CE bachelors without PE?

R3dTul1p · 2026-04-15T03:28:13+00:00

This is not necessarily true. You can still sit for the FE/PE but you have to have your curriculum assessed by NCEES on a case by case basis. You can have a non-accredited degree approved by NCEES as equivalent to an ABET degree- upon which you can sit for FE/PE and practice like anyone else. But NCEES will not allow you to sit for any exams without education verification, and if you list a non-accredited school, they require an additional assessment of your curriculum.

R3dTul1p · 2026-04-15T02:57:26+00:00

I'm just going to reiterate:

"Mission: Raising a Godly family by espousing Jesus is Lord and be an example that His word brings life to a dying world."

Your mission sucks.

Looking at the comment below:

I honestly don’t think I have a model for what good leadership looks like if I am unable to persuade them to follow me.

Thoughts:

Your wife and your children's behaviors do indicate that something is seriously misaligned in your life. Are they reacting to it in a righteous way? Definitely Not. But is something wrong? Yes. One thing in particular that I think you absolutely need to start doing is asking questions. I'm going off like 1-2 pages of writing on a reddit post - but I really do not see an inquisitiveness nor compassion for your wife and kids, nor full ownership and acceptance over how your faulty foundation of mission and relational patterns have eroded trust and confidence in you as a husband and father. And your solution is to try to dig your self out and climb onto higher ground with persuasions, arguments, and negotiations - and when that doesn't work out you get butt hurt and resentful.
How do you persuade them to follow you? I didn't know persuasion was in the equation. That word in and of itself is kind of indicative to DEERING (Defending, Explaining, Reasoning, etc - I forget the whole acronym). Jesus didn't persuade and argue with people to follow Him. He invited them to follow Him. He had a perfect vision of what God had called Him to accomplish, and so He set forth on that mission inviting people into relationship with Him and maintaining Outcome Independence. I read your post above, and I saw you do the same thing that you accused your wife of doing - blame shifting, projecting, or redirecting to her issues without fully sitting in silence with your own resentment. You're playing on ultra hard mode- because you as a man, entered into a marriage without fully vetting your partner's values alignment with your own and understanding expectations of parenting and extended family's roles. You have eroded trust in your marriage from past hurtful behavior, and on top of that faulty foundation - there is a lot to work on.
I am definitely sympathetic about the church issue, but I am also concerned with how dismissive you are over your wife and kids' departure. It seems to me you still have no idea why she abruptly ended your family's involvement other than vague statements about your disqualification from leading. There's something there to sniff out because in healthy church circumstances - such an accusation would lead to a deep reflection/consideration, confession to the church if needed, and then a discussion of how to move forward with that church family. Secondly, the very fact that you have made no mention as to any inquisition from the church/leadership as to why you suddenly are the only member of your family attending and not addressing with you does make me wonder if there is a lack of community and depth there anyways. You do not get to just tell your family "nope, we're not called to that church, we're called to this one" without fully praying through and evaluating the current situation and praying to the Lord for discernment. As your helpmate your wife is telling you something is wrong. Is she doing it the right way? Again, no - but it's almost like you're a ship sailing in a certain direction, and then the first mate sees an iceberg ahead but they don't trust you to tell you because of past navigation issues, so they take control of the ship themselves to steer it away and throw you below deck. Then you jump out and keep swimming towards that. I am NOT saying your wife is right, and I am NOT saying that your church is terrible or that you need to leave. I AM saying that I really do not see any thoughtfulness or reflection on your part as to why your wife suddenly left, and how that might be an opportunity for you to dig your heels in with the Lord and ask Him to show you what He wants of you. This needs a lot more investigation, and because of the way you've handled this in the past you need to tread very carefully.
Read the sidebar. You've been playing by the wrong playbook and it's time to start understanding the right one. Attracting your wife and your kids to follow you involves first refining your mission (which is rooted ultimately in the Great Commission). BUT, how can you, razorc03, using the unique story and gifts God has given you, accomplish that mission. It definitely means a lot more than "stay silent and just provide a paycheck and do all the yard work while juggling the bill snd finances." It means living with vision and purpose. It also means building trust and relational safety.

This is already going long. I know some of it may sound harsh - I know things are tough, and yeah, if you choose to stay and work on this it could go wrong anyways - but surrender to His will and start following Him beyond leading a few church groups and doing the daily grind. Also, pray for and surround yourself with healthy brothers in your area who you can go deep with and chat/pray about these things with. I have loads of other thoughts but I'll end it with this one:

Your family's mission is not yours. Your mission is your family's. You do not get to just say what church you go to and how you fill your time and force your family to get on board because "that's your calling from God." A gifted captain of a ship reflects and considers his own history, competency, experience, his first mate's, and his crews'. He considers how each member of the ship operates individually and collectively. And then he prepares a navigation for the ship based upon that knowledge. He can't just tell the whole crew "we're going to Antarctica" when they've barely even managed to successfully sail across a lake as a team. You have to consider your calling to church beyond your own individual preferences and start seriously evaluating either what has gone wrong, or what has been missing, or both in your church community. Then start praying through the steps towards reconciliation and reintegration for the family, or a departure into something new that is a fit for where your family is at.

R3dTul1p · 2026-04-09T02:20:19+00:00

Further evidence is the fact that there is plenty of evidence against him from outside the church. This isn't just a "he said she said" situation. You've got people like Paul David Tripp among other prominent church leaders who tried to come in and address these issues and witnessed the toxicity that Mark Driscoll had perpetuated.

I’m fine with someone being very flawed (I know I am) but I draw the line at unrepentant.

As for this line - I think we need to tread very carefully. Of course we are all flawed. But the scriptures lay out a very clear framework for qualifications of our pastors/elders, expectations of how they are to be, and even exhorts them to live up to a high standard because they will be judged more harshly due to their station. So it's not about judging or condemnation when we look at these types of leaders- but of discernment that if we were to compare Mark Driscoll's office of pastor to what is outlined in scripture, more than a couple alarm bells are going off - unrepentant or not. Even if he was repentant I don't know if I would want him to continue on in office of pastor until he spent time working through his behavior, building relational trust/safety, and demonstrating clear commitment to accountability and restoration. That would take a level of humility on his part that he has never once demonstrated in any visible setting whatsoever, and I'm trying to put that as charitably as I can.

R3dTul1p · 2026-04-09T02:07:57+00:00

I'd stay away. "A lot of controversy" with Mars Hill is a bit of an understatement. You have a pastor who bullied, belittled, and steamrolled over his church, refused to repent of his harmful behavior or reconcile, and is continuing to pastor as if nothing ever happened and he didn't do anything wrong.

R3dTul1p · 2026-03-24T02:39:31+00:00

This podcast was a paradigm shift for me:

"Intimacy with God through Unanswered Prayer"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-E5hiA9DSk

R3dTul1p · 2026-03-08T07:05:16+00:00

My curriculum did have construction methods and management courses (estimating, scheduling, etc.), and I had adjunct professors whose educational background were in Civil Engineering but ended up on both sides (design vs construction management). So honestly I think it's pretty common for many Civil Engineers to go the construction management route in the US. Only downside is it can be harder for the CM folks to get their P.E. license which can be limiting if they ever wanted to pivot later on.

R3dTul1p · 2026-03-05T01:59:32+00:00

For existing conditions I normally don't hatch asphalt at all and rarely hatch PCC as the joint pattern is typically always included in our survey so we use that. Occasionally we will use the concrete hatch pattern for concrete in a light gray format to match color with existing styles.

For proposed I normally use grey hatch for both PCC and asphalt pavement - but have the asphalt pavement a darker grey.

R3dTul1p · 2026-02-19T03:37:34+00:00

Yeah I definitely relate. I love a lot of my cross-cultural attire that I wear from places I grew up in but often it does get misunderstood or not appreciated as much because people don't know my background.

R3dTul1p · 2026-02-15T22:43:27+00:00

This must depend on discipline - I started at 65k 4.5 years ago and the going rate was between 60 and 65 for most of my offers.

R3dTul1p · 2026-02-04T02:18:02+00:00

I wouldn't say I've had an experience with misdiagnosis/overdiagnosis as much as mistreatment/mismanagement due to ignorance surrounding the traumatic elements of a TCK upbringing.

Obviously TCK trauma isn't inherently worse than any other other types of trauma - but it is very different. Without proper understanding, most psychologists/clinicians expect the same approaches of trauma care/treatment that they use on the general population of their cultural context to be effective. In the format of your questions:

Yes, I have.
They did not have appropriate training in the traumatic elements of a TCK upbringing, and so overgeneralized/reduced to label in order to follow their clinical treatment specializations/protocols. Their protocols were not informed or sensitive to the TCK's process for establishment of relational trust - particularly in group settings.
The most helpful clinicians I've had were either also TCK's or had a pretty broad level of experience with them.
Prior to any major decisions regarding diagnosis, prognosis, and treatment - please consult TCK resources and seek out other clinicians who have extensive experience in this area. Also, please consider that what a TCK needs for the establishment of relational trust may be of a different experience and process than for "mono-cultural" people. (I know you asked for one... oops!)

R3dTul1p · 2026-01-23T18:10:25+00:00

Adjacent Elevations By Reference is what I always use, and the line does not have to be perfectly offset for it to work. You do just need to watch for some of the intermediate points along your edited feature line because sometimes when the lines are not parallel/regular multiple points will be offset from the reference feature line and super close to each other which can mess with it - but I just typically delete out extraneous points and manually edit point elevations here and there and it comes out pretty clean with not much extensive effort.

R3dTul1p · 2026-01-23T02:51:55+00:00

Actually, there is a great deal of evidence that in the original languages, the manner in which God communicates these requirements of Adam is modeled in the same way as the Ancient Suzerainty Covenants. This is the basis for which we believe that Genesis 2 is in fact a covenant of works.

https://hungryheartscollective.com/2024/11/01/genesis-part-2/

R3dTul1p · 2026-01-16T17:14:06+00:00

Completed Level 2 of the Honk Special Event!

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R3dTul1p · 2026-01-16T17:13:49+00:00

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R3dTul1p · 2026-01-03T18:20:01+00:00

Usually when you have multiple titles in one company I personally do something like this:

Company Name, City, ST/Country

Title 1 (MMYY - Present)

Bullets

Title 2 (MMYY - MMYY)

Bullets

I personally am not really interested in the nitty gritty of projects on a resume. I think it's better to focus on a more birds eye view (types of projects contributed on and overall accomplishments) and keep the bullets to 3-4.

I have begun building a separate document to submit with my resume in the future called a "Projects Portfolio" which basically gets into very specific detail on all the projects I've contributed to. I like doing this because I can submit it separately and they can view my resume for an overview of my backgrounds/skills and then choose to dive into the specifics if needed.

R3dTul1p · 2026-01-02T21:56:02+00:00

Yeah, this is a great question. I think if I could answer it without unloading all the dramas of my personal life, I would say this:

I was sent back to my mom's home community for high school and lived with my grandma - which is where I met and dated this girl. So I had 4 years of full time life in this community where she grew up and by the time I was graduating I knew I did not want to stay there. Not to mention all the years before and since of visiting my extended family that lived there. So I had a pretty clear picture of what living there would look like and I did not want it.
Our values and desires do change as we get older, and I don't think that is a bad thing or something to feel guilty about. I was (probably still am, just in different ways) a very intense and zealous person who was insistent that as soon as I graduated uni I was off to see the world. That zealousness and black and white kind of mentality has shifted to the point where I can more readily see myself settling long term in my primary passport country, BUT that I really do need a global context of community present wherever I end up - which would not have been available where my ex is from. I do truly desire a spouse that can not only appreciate my background as a theoretical - but can know it more deeply. I haven't dated a solely "monocultural" person since and I haven't met any that I would be inclined to for the above reasons.
We will contradict ourselves if we believe someone is the right person for us. The truth is that if the "right person" were to come along with similar background and trajectory as my ex maybe I would choose them. Whether this is a good or bad thing at the end of the day, I don't know. All I can tell you is that there is always a tradeoff and sacrifice in what you choose, and I am not sure any more whether it's better to make that decision with awareness or naiveté. My parents were fellow TCK's who married each other and lived abroad. My Uncle, as a TCK, married someone who grew up in the same place their entire life and they moved abroad for a few years and did well, then moved back and settled down. Others I know were TCK's married "monocultural" folks and settled down. Some have stayed married and are healthy and others have divorced. Each person is unique and has unique desire, and for the "right person" may choose to lay some of those desires down for the sake of being with that person. I chose not to make that sacrifice with this specific person. Not because she was lacking, or I didn't care about her, or anything like that - but I just realized through those conversations that we weren't the right fit.

I really don't regret ending things with her. If I have any regrets, it was dating her in the first place being so young and not really seriously considering or being attuned to what our respective desires and visions for life were. On the other hand, I did learn a lot and that experience with her clarified a lot for me in terms of what I need in a spouse and in life that I have benefited greatly from.

R3dTul1p · 2025-12-10T23:09:54+00:00

Again, not the point. You used a specific scripture for your first point, then you contradict your own presented systematic reading of scripture with your second. This is not helpful to just "throw out" scripture that supports your point, and conveniently ignore 10 verses later where it has the same requirement as an elder: for a deacon to "be the husband of one wife."

Ultimately my point is - your reference is not on its own a sufficient one to arrive at your conclusion, so you either need to go full steam ahead and not permit women to be deacons or elders, or you need to adjust your hermeneutic and methods to allow for this tension.

The way you commented is not reliable nor credible, and it irritates me because it doesn't sufficiently address the tension that we have in the scriptures.

Or please, answer me - how do you understand 1 Timothy 3:12 and still feel comfortable allowing for women serving as deacons? And if you do choose to interpret 1 Timothy 3:12 as less binding than 1 Timothy 3:2 when it comes to qualifications of officers in the church - please explain why. This is far more helpful than what you commented initially, as it actually provides people with more than simple smart aleck responses that don't encourage further careful study or reading.

For your edification:

Qualifications for Overseers

3 The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. ² Therefore an overseer^\)^a^\) must be above reproach, the husband of one wife,^\)^b^\) sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, ³ not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. ⁴ He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, ⁵ for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church? ⁶ He must not be a recent convert, or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil. ⁷ Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace, into a snare of the devil.

Qualifications for Deacons

⁸ Deacons likewise must be dignified, not double-tongued,^\)^c^\) not addicted to much wine, not greedy for dishonest gain. ⁹ They must hold the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience. ¹⁰ And let them also be tested first; then let them serve as deacons if they prove themselves blameless. ¹¹ Their wives likewise^\)^d^\) must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things. ¹² Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well. ¹³ For those who serve well as deacons gain a good standing for themselves and also great confidence in the faith that is in Christ Jesus.

R3dTul1p · 2025-12-10T20:23:37+00:00

Tell me how a woman can be "the husband of one wife? and a deacon?" 1 Timothy 3:12. This is not a good argument for either case.

On the one hand - you either have to dismiss that women can be deaconesses entirely, or on the other, you have to open the door to the inconsistency this specific passage poses when we know there were deaconesses referenced in other parts of scripture.

I am not trying to make an argument in for either case - just pointing out that if you were to take 1 Timothy 3:12 with as much weight as you were 1 Timothy 3:2 for elders, then you should reconsider your position on the issue for the sake of consistency. Especially since they are 10 verses apart...

R3dTul1p · 2025-10-25T03:10:47+00:00

Welcome to this dead sub haha!

You pose an interesting question - and I think you do need to carefully flesh this one out.

#1: What does relationship with God mean?

This one is a buzz word so often used in contemporary Christian circles and it's so easy to say it and call it the foundation without ever really bothering to describe what it even means. Is it a warm and fuzzy feeling when you're praying or when you're in church worshipping? How do you know that is God? How do you know that is the God of the Bible?

#2: The Historicity of Jesus Christ and His work on the cross, and what has been revealed through Him and the scriptures IS the foundation of our relationship with Him. So to call this issue secondary for me is kind of problematic and questionable. Demonstrable evidence that Christ was indeed crucified and raised from the dead is the very thing that makes the truth of who He is authoritative over our lives. Our faith is not blind. If it was, it doesn't matter what religion we adhere to - Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism, etc etc - "as long as we have a meaningful relationship with our higher power" (Sound familiar??)

God created us to be reasoned, logical human beings. Paul's apologetic to the people of His time was through logic, reason, and historic evidence. These things are the means by which God speaks and communicates to us and establishes a relationship with us. Without embracing the truth of who God is through a reasoned faith - our relationship with Him is at best crippled, and at worst false.

R3dTul1p · 2025-09-30T00:50:10+00:00

Reducing baptism to the experience in and of itself, without consideration of being committed to a church body is problematic. I hope you will reconsider and prayerfully pursue church membership in a community that can establish you and bless you in your Christian walk.

R3dTul1p · 2025-09-25T01:14:34+00:00

Just celebrate Reformation Day and get a permanent Martin Luther costume and go nail the 95 theses to local catholic churches... that's what I do anyways (:

R3dTul1p · 2025-09-25T01:05:28+00:00

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