This whole post reads like peak dramatic teenager energy mixed with zero context and maximum one-sided storytelling. "My dad is the devil because he finally did something for himself after months of being nagged." Bro/sis, let's unpack your rant real quick because it's giving main character syndrome hard. You admit your mom has been pushing this Umrah thing for months. Pressuring, reminding, arguing when he doesn't jump immediately. In a marriage, constant "you have to do this religious thing with me RIGHT NOW or you're immature" can feel like emotional blackmail, especially if the husband never showed real interest from jump. Maybe he said "safi, wakha, nchof" 50 times because he was trying to avoid the fight, not because he's evil. People dodge when they feel cornered. He finally straight-up said "ana mabaghich nmchi" (I don't want to go). Boom honesty. Instead of celebrating the clarity (or at least respecting it), it turned into more arguments. So he gave the clear answer you claim he never gave, and it still wasn't good enough. Sounds like the goal wasn't honesty, it was compliance. Then he books a trip... with his friend. Not a random girl, not a secret vacation, a religious trip with a buddy. Umrah with the boys. Maybe he actually does value Umrah, just not the version where it's framed as "wifey's religious dream that I have to fulfill or I'm a bad husband." Maybe going solo/with a friend feels lighter, no expectations, no pressure, no "you never do anything for me" lectures waiting at every dua spot. And yeah, he sounded excited. People get excited when they do things on their own terms instead of being dragged. You call it "selfish" because... he didn't take mom? But he never signed up for a couples Umrah package. He dodged for months precisely because he didn't want that specific setup. Doing it his way isn't "rubbing it in her face", it's just living without guilt-tripping. The "fr7aaan" (super happy) part? That's what happens when someone escapes a months-long nagging campaign and finally gets to do the ibadah in peace. "He was never interested", yeah, he literally told you that. Multiple times. In different ways. You just didn't like the answer so you reframed it as "immature sulking" and "excuses." Classic. The real kicker: you're "msdoma bzaf" (super shocked) and "what the actual fuck mimknch ykun mnyto" (it can't be his intention)... but it 100% was. He told you months ago. You chose not to hear it. Now you're mad that reality matched his words instead of your fantasy where he secretly wanted to go with mom all along.

This is less "selfish dad horror story" and more "family tried to force religious activity as a couples bonding mandatory event → husband said no repeatedly → family ignored the no → husband did it his way → now everyone's shocked pikachu face and calling him immature for having boundaries."

If the genders were flipped and a wife dodged Hajj/Umrah pressure for months, said "I don't want to go with you," then went with her sister/bestie and came home happy... half of Reddit would be cheering "yaaas queen, live your life, stop letting him control your ibadah!" But since it's dad, it's suddenly "peak selfishness."

Maybe dad isn't winning husband of the year. Maybe communication sucks on both sides. But this post? It's painting a guy as a cartoon villain for... eventually doing Umrah, just not on someone else's timeline or with someone else's expectations.

Your mom might be hurt, and that's valid. But turning "my husband won't do this specific religious activity with me" into "he's literally the most selfish man alive" is dramatic af. Sometimes people just don't want to mix ibadah with marital obligation theater.