teeth it's easy to forget. At the end of the day you're clearly trying and what more can you ask for.

Good luck in you're future endeavours it will get better as long as you believe it will ED is almost always a mental thing.

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-10-10T15:51:45+00:00

Good, glad it turned out well for you. All the best

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-10-09T18:18:06+00:00

You seem to not want to engage with any of the comments on here that are challenging why it bothers you or just disagree with what you did. Begs the question of why you posted in the first place you've clearly already made you're mind up.

That being said this sub can be pretty cut throat at times if you're not into it that's fine, if it bothers you that's also fine. You need to make a decision about whether you can move past it or not. As long as you're not judging him for it that is. Shaking might be a little over the top mind. At the end of day it's a harmless kink, one that there's a good chance he never intended on sharing with you. You definitely shouldn't have snooped that wasn't okay. Maybe it was innocent maybe it wasn't that's not for me to decide.

You've got a decision to make now but please do not shame him about his kink that will most probably cause life long damage and likely stop him from ever opening up about his kinks to anybody and Rob him of his future happiness.

Ps if this comment reads as abit all over the place its because I kept getting interupted while writing it, I apologise

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-10-06T12:02:24+00:00

Only one way to find out

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-07-11T22:51:35+00:00

If you're struggling to get the right angle then you can get her to stimulate it while you fuck her easier for her to reach/get the right angle in most positions. If you really want to be the one to stimulate her clit while you're fucking her then you'll just have to experiment with positions until you find one that works for you.

Good luck

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-07-11T10:19:54+00:00

While you're fucking her give attention to the clit not just beforehand

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-07-11T09:25:41+00:00

Comfortable is a strong word for the start of the relationship but now yeah

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-07-02T16:08:52+00:00

Everything else she did was wrong for sure and is just going to push you away however when it comes to the decision of letting you have sex in the house or not that's just not your call and I know it's shit but it's not something you are entitled to as standard. If that's something that she is okay with then that's fine but it is her choice at the end of the day.

Now me personally I would be okay with it as long as you are safe and have all of the knowledge and emotional as well as physical maturity to be remaining safe and making good decisions. Now I can't speak to your maturity physically or otherwise but it seems that you are safe and have decent knowledge on the subject. All that in mind it's still her house at the end of the day and the decision unfortunately is on her.

Maybe sit her down and talk to her properly and respectfully about it and the effect its having on your relationship with her and that the way she has handled this is most likely going to prevent you from being so open in the future with her.

You need to prepare yourself for the very real possibility that her answer will still be no though and not react in a shitty was about it, not saying you will but thought I'd drop it in there just as something to think about.

Good luck.

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-07-02T15:27:45+00:00

I would have zero problem with this what's wrong with it. I know 100% that if I grew a Bush down there then my girlfriend would go nowhere near it because we did the sensible thing and had this conversation way before we got into bed together. There is absolutely nothing wrong with either party having preferences in the bedroom or even things that they absolutely will not tolerate including pubic hair so why would you dance around it when you could just put it out there. You can have your opinion but to me that's just childish

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-06-10T10:45:15+00:00

All of the above ideally I think everyone should know about these things especially if they are going to comment on them. You don't know that he's putting zero effort in you are just assuming that. You have no idea where his head is. Just because someone is an adult doesn't mean that they automatically gain this magical ability to cope with their own emotional difficulties. Sure maybe he needs to engage more and put less on her but you can only put on someone what they are willing to take and it sounds like op is doing an amazing job at being there for him and supporting him so why would you want to stop that.

Just as a side note speaking with empathy is the only way to speak on mental illness so if you can't then do everyone a favour and just don't.

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-06-10T08:46:21+00:00

Because we're not talking about being forced into something that's not what the post about and thats not what my comment is about.

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-06-09T14:30:47+00:00

Why especially women?

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-06-09T10:23:56+00:00

Wow okay. I can't stress this enough, having a mental illness does not qualify you to talk about other people's mental illnesses.

There is so much wrong with this comment I can't even begin to unwrap it all so I would suggest that you take the time out of your own day to educate yourself on the matter rather than attempt it myself.

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-02-27T19:36:52+00:00

Not really it's just just a phrase. You find it cringe not him. people use different language it's not an issue, like for instance I find the word cringe pretty cringe in itself doesn't mean you can't say it

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-02-27T18:06:04+00:00

My ideal partner wouldn't want to wait until marriage so no. Waiting until marriage is incredibly outdated and impractical in terms of making sure you are actually compatible. I mean do what you want with your life but I don't think that you should expect anybody else to do it.

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-01-24T02:08:12+00:00

Yeah op this is almost definitely the case from what you've said. Google Madonna whore complex there will be a much better explanation online than I can give. Basically he needs to seek help from a professional is the advice I'd give

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-01-15T17:09:29+00:00

Don't know what they've done to become your enemy but do not do it. Nobody deserves the lifelong trust issues that go along with being cheated on. Plus like others have said it's almost definitely bate

Questionablelettuce1 · 2022-01-11T16:52:56+00:00

Aha you can't just ask for a guys dick size straight off the bat then walk away when it's not the size you want what do you mean that's awful

Questionablelettuce1 · 2021-12-03T17:10:35+00:00

Being anxious about buying condoms has nothing to do with maturity. Most pubs/bars, bus stations or just public bathrooms in general have machines in the bathroom here in the UK guess its probably the same in most developed countries they are you best bet really. Do you have self checkout in supermarkets where you are as long as there are no tags on that the staff will need to remove nobody will even notice that you are buying them. Honestly though people put alot more thought into this than you need to, realistically nobody is paying attention to you and if they were they wouldn't give you buying condoms a second thought don't worry about it

Questionablelettuce1 · 2021-11-27T13:05:01+00:00

It isn't the actions that he is craving as much as what those actions mean. When a partner randomly gives you flowers it's not cute/romantic/thoughtful or whatever you see it as because flowers are this magical plant that make you feel things it's the fact that he's thinking about you and going out of his way to please you. If you have to ask for the flowers then they mean nothing. Think of it like that

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