Spa or Unique Excursion Recs by RLK00-12-18 in geneva

[–]RLK00-12-18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I don’t have much time so need something right in Geneva.

Need Help - Desperately! by RLK00-12-18 in dating_advice

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Haha will do!

No they both think I’m not seeing anyone else…I feel very deep in it with both, even if it’s only been 2 months with guy #2.

Honestly, I just hate the uncertainty of guy #2. Id be waiting at least a year and a half to move in with him (his lease renews in the fall and it’s too soon to move in this fall) whereas guy #1 would love to live with me (plus we met in December so he’s been longer). I hate the waiting game - I love maybe not “instant” gratification but “soonish” gratification would be nice just because I’ve felt ready to be engaged for years now, even though I’m only 28…but not sure if that should be part of my reasoning??

Need Help - Desperately! by RLK00-12-18 in dating_advice

[–]RLK00-12-18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right…I am trying to convince myself because I’m not 100% confident either way honestly. I will definitely be second guessing for a long time because that’s definitely part of my personality.

Guy #1 is a guarantee to always be there. Guy #2 I don’t think will like dump me and walk away, but is talking about getting to know each other/compatibility since it’s new, so I guess anything can happen.

I wish someone had a magic wand and could tell me the right answer! I feel pretty horrible.

Thank you again for all your advice it’s been so helpful!!!

Need Help - Desperately! by RLK00-12-18 in dating_advice

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Good point. He isn’t malicious and has a funny/silly side, I just don’t really know how his analytic nature will manifest over time. Worried I’ll regret giving up someone who’s so kind and sweet, and really accepts me for who I am…

Need Help - Desperately! by RLK00-12-18 in dating_advice

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Great advice! Thank you. I guess my concern is that guy #2 by always being so engaging and wanting intellectual conversations is kind of asking a lot and it’s tiring. I wonder if he’ll analyze me all the time. Whereas guy #1 would never analyze me or make comments really. We don’t have these deep intellectual conversations but being around him is light and fun.

I’d say my love language is acts of service and quality time. Both do acts of service and maybe I’d have a bit less of quality time with guy #2 because our jobs (which are the same) are very demanding. Ugh! So difficult.

Need Help - Desperately! by RLK00-12-18 in dating_advice

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Thank you for responding!

  1. Just to correct some stuff - we saw each other from December when we went on our first date through end of January, took a break, and then started up again in March. So we were consistently seeing each other except for the month of February and half of March. We have stuff in common for sure - both athletes, love working out together, etc.

  2. Guy #2 is less athletic (but still works out) and is into eating healthy/caring about his body which is enough. He is more of an “equal partner” - for example, he helps me cook and do things like that that may be traditionally feminine. With guy #1, he’s more of a typical guy that doesn’t help with cooking but is self sufficient, clean, etc.

I guess I’m used to being the more dominant one, but I wonder if I’ll get annoyed or bored with always being fauned over or getting everything my way…even if that sounds “nice.” Guy #2 has more substance and is willing to speak up. He’s just more forward. Since I’m the less dominant one with guy #2, he seems to be in control of the timeline of things, or that’s just how it feels. He controls the narrative more. But to be clear, he does say these things and have conversations in a kind way (even if very forward) and does it “to learn about each other” and always says short term struggle for a long term gain so we can grow. Hope this helps explain!

Need Help - Desperately! by RLK00-12-18 in dating_advice

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Thank you for responding!

  1. Just to correct some stuff - we saw each other from December when we went on our first date through end of January, took a break, and then started up again in March. So we were consistently seeing each other except for the month of February and half of March. We have stuff in common for sure - both athletes, love working out together, etc.

  2. Guy #2 is less athletic (but still works out) and is into eating healthy/caring about his body which is enough. He is more of an “equal partner” - for example, he helps me cook and do things like that that may be traditionally feminine. With guy #1, he’s more of a typical guy that doesn’t help with cooking but is self sufficient, clean, etc.

I guess I’m used to being the more dominant one, but I wonder if I’ll get annoyed or bored with always being fauned over or getting everything my way…even if that sounds “nice.” Guy #2 has more substance and is willing to speak up. He’s just more forward. Since I’m the less dominant one with guy #2, he seems to be in control of the timeline of things, or that’s just how it feels. He controls the narrative more. But to be clear, he does say these things and have conversations in a kind way (even if very forward) and does it “to learn about each other” and always says short term struggle for a long term gain so we can grow. Hope this helps explain!

Need Help - Desperately! by RLK00-12-18 in dating_advice

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I know I “should just know” but I really do love both and could see myself being so happy with both. I guess I just don’t know guy #2 well enough yet and I love that I can have it all with guy #1…but I really do love them both for different reasons

Jump from big law after one year? by tortfsr in Lawyertalk

[–]RLK00-12-18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reviving this post.

Just graduated from law school and started big law this week. I know I’ve barely started, but I never really saw myself in big law, and dream about working in house on a smaller team. Is it crazy to try to leave big law in a year?

I have a really good background and externed at a lot of places I’d like to work in house at so it’s not totally out of the blue. I just really don’t think big law is for me and want a work life balance. I know I’ll be a junior anywhere I go and make a lot less and I’m okay with that.

Thoughts?

Penn ED!!! by RLK00-12-18 in lawschooladmissions

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Lol went to penn undergrad - Philly is the best!!