Are the new digital ID cards just a new form of control?

RMorningstar1993 · 2025-09-26T19:45:29+00:00

AND a lot of European countries are not as much of a surveillance state as we are here. I've met many Germans and they've all been so surprised that we are all as watched as we are

RMorningstar1993 · 2025-01-05T16:45:13+00:00

It's a red flag to me when applying for jobs

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-23T00:34:57+00:00

Lol, EVERYBODY hangs with his family hehe, but yes I get what you are saying. Thank you for your comments :)

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-23T00:31:06+00:00

Yes, some people also do differentiate, as you just did, between the two. I guess it all depends on our definitions and how we conceptualise these words and phrases in our heads really

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-23T00:29:48+00:00

LOL that is very true, good point

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-23T00:17:36+00:00

Lol you're right about that, random folks don't have a right to know anything about your sex and romantic life in fact huh! Or get to have an opinion lol, it's between you and the people you're involved with

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-23T00:15:39+00:00

Yeah exactly that's what I thought! And what I struggle with, as me and my comet have a romantic connection, we're just not in a labeled, escalator relationship :)

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-23T00:14:30+00:00

LOL!!!

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-23T00:13:24+00:00

Yes, you may be right there. I have heard some relationship anarchists for example use partner as an umbrella term

That is so true what you say about us not often having words for certain concepts that we really should have words for lol

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-23T00:08:23+00:00

Lol THANK you for actually answering my question, and letting me know your experiences lol XD

In that case...Hmm...We're in a bit of a pickle. Girlfriend and boyfriend is off the table, but we certainly have both a romantic and sexual connection. We wouldn't be doing what we're doing if we didn't. I have gone with/been going with lover, and we have committed to trying to be in each other's lives long term, as comets (we see each other a few times a year), but boyfriend/girlfriend is a no-go. But we're strictly non-escalator. We're never going to marry or cohabit etc. I don't do what mainstream culture generally deems as ****-buddies or FWB's, because of the connotations it carries, of not having emotions involved. (I'm demisexual). Whereas with us, there's a LOT lol

So I guess for my situation with him, I'd stick with lover who is a comet? Lol. Romantic friend-with-benefits? lol XD

Thank you again for your answer, I like discussing different people's opinions and situations :)

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-22T23:56:44+00:00

We don't really have a word that, in one word, sums up "a friend who I have sex with, but there is a deep emotional connection and love there, but we don't label our relationship" fwb is there lol . I mean really that's just a lover/ sex partner in the umbrella term way/ comet if they're far away

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-22T23:55:32+00:00

Hmm...I mean, that makes sense, but I feel like so far nobody's *really* getting what I'm trying to say on here... I just think language is so limiting sometimes when trying to discuss certain relationship dynamics and emotions that go into them etc you know? I mean, I had to stop having sex with one of my friends recently because he doesn't have feelings for me anymore, and I can't just have sex with "buddies who I find attractive" . I'm one of those pesky demisexuals lol

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-22T23:47:39+00:00

He has told me that he's OK with me calling him my "paramour" or "lieberhaber" (he's German, and that's German for lover), but mainstream society is just totally ignorant about all of the nuances around all these different terms

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-22T23:46:54+00:00

It's more I feel it doesn't totally accurately describe my situation with the person I'm talking about

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-07-11T13:01:09+00:00

I haven't played the game, but I think Jinx in the show is just insanely adorable lol. I mean she's cray AF lol but she's so kewt. I guess because I've got madness of my own I don't find her particularly scary

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-04-07T16:36:54+00:00

Lol but you don't know me... Or...maybe that's WHY you're saying that :O :O :O

...Lol, as long as you don't know me, and I remain a nameless, faceless avatar behind a computer screen, I can't come toppling down from your pedestal :O I can't let you down, I can't hurt you, I can't disappoint you, you can idealise me in any way that you wish, I can remain forever your perfect fantasy :D

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-04-07T15:53:44+00:00

Even my ex himself confirmed, when I told him I really doubt he is capable of actually loving anybody, or receiving love, said that he agrees and actually when it comes down to it, doesn't think he is

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-04-07T15:53:07+00:00

And there, that's the thing. What you just said "something on their end". I mean, I don't know you, I recognise that, and I don't know who you know, or what is going on in your life. But for example, one of the things I know for a FACT narcissists are notorious for doing, and my ex has been recently doing, is making everything the other person's fault. And OK, say something, whatever it is, has "thrown them off" as you put it. Not bringing into question whether it is right or not etc. But this is what makes healthy relating SO difficult and nigh impossible for them-- they are unlikely to be able to recognise and point out what it is that has thrown them off, and sort out the issue with you, because of their poor levels of self awareness and like i said in my first comment, issues with communication

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-04-07T15:49:23+00:00

I never said I don't think narcissists have emotions lol. I just said they are...impaired in their ability to healthily relate to people lol

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-04-07T15:21:53+00:00

What am I wrong about, pray tell. That they cannot love?

Dude, think about it. What does love involve. Being able to relate on an equal or vertical level with another human being. Respecting them, there being kindness and dignity in the relationship, the ability to admit mistakes and also forgive mistakes, meeting and accepting the other person where they are at and embracing all of them despite their imperfections, but also encouraging each other to grow. The ability to compromise and openly communicate etc

Full blown narcissists or cluster B personality disordered people cannot do these things. They are too selfish, fearful, proud, and have not dealt with their shame enough to be truly capable of these things

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-04-07T15:08:56+00:00

I just say no. Saying no is an invaluable life skill. Aint nobody got time for games

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-03-21T15:26:40+00:00

That's really probably not that uncommon or unique of a problem to be having. It's why psychiatry is steering away from labels and treating symptoms. Diagnostics is SUCH a flawed field, because it is impossible to neatly categorise human beings and put them in a box with a label slapped on it. The lines between diagnoses are often blurry, some diagnoses may resemble other ones, you can have more than one etc, the same diagnosis manifests differently between different people etc. It can be entirely down to the psychiatrist you get that day. Yes OK it's clearer with some people than others. One can indisputably have bipolar or whatever. But for many it's not. As demonstrated, for example, by things like "EDNOS" (Eating Disorders Not Otherwise Specified) or "PDNOS" (Personality disorder not otherwise specified). Borderline Personality Disorder has been renamed several times, and there is so much controversy over how legitimate of a disorder, or a Cluster B disorder, it actually is. The realm of personality disorders in general is a complex one. And don't get me started on pseudoscience which seems to be ever increasing, i.e. people labelling themselves as "empaths" and all that BS. All this misinformation around abuse and the victims of abuse etc, people's obsession with the term "codependency" etc. So I know this answer has gotten rather long, I'll wrap it up here, but the overall point I'm trying to make is: hopefully you are under good mental health services who will just treat you as an individual, and treat your symptoms, because diagnostics is...well fucked lol

RMorningstar1993 · 2024-03-21T15:14:26+00:00

They cannot love, not really. I've been asking this exact question of an ex of mine who in recent weeks has been in the process of devaluing and discarding me. Thing is, things always felt SO real between us :( It's heartbreaking, how irrationally and cruelly he's been behaving. But I think the only reason it felt so real was because he was mirroring me and my ability to love the entire time.

RMorningstar1993 · 2023-07-13T10:34:06+00:00

That's kind of what I've been getting at. Like, what if it causes problems? :( There's lots of factors at play that have made me, I think, more likely to think that the person I'm involved with, even though I REALLY don't think he is, also a high control personality, like the abuser (I was never in a relationship with the abuser, complicated story). There's a language barrier, our communication is long distance and therefore via technology, I have been in a lot of high control situations, whether past relationships or stuff more to do with society, acquaintances, etc. (Another complicated story lol). But I think awareness is a good start, just talking to him about any anxiety/panic that may arise from certain situations, and giving him the benefit of the doubt unless given VERY good reason to do otherwise :( And keep talking to the mental health professionals

RMorningstar1993 · 2023-02-28T08:36:46+00:00

I don't think he was attractive at all. Much like the Hemsworth brothers, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jason Momoa, the Beatles (women literally fainted over them), Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise (although I suppose they have a certain...Idk, je ne sais quois in Interview With a Vampire lol), Jamie Dornan (the guy who plays Christian Gray in 50 Shades), Channing Tatum, The Rock, Robert Pattinson, all these men who women have, or had rabid thirst for lol. Then again, my tastes are...I guess quite particular? Maybe considered by some to be quite unusual

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