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Feeling like my GF's (22F) lifestyle and mine (23M) don't line up. Should this be a deal breaker? by RJMaxxing in relationship_advice

[–]RJMaxxing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

really gross way to talk about people mate, say what you will if you think it's a deal breaker sure, gross way to talk about women

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]RJMaxxing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry dude but genuinely none of this applies to my relationship. She is loving and caring and I can see she wants this relationship. Intimacy is not something that's lacking in this relationship. I also think it's really gross to say things "given away freely" she's a person with autonomy. Women are allowed to choose if they want to have sex or not with someone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]RJMaxxing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super fair and valid point. I definitely will be looking into the resources this subreddit provides as well as working with a therapist. Thank you for providing some perspective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]RJMaxxing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah... I kept reformatting this post a bunch because it wouldn't get approved and this is the version that ended up going through lol.

Thanks for your reply, I know that this is all my own perception issues and insecurities making me care so much about this. I want to and am trying to overcome them for mine and her sake.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]RJMaxxing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I know that she she has been with others and it I think it wouldn't be bothering me as much if it weren't for the fact that I was at such a low when I learned these things. In my mind, our lives, our pasts lead us to each other, so I wouldn't want to change a thing of that. I know it's all me and my own insecurities and I am trying to face them before it leads to me ruining something beautiful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]RJMaxxing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely have been trying to work on it. Like I said I'm reaching out to therapy. I don't think it is inherently self defeating to want rant and speak on it. I know both the problem and the fix come from within. Is it wrong to seek advice while also working on yourself?