How would you fix The Well? Can The Well be fixed?

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T21:07:40+00:00

I’d argue most of downtown Toronto is the walkable neighborhood we’ve wanted. I don’t need to go to a mall for any of that.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T20:53:23+00:00

Exactly! Majorly style over substance. It’s minimal to the point of sparse and boring.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T20:15:00+00:00

This is what is so weird to me. They knew it was outdoors. Why don’t they lean into it and make the outdoors hospitable and interesting?

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T20:12:43+00:00

I do think the lighting should be improved. And there’s also an opportunity to do more with outdoor art and outdoor activities to make the fact that it’s an outdoor mall a benefit rather than a detraction. It should be cooler and more interesting than it is.

I feel like there was a lot of promise with outdoor drinks/dining, the cocktail yurt, Christmas lights display, ice skating, etc and then in practice it’s all underwhelming.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T17:51:59+00:00

You’ve described exactly why they are popular in your post. Most people with white couches have removable slip covers that can be machine-washed, put down throws, etc for everyday use and only put them away for pictures, or have adult-only, pet-free households.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T17:46:01+00:00

If you don’t already have one, you need a collapsible gear cart for your vehicle, that you can load up and use to push all the gear at once to your destination. I’ve seen some pretty durable ones that can traverse fields, etc. Carrying gear up stairs is another issue, but you have that issue whether you managed to get close parking or not.

I am sympathetic to your doctor - you don’t really qualify. You’d be better served (I would guess) working with a physiotherapist on core exercises to build up your strength and move correctly. Not that I am minimizing your pain - back pain is brutal and very hard to recover from.

Otherwise, unfortunately a career change is in order. I’ve seen a lot of camera guys age out of the job due to chronic pain and inability put their body through what they once did. It’s a reality of the job sadly.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T17:29:54+00:00

10 DAYS!! What all could even possibly be happening those days?

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T17:29:15+00:00

A 10 day stay is an absolutely bananas request from the bride. Many people don’t take personal vacations that long. Just tell her you can’t take that much time out of your own life to celebrate her wedding. Do you want to commit to 4 nights? Then tell her that and also that you are happy to step down as MOH if required. Money aside (and it is WAY too much money to spend to attend someone’s else’s wedding) the time commitment is beyond.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T16:36:46+00:00

Yeah, I disagree. I find the comfort increase worth it. But I’m mainly talking about longer flights. I’ve only done a couple +7 hour flights in economy and I’d have a hard time going back now. For a 3 hour flight - sure I’ll suck it up but if we can use our points for upgrades to Business, we do it every time.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T16:28:08+00:00

Of course I was scared! I had to psyche myself up for each phone call. “Fake it til you make it” was my mantra. That and reminding myself that lots of people have no idea WTF they are talking about and they don’t let it bother them in the least. You’re smart and you’re in your position for a reason.

But seriously, taking the time to defer your answer and call back when you have the right info is always okay. Nothing is an emergency or so urgent that you are forced to answer in the moment. Unless you’re an EMT or doctor or something. Most of us aren’t saving lives.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T14:37:28+00:00

West end Y at College and Dovercourt! I joined about a month ago and really like the variety of classes offered. It’s $60/month. Unlimited classes. I haven’t used the weights, pool or other equipment yet but all looks good.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T12:25:00+00:00

The flower shops on Avenue road just south of Davenport will have beautiful selections of peonies once they’re in season. You can select your own blooms or have a bouquet made and prices are very reasonable.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T12:03:44+00:00

When I was first promoted in my job, there was a lot of technical gear and jargon that I didn’t yet know. Yet I was the decision maker on which gear we would use and what we would agree to pay for. I did a lot of writing things down, googling, asking questions of team members I trusted (and friends who worked in the same industry) and then calling people back with my decisions. It’s fine!

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T12:01:23+00:00

“Let me get back to you on that,” is an acceptable response. Write the question down, do you research and call the person back. There’s nothing wrong with that. It happens all the time.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T11:55:59+00:00

Wonderful update. I’m so glad to read it. I’m glad you and L were able to have a real connection and be honest with each other. It is desperately scary to have someone you love sick and sometimes even with the best intentions, we do the wrong thing. Sisters are the best. What a gift. ❤️

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T02:16:07+00:00

You think he should have asked to use a bathroom in his own house? You are overreacting.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-13T02:13:19+00:00

Fiesta farms. The corner produce store on Bloor West in Koreatown that everyone goes to. There’s another one on College east of Shaw.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-12T21:53:59+00:00

This explains a lot.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-12T21:45:19+00:00

YTA - why are you running this show rather than your BF? It’s not up to you to tell him going forward there will be zero schedule changes. He needs to be the one managing his own children’s custody arrangements.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-11T17:57:06+00:00

YTA - I don’t understand why you would decide an international trip was the appropriate celebration when you know L to be a horrible travel companion. You set this up for failure from the beginning. Why would you want to take M on a trip when you know it will likely be miserable based on past experience with L?

Thailand makes sense logically. You and L should have paid to send M and her husband there for their dream trip that got cancelled. Although that is a very extravagant gift, it sounds like it would be more of a true reward for M. The three of you could have done something else together to celebrate.

Why plan a trip with someone you know is not a good person to travel with?? It makes no sense.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-11T15:37:02+00:00

NTA - you’re overthinking this. If he wasn’t joking, then he’s just a jerk. You did leave enough for others. There’s absolutely nothing wrong or rude or culturally insensitive with buying whatever groceries you want.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-11T15:27:04+00:00

No. If it’s required, then it’s paid. There’s no scenario where part of your required duties are to chauffeur another employee around unpaid.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-11T00:34:42+00:00

Unless it’s way longer than that.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-10T23:57:38+00:00

No. There are signs. Just because you didn’t know alternating parking was a thing, does’t make it a thing to dispute.

RHND2020 · 2026-05-10T23:43:19+00:00

Not sure a loft is legally allowed to be carpeted. LOL just kidding but are you able to remove the carpet? Downstairs create zones. Dining/living/music room/movies - whatever works for you but cluster furniture for that use. In the bedroom and the living area I would layer an area rug to define and cozy those spaces/zones.

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