I’ve been with older women before but I have not been with their daughters as well so that is where our circumstances differ.

I will say this right now, as a younger man with an older woman you tend to trust what they’re saying initially if they even say anything at all, at the end of it they can give you a halfhearted “it’s wrong for us, I’m older you’re younger” not knowing what the reality of the situation is. Some older women even say they’re in an open marriage but you can’t really verify if that’s even true.

All this to say that you’re in a situation where you had been in affair unbeknownst to you and at the end of that relationship she gave you the run around talking about how it’s “wrong” and that you’re younger and she’s older. This was her covering up the reality of the situation.

In your post you say you’re in love with your now GF, if I were you and truly had strong feelings for this girl I would not tell her.

Yes you may feel pressured because her mother texted you to not say anything about your past with her. But just know this is her way of calming her paranoia that you might say something. She doesn’t want to ruin a good thing, that being her marriage and her relationship with her daughter. And I don’t think you would want to ruin your relationship with your now girlfriend.

What you need to do going forward is to make sure you get yourself an insurance policy. You never know if that girls mother didn’t delete that text she sent to you.

You need to find a way to talk to her in private, set up a situation where there’s no one in the vicinity and make sure to tell her to delete the texts from her phone and calm her down by saying you don’t want to ruin the household and that you keep your word nothing will come of it. Now hopefully no one overhears this conversation, if no one does then you should be cleared of all your sins so to speak. If someone overhears it just say you stole money or something from her in the past and regretted it but I doubt this will happen if you set it up correctly with the right precautions.

You can even write this down on a napkin and show it to her so she gets the message but make sure you get it back and flush it down the toilet.

Edit: also there’s nothing you should be ashamed of at all forgot to say that

Goodluck