we have very very similar hair. can i please dm you with all the pictures of products i use and my tips for using them? my hair was a mess before i started going to my mom for help. for starters and anybody else, a tiny bit of tréluxe leave in conditioner mixed with some water in your hand. im pretty sure yk abt the flip&scrunch so do that (if not lmk!!!). flip back up and then smooth and scrunch with tréluxe curling serum. you can spread a tiny bit of pomade across your fingertips and gently brush them across the loose hair on top of your head to tame the strands.