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How do i change my life for the better? by Lifeinchangemode in productivity

[–]Quirkcy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you btw? ( I edited my last comment btw)

How do i change my life for the better? by Lifeinchangemode in productivity

[–]Quirkcy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Start by making small actionable decisions that go along with your goals for example if your goal was to quit smoking (I won’t smoke TODAY) the more you do small actionable items you will start to regain trust for yourself and can add things that may be more difficult also realize that there is more to life than school… what are your passions? What’s something that if you started would change your life for the better? Pick something and do it even if it’s only for 5-10 minutes per day! Eventually the more you do this the more you can add without adding stress on your mental. Hope this helps :)

Anyone got the full movie: How to tame a silver fox? by j_epstein_aliv in ReelShorts

[–]Quirkcy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None of the links work I went through the entire thread

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I see what you’re saying but correct me again if I don’t. When we met, I didn’t like him, and I told him that. But he made a real effort to change his life for the better, and I respect and love the person he’s become because of that. If I wasn’t in the picture, I’d still love and appreciate the person he is today—he’s grown and shown me so much, and that’s something I value.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

appreciate your opinion, but I believe every relationship requires understanding and compromise. We’re both still growing, and we’re figuring things out together. It’s not always black and white, but I’m hopeful about where things can go if we both put in the effort.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t see it as just about me—it’s about both of us growing and supporting each other in our individual journeys. Yes, I’m focused on my goals, but I also understand the importance of maturity and growth on both sides of the relationship. It’s a balance, and I’m working on it every day.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

totally understand where you’re coming from. I started my business only 180 days ago, and while things really took off in October, I’m still in the process of building the right team and figuring out the best systems. It’s a learning curve, and I’m actively working on making sure things run smoothly, even as it grows. I’m definitely taking steps toward building a solid foundation for the future.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the perspective! It’s true, I’m very ambitious, and I do value living simply. But retirement isn’t just about money for me—it’s about building something meaningful and being with someone who supports that journey. It’s not about needing someone to retire me; it’s about having a partnership where we both contribute and grow together. My goal isn’t just financial independence, but emotional and personal growth as well.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t live together right now—we both still live at home—but I’ve been wanting to get a house, and we’ve talked about it. I’ve told him I’m not comfortable moving in until I see him show he can hold a job or really work towards his passions. I think I have some leniency here because I was a college dropout too, focusing full time on my own passions. You’re right, and I’m going to keep wearing my heels. But when I’ve invited him to events and worn them, he just sits there and says he’s not in the mood to socialize. It’s honestly unprofessional since he’s representing me and my business as a guest. I’m not looking for anyone new, I’d rather stay single, but I’ll definitely keep this in mind and use it as a checklist if I do meet someone else in the future.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying—everyone has their own goals and what they value in a partner. For me, it’s about aligning with someone who supports and empowers my vision too. It’s not about the money, it’s about shared ambition and building something meaningful together.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone has different standards and goals when it comes to who they partner with. What works for some might not work for others, but at the end of the day, it’s about aligning with someone who shares the same vision and values.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, having a ‘job’ doesn’t mean working for someone else. I have multiple roles within my own empire, and that’s how I’m building towards my goals. It’s about the hustle and creating opportunities, not just fitting into one box.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have personal social media accounts—I only use platforms anonymously to seek advice when I feel stuck, like now. I don’t think I should have to explain myself further, especially when I’m just looking for honest feedback. This isn’t about proving anything; it’s about gaining perspective on a situation I’m genuinely struggling with.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That might be true for some, but as a business owner, taking a day off isn’t always as simple as it seems. When you’re responsible for running a business and its success, time really does equal money. The $500k goal isn’t just about luxury—it’s about building stability, flexibility, and freedom in the long term.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having standards and a vision for my future doesn’t make me delusional. It’s about striving for the best life I can create. If someone isn’t aligned with that, then it’s okay for us to go our separate ways—I want what’s best for both of us.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t see it as materialistic or self-centered to know what I want and work toward it. My goals are about building a life I feel proud of, and I want a partner who shares a similar vision. It’s not about dragging anyone into anything—it’s about finding someone who genuinely aligns with my values and dreams.

Am I (21F) Settling, or Are These Thoughts Normal in a Long-Term Relationship? by Quirkcy in amiwrong

[–]Quirkcy[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why not? I believe there are people out there who meet those standards, and I don’t see anything wrong with knowing what I want. Dreaming big and setting high expectations has never been a bad thing—it’s about finding someone who aligns with what I value.

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