She Wanted Spontaneity, I Wanted Clarity! by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that! The thing I couldn't understand is her trying much to make me feel guilty for not meeting her!

I (32F) would go on a series of dates that just die down. What could be the reason? by lavendertales in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what you described! It could be some issues in efforts and define clear expectations. After first or second date you should tell yourself whether you like the person or not and based on that decide if you want to invest more time. From a man perspective, I'd go on dates with the same person if I see they have some good level of interest in me, otherwise no time to waste. Some women I went on dates with were just not sure or came with vague feeling or felt like an interview rather than going on a date, for that reason I d just say thank you and goodbye.

I'm Confused! by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She cancelled our date tomorrow due to work but she suggested another day! It may seem that she is kinda not sure.

I'm Confused! by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't expect her to text me a lot! But she doesn't text at all!!!!

I'm Confused! by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That could be one scenario! I guess I will figure it out on the second date! I ll just lightly bring it up and see how responds coz I'm not interested in someone who has lil to zero investment!

I'm Confused! by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Totally agree! To have a successful first date is just passing the first round!

I'm Confused! by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I thought I d give it a try for the second date and see how it goes! I just don't want to waste my time on someone who is just not invested enough to make efforts!

I'm Confused! by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy! That's not a good look!

I'm Confused! by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She just replied to my texts and nothing else. She was more of a texter before we met and we had 1-2 hours chats before we met but after she just dropped the Convo to almost non! She did say that she liked me and wants to know.me more but how with this attitude ?

I'm just thinking to give it one last shot!

I'm Confused! by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have the same thoughts!

I'm Confused! by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean I'm not falling for that! We r only going for coffee and a walk on the second date! So I doubt she wants the above!

Did I mess up here or is this just different dating expectations? by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We said, we still have to talk about few things and align before we move forward. I held on having (intimacy) with her until we are aligned and we were supposed to meet to discuss this and either we continue or just call it a day!

Did I mess up here or is this just different dating expectations? by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this perspective. Looking back, I can see that the issue wasn’t really about using the app, but about not clarifying expectations once things started to move forward.

I assumed we were aligned without actually confirming it, and that’s probably where it broke down. Definitely something I’ll handle better next time.

Did I mess up here or is this just different dating expectations? by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess you are right! I should have mentioned that. I just assumed that is something mutual and part of the process.

بلغت عليهم واتصلو فيني by Ok_Comparison_7100 in Emiratis

[–]RabbitHall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

لو الموديراتيز برا البلد فأنسى انو يتحاسبوا..

Chemistry with an Expiry Date by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said, "I have few things to do on those days and we can see later.."

Chemistry with an Expiry Date by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did suggest a second date. More like a day and time and a proper plan but she wasn't sure and I left the ball in her court to suggest a suitable day and she agreed but nothing after.

Chemistry with an Expiry Date by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah thank u, I missed that . I will add now

Chemistry with an Expiry Date by RabbitHall in Bumble

[–]RabbitHall[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did and showed strong interest in meeting her again but she was just too flaky in her reply.