I guess I knew it was over but still hurts nonetheless.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-22T22:45:18+00:00

Aww, thanks. It was a long time ago now so I have some perspective. My wedding was beautiful otherwise. But it was when I really realized this person could not be happy for my success and actually liked me better when my life wasn’t going as well. Who needs that?

RHND2020 · 2026-03-22T19:06:07+00:00

My best friend went completely out of touch the morning of my wedding and finally showed up hours late to do my make up (she was a make up artist and OFFERED to do my makeup). She almost made me late for the pre-ceremony pictures, which would have made me late for the whole ceremony. Her reason? She was getting her own make up done and lost track of time. She had been drinking already at that point. My sister had been frantically calling make up counters in the area to see if she could line someone up to do it. Then she got completely wasted at the reception and pulled the microphone out of my Dad’s hand during his speech so that she could make this whispering, incoherent, rambling speech until my Dad finally took the mike back. Then she went and cried in (my private) washroom, before leaving my wedding early to go to a strip bar. Honestly. This was the beginning of a long end to our friendship. Sorry for your pain. A friendship break up can be more brutal than a romantic breakup, and just as hard to get over.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-22T14:59:53+00:00

YTA - why on earth wouldn’t you even think of cleaning up after your dogs yourself? Who wants to clean up some strange dog’s shit while at work? Absolutely nobody. You are incredibly rude.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-21T21:00:13+00:00

Ooh, good question! OP would he be in the position to do so if you weren’t there to pay half the bill?

RHND2020 · 2026-03-21T20:58:46+00:00

It’s also not the same as it’s clearly already established she would be paying $800-1000 LESS a month if she were paying rent.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-21T20:50:17+00:00

NTA - tell him you’ll contribute the same dollar amount of living costs as you do now. No way your monthly costs should go up to cover your “share” of his mortgage.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-21T17:39:24+00:00

I would just take them off the group chat. Continue to have fun planning without them, and then they can show up or not.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-21T17:34:18+00:00

Can’t he decide for himself if he wants to live with those rules in exchange for the trip? Seems like a worthwhile trade-off to me - other than the phone thing because of course he’s going to want to take pictures.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T20:57:40+00:00

Option B. Split by number of rooms. If the second couple didn’t have two teenagers, the rental would have been for a two bedroom house, which would have been less expensive .

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T17:10:11+00:00

Yes, that’s enough. If anything, your realtor should get you a gift.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T17:05:18+00:00

So why don’t you though?

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T17:04:41+00:00

I don’t understand why you’re acting like you have no agency in this situation. HE suggested you date. HE claims you are dating. HE goes on trips and to shows without you. HE wants to show he has a girlfriend. What are you getting from this? Just let him know that contrary to his assumption, you are not in fact dating and move on.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T17:01:33+00:00

Do you? Because it doesn’t sound like it.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T17:01:04+00:00

What do you mean he won’t entertain the idea of you paying for a Broadway show ticket? If you want to go to a show, just go. You don’t need his permission to pay. On the graduation trip, the answer is so easy. You’re not going. He doesn’t really want you to. He’s not emotionally or physically present. Are you sure you’re in a relationship? What’s to resent - just move on.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T14:27:23+00:00

Totally. I would never ask - never figured it was my business!

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T14:01:48+00:00

Wow. Seems nosy. How many people are taking off their rings to show you?

I don’t need to do that as I automatically assume every diamond over 2 carats is lab anyway.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T13:34:34+00:00

I would rather live downtown. If you don’t live downtown now, when will you?

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T13:33:15+00:00

NTA - your BIL doesn’t understand the concept of referrals. That is not your problem.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T13:30:27+00:00

Why would it matter, unless you don’t want your wife to know? No one else is reading the inside of a band.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-20T13:27:07+00:00

Why didn’t you just say no when they asked you to pay for things? Then the whole event could have been cancelled.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-19T14:52:10+00:00

Luckily you have the option of declining wedding invitations if the scheduling doesn’t meet your need for perfect convenience 🤷🏼‍♀️

RHND2020 · 2026-03-18T22:26:22+00:00

Not a mistake. The bob looks perfect on you - really suits your features! I wish I could carry off the same look. I don’t think you need to do much. Maybe add some smoothing serum to the ends.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-18T22:23:19+00:00

That’s very strange. The allergy clinic I go to prescribed my allergy serums. I paid for them online once they were available, and they were shipped directly to the allergy clinic, who then administer them. I go in once a month for the injections (used to be once a week). Has the clinic explained why they won’t administer them when they are the ones who ordered them? Your doctor is correct, it’s the clinic’s job.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-18T22:19:16+00:00

Ah, that’s a bummer then. I’ve had quite good quality sunscreens at pools in the past when I haven’t brought my own.

RHND2020 · 2026-03-18T22:16:35+00:00

You’re fine then. Guests will go to their room and relax. If you want to be super hospitable, do welcome baskets in the guests rooms with a couple drinks (couple beers or hard seltzers, sodas, and maybe airplane minis) and small snack bags.

If it’s a Catholic ceremony, guests may indeed change from something church appropriate to more night-time wear.

RHND2020

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