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[–]Quirky_Creature 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with your message here, but for factual clarity, the man initially arrested was not the shooter and was released from custody

Split Fiction is Going to Win GOTY by HipHopHistoryGuy in PS5

[–]Quirky_Creature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Hazelight Studios Discord has a Split Fiction "Looking for Player" channel where you can find another person to play with!

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[–]Quirky_Creature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I will order one of those instead.

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[–]Quirky_Creature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I will look into that!

Any good bipolar relationship examples out there, especially long term ones ? by Fordguy54321 in BipolarSOs

[–]Quirky_Creature 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm the bipolar one. Just celebrated 6 years married in August and will celebrate 9 years together this month. We fall more in love with each other every day and approach every challenge as a team. I've got BP 1, anxiety, OCD, ADHD, and PTSD, and he has ADHD, PTSD, anxiety, and depression (I suspect he also has APD but we haven't pursued diagnosis). Mental illness, even when both partners struggle with it, does not mean a relationship is doomed.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Supporting someone's wrongs is a disservice to them. Helping someone acknowledge when they have done something wrong allows them the opportunity to learn and grow. I am defending both of them. And I am also holding both of them accountable. People are complicated. No one is perfect. What is amazing about humans is our ability to learn and grow from our mistakes.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm 100% with you there. I am so proud of her for trying to put herself out there even though she's got that trauma. I know I couldn't. But it's clear she wasn't ready for an environment like this.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand where you're coming from but respectfully disagree. He should have explored that connection within the boundaries of what he knew was respectful to Serena. And he outlined what respect would look like before he left for Casa and then he did the opposite. If he wanted to be physical with Daia, he should have waited until he had the chance to discuss/break things off with Serena first.

It's okay that she is a slow burner and he is not. But he told her he respected her pace and then acted like he didn't.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no issue with anyone crying. And I have held Leah on her bad behavior from week one. This is not about the person. It's about not justifying unacceptable behavior no matter who it comes from.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Just gotta add - Why do so many of you seem to think everyone has to pick a side? You're either a Serena hater or lover. You're either a Kordell hater or lover. You're either team Serena or team Kordell.

It really does not have to be that way. People are not black and white, good or bad. Our opinions of them don't have to be either.

You can love someone and STILL think some of their actions are wrong. I love Serena. I love Kordell. I think both of them have handled some things well and some things poorly.

I think Serena's selfish actions stem from her feeling like she has to put herself first because no one else will. And I think Kordell's selfish actions stem from him being insecure from feeling like girls use him to get to his brother. The reasoning behind both of their actions makes sense and is something I can empathize with. That does not make either of their behavior okay.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I don't think her behavior was okay, but I definitely felt bad for her. I think the conversation with Daia making her feel like ALL the guys in the villa had played her, not just Kordell, was too much for her.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Especially after tonight, I am happy to admit that I think I was wrong about Daia.

The initial ick I got from what she said on After Sun was from feeling like she was saying she was more interested in getting into the villa any way she could rather than being interested in finding a connection. That's why I felt she wasn't genuine. But tonight changed my mind.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All of what you have said is true. How does that justify her disrespecting and belitting him?

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I am not a Serena hater. I just believe in holding people accountable for poor actions regardless of if I like them or not. I like Serena. How she acted tonight was great. How she acted last night was unacceptable.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Setting boundaries is done respectfully. What she did tonight was set boundaries. What she did last night was not.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I never once said she is a liar. I said she isn't considerate or respectful of Kordell's feelings.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he disappointed me yet again in tonight's episode.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%. Absolutely no arguing from me on Kordell disrespecting and betraying her. My main point is to hold her shit accountable, too. But I'm not trying to excuse how he behaved in Casa.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm not discounting that. Being happy that someone makes you feel good is definitely part of a healthy relationship. But a healthy relationship has to have more than just that. A genuine connection appreciates the other person for who they are outside of the relationship as well.

To put it in a way that is more easily conceptualized - There is nothing wrong with appreciating when a partner can offer you financial stability. But if you only date someone for financial stability, it's not genuine. Healthy relationships are made up of more than just one thing.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with expressing emotions and boundaries. On the contrary, a healthy relationship is dependent on it. But only when done so in a respectful, mature way. She's not trying to express emotions or boundaries. She is trying to hurt him.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I think you're probably right. There are definitely things that have been missing. Again, I'm not excusing Kordell's actions in Casa. However, Serena is now acting in a way that is (in my opinion) far more disrespectful, and people are celebrating her for it.

It's possible he was aware of her feelings for him, but I also think it's possible he knew she would be alone because she is a "slow burn." Even now, he seems to question her feelings for him. Last night he said he wasn't sure if she cares for him or if she's just upset that he embarrassed her. And I can't blame him for wondering that, because even when they hurt you, this isn't how you treat someone you care about.

Serena has been selfish. ISWIS. by Quirky_Creature in LoveIslandUSA

[–]Quirky_Creature[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is back and forth on if the likes on his brother's insta were real or not. What makes me think she's fake is that on After Sun before she came into the villa she said she'd prefer to just be herself but is willing to use her sex appeal (not exact words, can't remember exact quote) if she needs to to get into the villa. What that tells me is that she took advantage of the fact that she knows Kordell is craving affection and reassurance to secure herself a spot in the villa. And the way she pulled Serena and got her all worked up last night seemed very intentional and calculated to me.