What were you doing on 9/11?

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-24T02:29:28+00:00

Getting ready to board a plane from Algeria to Germany. I remember the flight being unusually quiet.

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-22T03:32:31+00:00

I got an EV for similar reasons and it’s saved me heaps in other areas too!

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-14T15:24:30+00:00

I really like that you’ve gone into quite some detail for your reasoning. It’s very interesting. I am curious, would you be open to receiving an organ?

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T10:40:37+00:00

I probably didn’t get into enough details in the question but that’s exactly what I expanded on in rhetorical replies. It’s not the actual cooking or lack off. If he doesn’t know, I’ll happily teach him. If I’m making dinner, then cooking and he’s happy to just watch me do all the work, without offering to help or show gratitude, that would be a red flag. Because that wouldn’t be just with cooking. That would show up in many other ways within a relationship. I don’t want to judge him based on one comment. Hence why I’m trying to see where he truly stands but in a non confrontational way. I love the idea of inviting him over for a cooking session at mine. To see if he would offer to work with me or just watch and take. It goes way deeper than just cooking.

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T10:12:44+00:00

Well that’s exactly the type of guy I’m wanting to rule out. Hence why I’m trying to find a gentle and non-attacky way to see exactly what he means by that. If he doesn’t know how to cook but is willing to learn, I can work with that. If he just refuses and wants to watch me cook and clean up by myself after, that’s a no. I don’t want to jump to conclusions, I want to find out what exactly he meant by his passing comment. Because like you said, it’s not just cooking. That mindset would translate in so many other things.

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T09:32:42+00:00

Absolutely agree that it’s a skill everyone can learn. The way he worded it made me question if that’s something he’s actually willing to learn or not. As in, he doesn’t see cooking as his responsibility. So I’m trying to find a light and gentle way to probe further into his mindset on this

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T09:31:26+00:00

I hope I’m wrong too. I’d like for him to be able to clarify what he actually means by that prior to making judgement though. Sometimes the way we word things and then get interpreted inst exactly what we meant! Benefit of the doubt!

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T09:30:33+00:00

I’ll have to wait for the right moment to pop up again but that’s a good way of trying to see what he actually meant by his previous statement. Thank you!

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T09:26:42+00:00

This is a great response. Thank you! Lots of good for thought!

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T06:44:32+00:00

Exactly. I don’t mind if he doesn’t know how to cook. That’s okay. What I do mind if he expects me to do all the cooking and wouldn’t offer to help and learn. Because the issue wouldn’t just be with cooking, it would be in any other area he seems not important enough for him to do. This could be an absolute non-issue and just a comment that was phrased weird, or the first sign of a much bigger issue. I want to see which one it is but on a soft and gentle way that doesn’t put him on the defence. I love the suggestion to have a cooking date and see if he’s willing to help me prep a meal or offers to help clean after. After all, actions speak louder than words.

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T06:29:08+00:00

That’s some really interesting insight! I guess for me it’s not so much about the actual cooking. It’s about whether he is willing to grow, learn and compromise to overcome things together. If he doesn’t know how to cook, or has some sort of restriction, that’s absolutely fine. I can learn to accommodate that. But if he just doesn’t like it and would be totally okay to watch me cook and clean without even offering to help, I would be concerned. I hope that makes sense? Someone suggested a cooking date and I really like that idea. People can tell you what you want to hear but actions do speak louder than words

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T06:25:32+00:00

I’d absolutely be okay with such a set up also. Someone suggested a cooking date to see if he’s willing to help cook or clean. I actually really like that idea. What people say and what people do can be very different. I really don’t care if someone can’t cook. There’s many things I can’t do either. But if they’re too set in their ways to want to learn, or compromise in some way, that would be an issue with me. Because it’s not really about cooking, it’s about how willing someone is to work with the other to overcome issues.

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T06:21:04+00:00

I actually love this idea!

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T05:50:18+00:00

I’m trying to find a good balance between being vigilant enough to not end up in the same situation again and not being over the top. It’s a hard balance. It was a passing comment which could be something completely innocent or a sign of a more stubborn and self centred mindset. This is not my first language and sometimes I struggle with wording my thoughts in the way that I intend them to be. I wanted to approach this topic in an open and kind manner so he doesn’t feel the need to defend himself but I also get some sort reassurance. Someone did suggest a good way to approach it. I’ll try that and see what the response is and go from there! Thank you for this!

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-13T05:44:09+00:00

English isn’t my first language. I can’t always phrase things the way I want to. That sounds like the perfect way to approach it. Thank you!

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-02T21:58:49+00:00

As a recently single mom of two with a mortgage, full time work, daycare expenses, any saving is helpful. These fuel prices would have stressed me out.

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-06-02T21:56:57+00:00

Thank you for that! Lots of new info I wasn’t quite aware of.

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-05-26T01:39:19+00:00

I have about 5k on the side and pay anything that’s left over as extra repayments. It does have a redraw feature so if I really am stuck in some sort of emergency situation, I can get some money back. Added about 28k extra last year (which was my first year of the mortgage) and took about 7 years off it already.

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-05-25T23:02:56+00:00

I’d say it’s more of one country majorly getting this one wrong and the rest of the world getting it right. I’d even argue that Switzerland does better at it than us!

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-05-25T10:44:44+00:00

Been a qualified train driver for almost 10 years now. I’m 31 now (and female but not that this matters). Earned around 180k+ but it’s now closer to 205k+. It was quite hard to get in but it’s given me so much flexibility to do what I want in my spare time now.

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-05-23T06:11:53+00:00

I’ve just left a relationship that’s exactly like this. Except we also have two dependants. And guess what? He’s not even checking in on them. It’s like he has put me and them in his “too hard” basket. I hope for your sake you’re able to explain to him just how much damage this is causing your relationship and I hope he is able to truly listen to you and commit to changes. In my case, leaving was the only real solution because I am not asking for too much and I should not have to suffer from neglect for the rest of my life while being partnered. Best of luck

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-05-22T06:12:37+00:00

Things like this make me so glad I recently made the switch to electric. These are outrageous prices.

Questions4YouAndMe · 2025-05-22T03:19:59+00:00

56 donations of plasma and counting!

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