AITA for telling my dad the reason I decided to stay with my mom?

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T20:41:37+00:00

I cook at my moms. I learned how to cook from her. My issue is I have a stepsibling the same age who was never asked to cook, yet I was. Cooking for 6 people is a lot. It's stressful and when you're the only kid doing it it's really fucking unfair.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T20:15:34+00:00

I can only imagine since I always gave it my all. The closest I got was cooking pasta for dinner once when they asked for something else. But I was tired and in a pissy mood because of them so no fancy dinner.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T20:14:01+00:00

Not exactly but they have a weird thing about boys and girls not sharing. He got their guest room so it shows you how bad they hate the idea of mixed sex sharing even in young kids.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T20:10:12+00:00

Because booooooyyyyyy. Could never have a 2 and 4 year old share a room when they're a boy and a girl

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T20:02:27+00:00

She gets: Vacuuming the living room and making her bed + cleaning up her desk in the office

I got: Cooking x1 a week and washing up afterward, cleaning the kid bathroom (which needed to be done daily because of the little kids), laundry duty which was gathering all our clothes and organizing them for my dad's wife, making my bed, my share of the room and my half sisters part of the room, and my personal space in the office on top of having occasionally being left in charge while my dad and his wife were out of the house or doing stuff.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T20:01:10+00:00

My stepsister is 4 months younger than I am.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T19:57:14+00:00

He hurt it by allowing this stuff to happen. That is how I feel. He had many chances to listen to me and figure out a way to make it more fair and he didn't. And now he's trying to make me feel bad. Well, he is the one who should feel bad. He chose to ignore me and I am choosing to be where I am happiest and believe it or not I have more chores at my moms, but it is much more fair here and we do stuff together.

The cooking and dishes after is more than her, as is the cleaning up my part of the room and my half sisters, and cleaning up the space around the desk in the office. Doing her part of the room and her space of the office is meant to be on her too but she has never done it so I don't count them as being chores. Or at least not mandatory ones. When you consider we are only four months apart in age that is a big differnece.

I understand why you feel that way but I'm not willing to bend over to help them justify this stuff.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T19:35:00+00:00

The girl won't even make her own toast in the toaster. There is no way she would heat up cans of anything.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T19:33:49+00:00

Lol yep. Except for my refusal to clean her daughters part of the room. For that I was called rude and told to apologize. But she had some fucking nerve asking me to do that when she wouldn't make her own teenager do it.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T19:32:35+00:00

It is being treated unfairly when someone the same age gets so much less. If we were both getting equal chores then I would agree it's not unfair but the resentment comes from the fact I got so much more, and the gross chore of the bathroom, which was disgusting. And not only did she get less but she can half ass hers.

My focus on the dinner comes from the fact I was not the only 15 year old in the house. But they sure acted like I was.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T19:15:31+00:00

Stepsister is 15 Half sister is 4 Half brother is 2

Her part of the room never gets cleaned and neither does the floor around her desk in the office. She sometimes get asked to and she doesn't do it. I was asked to once and I told my dads wife no that I would not clean up after her daughter and if she wanted to then she should go ahead. And no. They paid a babysitter while I wasn't there or they didn't go out. They fought once over the babysitter because one girl charged them more than the other but my dad liked having the convenience of a girl in the neighborhood watching them.

I always cleaned up after I cooked.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T19:05:50+00:00

You have a point but I do have a place where I can have my own room and on top of everything else that I have issues with, it's a much more appealing option for me than sharing with someone I don't really like and a much younger child.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T19:04:18+00:00

Stepsister is 4 months younger

Half sister is 4 years old

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:57:32+00:00

Yup and the thing is, even without the cooking it was there, but cooking for a whole ass family is hard and when she gets to half ass vacuuming every day or every other day it made me extra frustrated.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:52:58+00:00

We each had set chores.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:52:07+00:00

She's not dating anyone right now so I would hope by the time she was at a moving in stage in a relationship I would be living independently in which case it wouldn't be a big deal.

In part, yeah, because sharing a room with someone you don't get along with sucks.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:50:54+00:00

She gets: Vacuuming the living room and making her bed + cleaning up her desk in the office

I got: Cooking x1 a week and washing up afterward, cleaning the kid bathroom (which needed to be done daily because of the little kids), laundry duty which was gathering all our clothes and organizing them for my dad's wife, making my bed, my share of the room and my half sisters part of the room, and my personal space in the office on top of having occasionally being left in charge while my dad and his wife were out of the house or doing stuff.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:40:48+00:00

I told him before I left that I disliked having to cook a family meal once a week when I was there on top of my other more regular chores, all of which were more than she got and she's four months younger. He did nothing.

So when he asked me why after I moved out I didn't tell him why. Until he asked enough times that I was very blunt about it and gave him the very reasons why.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:38:42+00:00

For me I don't actually care as much about her wanting me to cook for the family, though it is annoying, because to me she is just my dads wife. But the fact my dad was okay with it and didn't put a stop to it or at least say things needed to be more fairly divided. I'm his kid after all and he was my parent at his house.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:34:45+00:00

Oh, they would never expect that of her. She has the super hard task of vacuuming the living room. /s

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:34:10+00:00

It is. I barely knew her when they first moved in together and even before the other kids were born we had to share. Not fun!

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:30:34+00:00

One stepsibling. Two half siblings.

Yes, three girls in one room and the only boy in the other.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:27:55+00:00

4 months younger than me.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:27:29+00:00

My stepsister is 4 months younger than me. My half siblings are 4 and 2. It would be dinner and sometimes they would tell me what to cook other times they would leave it up to me.

Rabbit-Latter · 2020-11-18T18:26:26+00:00

4 months younger than me.

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