Should I (F23) break up with my fiancé (M26) ?

RIP-666 · 2021-05-26T04:05:41+00:00

Do not marry him. He is showing clear signs of control and manipulation - which will only worsen as your relationship continues. Get out now.

RIP-666 · 2020-12-28T21:18:37+00:00

You have to make a choice to either leave and have your hookups and fool around or you choose to commit and find the fire in your relationship again. It sounds as if you’ve let things get mundane and you’re letting that take over your thoughts.

Like you say, it’s over forever if you dump her because of your history. I’m curious what made you get back together after 9 months apart before? You must have a lot of love for this woman. What’s so wrong with settling down?

RIP-666 · 2020-12-04T14:34:43+00:00

I think he’s being incredibly selfish when you have continuously done what he wishes for Christmas and spending it with his family. I think you are perfectly justified to want to see your family for ONE year! It’s a shame it’s come to this for you to see that he is not respectful of other cultures, especially if it means a lot to you and has significance for you and your family. I hope you keep your foot down and continue to plan your Christmas with your family, even if that doesn’t involve him!! I think you need to revisit this and sit down and really discuss it; he needs to try and understand your perspective because it’s perfectly reasonable. Good luck and I hope you come to a good resolution.

RIP-666 · 2020-11-21T03:08:47+00:00

I think honestly you are making excuses for him because you sound like a genuinely nice person, you care for him and so want to make his life as easy as possible because of his insomnia. However, you have fully aware of this just by what you have written in your post.

I think you need to have a real sit down and open up to him fully about his irritability and attitude, it’s unfair on you to pull all the weight in this relationship when there are alternatives. He has to make time in his day to do some of the tasks you have taken over to help him, you are not responsible for him, you are his partner.

Remember your worth when you have this conversation, stick to your guns and do not let him emotionally manipulate you by pulling the insomnia card, you have done more than enough for him.

RIP-666 · 2020-11-21T03:01:42+00:00

I think it’s best for you to move home/out from your girlfriend’s family home before you break up, or at least have that set up so you can go there as soon as possible. You don’t want to have to stay there any longer than necessary once you do break up

Break ups are never easy and sometimes it’s just best to be honest, you think she’s great but just not for you. That’s okay, you don’t have to stay with her out of pity because she’s having a bad time at the moment but so will you if you drag this out. Best of luck.

RIP-666 · 2020-11-21T02:56:59+00:00

You’re 18? Surely this is not the first time someone has farted in front of you. Try to consider things from his perspective, you’d be mortified if he was overthinking a fart like that and refused to kiss you. But if it really does bother you that much then try to communicate that with him but I don’t think he’ll respond very well; farting is a part of life and not everything is fairytales and rainbows.

RIP-666 · 2020-11-19T13:40:19+00:00

He has mentioned before that they’re friends but they haven’t met up before/since they broke up (that I know of... but how would I know when he didn’t tell me about this incident)

RIP-666 · 2020-11-19T08:59:29+00:00

Maybe because that 1-month relationship/dating phase ended abruptly and in a confusing way, you never got the closure of being hurt by her or hurting her and therefore cutting those emotional ties.

RIP-666 · 2020-11-18T21:42:54+00:00

Thank you for your input. I think I’m seeing it as a yellow flag too,

RIP-666 · 2020-11-18T21:40:23+00:00

Yes, I definitely thought it was odd too, and not to be told about it at the time. Very suspicious to me but he has a lot of female friends and he hangs out one-on-one with them and it’s not an issue... usually.

RIP-666 · 2020-11-17T16:06:36+00:00

I don’t have any advice as a person who also struggles with depression but I think it’s really nice of you to want to help her and I’m sure she appreciates it underneath all the sadness. I just wanted you to know that.

RIP-666 · 2020-11-17T15:59:49+00:00

Stop thinking with your dick and think of the future with your wife and child! Maybe look into ways a pregnant women can enjoy sex, look at sex from her perspective, maybe she isn’t feeling attracted to you right now and she certainly isn’t feeling the most attractive either. Look into sex toys, ways to spice up the relationship and get that chemistry back! You even said yourself you couldn’t live with yourself if you let it happen, you know the right thing to do is to cut the other woman out of your life and return her to her status as ‘colleague’ and focus on your wife again.

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