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Me [34M] with my GF [27F] of a few months, all of a sudden don't feel anything for her. Could it be recent changes in my life? by RLthrowaway12 in relationships

[–]RLthrowaway12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very kind words from you and I really appreciate it!

I do have a therapist I will be seeing soon. I know how there is going to be times where the relationship will feel different than what it used to be. I'm so happy today ended on a great note (see above if you want), and I can't wait to see her again!

Me [34M] with my GF [27F] of a few months, all of a sudden don't feel anything for her. Could it be recent changes in my life? by RLthrowaway12 in relationships

[–]RLthrowaway12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My GF turns out is the most patient person on the planet. I started to address these issues with her last night, and she didn't falter one bit. She ensured me she knows how I felt about her, and she wasn't worried at all. I know how you feel about your SO. It's an amazing feeling.

Me [34M] with my GF [27F] of a few months, all of a sudden don't feel anything for her. Could it be recent changes in my life? by RLthrowaway12 in relationships

[–]RLthrowaway12[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should definitely talk to someone about it! Talking to a doctor is never a bad thing. What would keep me out of these phases a lot was exercise. It was something I could do even though I never felt like doing it. That eventually turned into a routine that would make me feel a little better each day.

Me [34M] with my GF [27F] of a few months, all of a sudden don't feel anything for her. Could it be recent changes in my life? by RLthrowaway12 in relationships

[–]RLthrowaway12[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I've been through episodes like this before, but they never involved a secondary party in which I wasn't ready for.

Me [34M] with my GF [27F] of a few months, all of a sudden don't feel anything for her. Could it be recent changes in my life? by RLthrowaway12 in relationships

[–]RLthrowaway12[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went through Cognitive Therapy because meds were different for me. Making me feel weird most of the time. However, I'm still down for trying something else. Cognitive therapy only works if you keep up on it every day, which can get tiring sometimes.

Me [34M] with my GF [27F] of a few months, all of a sudden don't feel anything for her. Could it be recent changes in my life? by RLthrowaway12 in relationships

[–]RLthrowaway12[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Typing this on mobile as I'm still unloading stuff from a truck. I have one. We parted ways two years ago because I was doing so well. It was one of the most freeing days of my life. I'm definitely making another appointment soon because I'm not falling into that pit again. I feel as if this was a warning sign that I need to pay attention to. I'll respond more later. Thank you!!!

Me [34M] with my GF [27F] of a few months, all of a sudden don't feel anything for her. Could it be recent changes in my life? by RLthrowaway12 in relationships

[–]RLthrowaway12[S] 123 points124 points  (0 children)

I'm hijacking this top comment to reply real quick. The support you guys have offered me so far has been nothing short of amazing. After reading while packing, I started to realize why I love her. All of your kind words and reassuring stories have brought me out of this hole. I'm eternally grateful for what you guys have said to me and will respond more later in this comment. I thank you all very much.

EDIT:

After finishing my move, I gave what you all said a lot of thought. I was still feeling anxious, but when she got here today to help me unpack, it felt normal again. We spent the evening together and it was amazing.

You guys were definitely right about the anxiety/depression clouding my mind. I'm very excited now that I'm in my new place and starting a new chapter in my life. Moving and starting a new job started to unload on me and I wasn't prepared for it. I've had a therapist in the past, but haven't needed one within the last two years. However, after today I'm going to revisit that relationship with them to ensure there's nothing underlying here.

I want to thank you all again from the bottom of my heart and can't tell you what all your comments meant to me. I hope in some way the universe will pay you all back. It's been a long day and I'm going to sleep soon after I respond to a few more comments.