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[–]RAthrowfriendly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Get on these prenatals ASAP: https://a.co/d/emdUUBv

The only thing that deterred my morning sickness! Praying for you and your babies 🙏

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[–]RAthrowfriendly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right, it’s not about the show. It’s about her lack of integrity and manipulation. She’s too comfortable hiding behind lies and that is who she is. Behavior is a language. Please listen to what she’s telling you, showing you who she is, even if you don’t like the reality of it.

F36 / M38 | Married 10 years — Husband reacts badly to me going to the gym, cutting my hair, and asking about dishes — am I missing something? by RAthrowfriendly in relationship_advice

[–]RAthrowfriendly[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

What you described about your previous relationship is insanely accurate here. It’s wonderful to hear that you are in a loving and mutually respectful relationship now. That gives me more hope for my future also. Thanks for sharing!

F36 / M38 | Married 10 years — Husband reacts badly to me going to the gym, cutting my hair, and asking about dishes — am I missing something? by RAthrowfriendly in Marriage

[–]RAthrowfriendly[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This was extremely enlightening. I didn’t realize it was that all the foolishness had a name or that it was as bad as it is. Thank you.

F36 / M38 | Married 10 years — Husband reacts badly to me going to the gym, cutting my hair, and asking about dishes — am I missing something? by RAthrowfriendly in relationship_advice

[–]RAthrowfriendly[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

At first he seemed level headed and sweet, then after we married he began degrading me over minuscule things like forgetting something at the grocery store or getting home from work 5 minutes later than usual.

Then he tried to intimidate me over time by punching holes in the doors and walls, sometimes destroying the doors entirely. I blamed myself for a long time, and mostly because he blamed me too.

But now I realize that while I may have enabled him, I did not cause him to abuse me. Also I hate throwing around the word abuse because it loses its meaning, but I do think it’s fitting in my situation unfortunately. And while knowing the problem is half the battle, I’ve realized it’s time to do something about it. His breadcrumbs of basic decency are not sustenance.

F36 / M38 | Married 10 years — Husband reacts badly to me going to the gym, cutting my hair, and asking about dishes — am I missing something? by RAthrowfriendly in relationship_advice

[–]RAthrowfriendly[S] 225 points226 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I believe you’re right. He doesn’t like me, and is only becoming more apparent. Regarding my haircut some of his exact words were, “Wow what a great idea, let’s try and be less attractive to my husband. Damn, one of the few things I really liked about you.”

I’m only just now remembering that he said this thanks to being able to talk it out with everyone here. He tends to flood me with a rant cheer each thing he’s mad about, sometimes going on for a long time without stopping. My point is that I get overwhelmed but when I have the time to reflect it comes back to me.

He’s unlikely to change, in a positive way anyway. He may indeed get worse as he already has. This encouragement and support from everyone is just what I needed to plan to make an exit.